Come What May

i'm slowly forgetting your face

“I wish someone would see through it when I tell people I’m fine-” Well, but have YOU considered not lying when people ask you how you’re doing?

“I am so resentful of my friend because they keep doing this thing that really bothers me-” Well, but have YOU directly communicated that the thing is bothering you?

“I am burning out because my friend keeps expecting me to help them with serious struggles-” Well, but have YOU tried to establish the boundaries you need to feel okay?

“No one ever asks me about this thing I really care about-” Well, but have YOU brought it up yourself?

“I miss my friend but they haven’t texted me-” Well, but have YOU been reaching out to them?

Being cared for is not a fantasy. But you have to let people know you need it. And you have to understand that sometimes they will let you down. Just like you totally could live in a cute farm, but you still have to shovel shit, and the crops sometimes die anyway. Or maybe you win the lottery, but you still have to manage your money and learn real estate law.

owning or god forbid using tote bags is performative, apparently, so that's another strike against me. enjoying matcha is bad for reasons that are lost on me since I'm not a coffee or tea guy, but I assume that if you are then the nature of matcha sins is probably totally rational. making playlists is bad, taking photos is bad, somehow even decorating your house with the photos you've taken is apparently bad. having a labubu also is suspect, and while I do agree broadly with criticism of overproduced and overpriced fad items that are inevitable landfill fodder and operate as a shadowy gambling system that's a solidly gender neutral criticism, whereas the issue here seems to be that a man engaging in an act of silliness is innately suspect.

it's really giving this tweet if I'm being honest

Accept that exercise needs to be a non-negotiable part of your life.

Eat sufficient protein at every meal. Not because it’s currently a buzzword, but because you should have always been doing that and need to keep it up even when a new food group inevitably trends.

Walk whenever you can. Calls, errands, waiting, etc.

You deserve proper rest even if you didn’t get everything done.

Keep healthy staples on autopilot and easily accessible. Things that don’t need to be cooked, 5 minute meals, snacks you can toss in your bag, etc.

Water before and after caffeine.

Ten minutes of movement beats zero.

Batch cook once, eat well all week. If not full meals then whatever key ingredients you can.

Protect your mornings from chaos. Let them be as absolutely slow as your responsibilities allow it to be.

Train for health, strength, and longevity as your top priority. You don’t have to strive for a specific visual outcome.

Stretch, even if it’s while you wait for your pot of water to boil or are letting the bathtub fill up.

Limit liquid calories.

Create a simple, repeatable routine.

Book checkups before there’s a problem.

The wands, marked by a red curtain. This is 8 of Wands: things seem to be going well for Christine and Raoul, for at least a little while...