Squirrel Supreme

one views any engagement with your assigned gender at birth as like, being trapped in a prison of your own making,? as using the tools of the enemy or whatever. and the other is "yes my assigned gender is a prison, it is a prison the outside world is constantly enforcing on me and i would like to be able to talk about that a little thanks"

so you get this tension, where one side (made up of predominantly people who aren't trans women) says "the ideal world is one in which you can be whatever the fuck you want forever! so call yourself anything you want as long as it makes you happy, you can be an afab trans woman if you want it's all made up :)" and the other side says "hey hi yes i broadly agree with you on the whole ultimate gender liberation front, but we do not live in an ideal world and transfemininity is uniquely demonized even as far as trans identities in general go, so i would appreciate it if maybe you didn't act like our identity and oppression was something made up that you could just put on and take off whenever you like? we sure as fuck can't do that."

and then the other side goes "hey all these trans women are invalidating us! why are they gatekeeping and being so exclusive! assigned gender at birth shouldn't matter so why are you acting like it does!?"

and they say this while we live in a society where your assigned gender at birth very much does matter, and if you're a trans woman it is borderline impossible to escape that.

it's like an is-ought problem where since we're not acting like we already live in a gender utopia where one's relationship with assigned sex and gender is completely arbitrary, we're treated like the enforcers of the gender binary.

(Art by my wife, @juniepops )

My birthday is coming around once again! I'll be turning 31 on the 12th!!

Most of my paycheck is going to bills, so it would be lovely if I could get a little cash to cover some new clothes, cover my estrogen, and maybe even go out for a little birthday dinner! (Ven @ vanyasgd // Capp $VanyaSGD // Paypl)

If you wanna do some art or something, my sona's ref is here, and my other girlies are here and here.

hi hiiii it's j again .. thank you to everyone that's helped keep me afloat over these last few months,, it's been! rough! on a lot of fronts! but we're pushing through.

my partner got us a house and we'll be moving over this next month! thankfully our first big house payment won't be until the beginning of august, but moving is an expensive endeavor, i still have utility bills to pay, and i need to eat :')

any and all help is appreciated, even if it's just a reblog 💕

v: @jmaeveb

c: $jmaeveb

im moving soon to what should be a much better situation, my cars radiator needs replacing, i need to get back into my storage unit, and i need money for food to eat and gas for the move

the money would go to: car repairs ($600), storage unit ($150), and food and gas

i really appreciate you even reading this

im really worried about how things are going and these past 6 months have been really scary and i think moving will be the first step in getting my feet back under me

if you can share this post i would be extremely grateful

if you can donate any amount, i would be eternally grateful and i would be in your debt forever

thank you for reading, thank you for sharing

if you want nudie pics or a lame drawing or painting, im unskilled but i can try and i would do whatever’s necessary to get my life on track

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