Catch you later

Daenerys is a good ally to have because she has two fire-breathing dragons. They will be useful in battling wights and wight Viserion, no one denies that.

However,

there’s a difference between alliances and aid that is dependent upon the subjugation of a people.

Lyanna, Sansa, and the rest of the North are entitled to their, for lack of a better word, resentment towards Jon. The Unsullied and Dothraki chose to follow Daenerys. The North never chose Dany. They chose Jon as their King, not Dany. And it is clear from episode one that the North will not willingly or happily bend the knee to her. It is also clear that Daenerys will use her aid as leverage against any who dissent against her rule.

“She doesn’t need to be my friend but I am her queen. If she can’t respect me…”

There is an implied threat here. Dany is saying, “If I do not receive the respect I am owed/deserve there will be consequences.” The only consequences she can deal out are death by dragonfire or death by retracting her aid. She has already stated she has no interest in hostages or sending men to the (now non-existent) Wall. Either way, Dany is threatening anyone who doesn’t unconditionally accept her rule.

Subjugate: to bring under complete control or subjection; conquer; master.

Dany wants to govern a people who do not want and did not choose her as their ruler but need her aid in order to survive; this is subjugation. It is subjugation because Dany has shown that there are only two options: bend the knee or die.

People ask: “Why doesn’t the North understand that titles don’t matter because only the Great War matters, so why can’t they just accept Dany as their new queen?”

Perhaps they should also ask:

Why is Dany, a self-proclaimed savior of the helpless, so fixated on knee-bending when the end of the world is near?