abbie mills deserved better

I would actually go as far as to say that MOST abuse is unintentional. I think most people will go through their lives without ever experiencing intentional abuse. People are abusive because they're selfish, because they're stressed, because they care more about what society thinks they should do than the impacts of their actions on their children and partners, because they think what they're doing is correct, because they've made it make sense in their own heads, because they think they can fix their victims, they think they can fix their relationships, they think they can stop you from leaving, they think they can make you a better partner to them, they think that means you need to do what they want. We've sort of constructed mental illness in a way that doing this shit to other people counts as a form of mental illness because it is anti social behavior in the literal sense— it is behavior that causes social harm.

I must admit, I do get extremely irritated at how strong people will defend white racists of their actions on here (usually shielding behind other marginalization) and throw out words like "harassment" and "digital lynching" and will try to gaslight users of color into thinking that we just... Didn't see what happened. That we don't understand racism when we experience it.

Bc ain't no way I've experienced the range of directed racism on here, damn near every two days this year on this app, and I gotta sit here and listen to how someone being racist is actually the True Victim. That people who spend all their time la di da happy and unbothered and surrounded by fellow racists and/or complicit yet ignorant bystanders... Experienced having thet racism called out and suddenly THEY are "harassed".