sergeant appleton's lonely hearts art blog

You have to let people love you. You have to let people get to know you. You have to let people help you. Being so completely selfless that you try to erase yourself off the face of the planet and never ask for anything and reject everybody's offers of support makes you very hard to love! Unfortunately. Emptying yourself out of everything that makes you, you is not actually what your loved ones want from you, generally. They want to make you happy! They will be so so sad if you don't give them the chance. It's not all selfish. I promise.

Oh god oh no people are reblogging this again without the context that it's speaking back against the Christian teaching that love is abnegation and that true love means emptying yourself of your own desires, suffering, and submitting yourself to death, even death on a cross.