I really don't know

Their mother picked up after them. They were not required to take plates the kitchen or do the dishes or anything like that.

My mother, who would tell you she is for equality, came home one day, sighed at the mess of dirty dishes scattered about, and said, "Gayle, help me pick up."

"Those aren't my dishes," I said. "I picked up my dishes."

My mother sighed again. "Just help me pick up."

"No," I said again. "I didn't make that fucking mess."

She never approached my brothers and said, "Boys, in this house, you take your dishes to the kitchen." She did not tell our dad, "Hey, tell the boys they need to pick up after themselves."

It was, "Gayle, pick up the dishes."

And when I refused because it was not my fucking mess, I got lectured about being difficult.

See also: My brothers--in a classic dick-move of all siblings--figured out they could pop the lock on the bathroom door and throw it open, and I would freak out because I was in the shower and trying to get five fucking minutes of peace.

My husband had been on his own since he was 16. He knows how to keep house, and doesn't complain. He will tell any and all if his friends to clean up after themselves when they hangout. In fact, he has barred some of them from ever entering our home again because they're such slobs. He spent less than an hour at this one guy's place, and left because he was so disgusted. Dude was in his 30s, couldn't keep a girlfriend because as soon as they entered his apartment, they saw the filth. His mother visited him every Sunday, cleaned his apartment, did his laundry, brought groceries, cooked a week's worth of meals, and never asked him to help. Never taught him how to do any of the basics. Dude complained about women being too proud and said that's why he's single. He stopped talking to us (no loss here) whem i pointed out the common denomenator with all these failed relationships was him, and each of them had given him thr same reasoning: he's gross.

I remember all of us having assigned chores. Originally, it was on rotation. Then my parents divorced because it turns out when you leave a religion (mormonism) you don't neccessarily stay compatible.

Problem: every one in my immediate family is autistic except *maybe* my mom (who has come to terms with her ADHD recently) and of her kids have the specific autistic traits that make us bad at cleaning: trash blindness, cleaning takes extra spoons, out of sight out of mind, etc. We're all slobs and it has caused *much* drama both inside and out of the family my entire life. We're all literally disabled in this specific way.

We've all found our own ways to cope. And while my brother isn't the *only* one who Shifts Blame and just Doesn't Do It (If my siblings were stubborn enough my single mom would end asking me to do them because I'm less stubborn.) I don't think being a man has helped. Because it's kinda expected, despite his wife being the home maker and being under constant pressure from all the fucking dishes. (Dishes where my *assigned* chore growing up because they'd get disgusting the fastest. All my siblings have less practice. I now exclusively use paper plates so the dishes can never be my fault.)

Anyway, tricks I've learned to be cleaner: use your surfaces for activities. If you can't use them for said activities you then *have* to clean them. At least enough. The afore mentioned paper plates don't generally work for cooking. If you're cooking for yourself, have like... one pot that you must clean twice a day. If that doesn't work: do not leave the kitchen. As soon as everyone is served, put the rest into Tupperware and wash the dish while everything is easily cleanable. Only wear 1-2 bags worth of laundry. When you run out: time to clean.

I like really complicated identity reveals can you tell. Write what you want.

For those who are confused, the genre is based on Otome Games (reverse harem dating sims) which are tropetastic already. There is typically a route where The Prince's Fiance bullies the heroine at magic high-school and when they have enough evidence there's a huge reveal of how evil she is and she gets her comeuppance.

All Routes Lead to Doom decided "what if reincarnated into villainess?" Made a co-ed harem and now we get at least one villainess anime per season. A rather common subversion is that the Villainess is being Framed, but the she *still* has to deal with the propaganda. To the point where "may I ask one final thing" subvert it with extreme violence.

1) Figured this out.