perpetual want

There's a very particular brand of TikTok feminism (?), where pop media studies are applied to the behaviors and expressions of real life women to suggest they have "written by a man" energy. The "cool girl," the "pick me," etc. These women will, I don't know, listen to indie music or drink beer, which is taken as them trying to be "one of the guys." I'm not interested in any two wrongs make a right mentality, but compare this to the feminist (?) "bimbo" revival and discourse that hyper-femininity must be some kind of subversive 4D chess that could never be "for men." Why is one accusation of "doing it for men" okay but the other isn't, especially when the one that's okay punishes even the tamest deviation from femininity? Followup question: when will the internet collectively move on from "cat eye sharp enough to kill a man" thinking?

“Pick-me” is not “pop media studies”, it is a way for black women to name & discuss misogynoir & the violence attached to it as its perpetuated by other black women. It is not like “written by a man” or “cool girl”, it was about real life women from the jump. And it’s misuse by nonblack women is not like it is for these other terms either- the problem isn’t it being applied to real women, it’s that it’s being appropriated & removed from the context of antiblackness.

the exaggerated threat of “not like other girls” circling back to just vilifying women who don’t conform to femininity. but this time it’s #feminist to ridicule them bc they’re the real misogynists for not liking makeup and pink

am going to be thinking “lindt chocolate beast” on a loop for the next 5-10 business days