You Know I Bite The Way I Bark

It is not.

Mrs. Bennet sucks too.

The most recent example that a few people have added:

She is not hauling ass. (And poverty is an exaggeration, they'll have £250/year.)

She is screaming "The house is on fire!" while she herself pours more gasoline on it and does not call the fire department even though the cell phone is in her hand.

She says she wants her girls to get married. What effort has she contributed to this goal? Let's review.

❌ She has done nothing to raise her girls to have good manners, accomplishments, or education that would attract good men.

❌ She has done nothing to save money for her girls, again to either attract husbands or protect them if they never marry. (And they were rich, saving would have been very easy, but she and her husband were too selfish and lazy to do it.)

✅ She buys her girls dresses and ⚠️takes them to parties. That is literally it. The only thing she does to help them, and she does it so poorly that she actually makes things worse for them with her poor manners and management of her younger girls.

This isn't even getting into how abysmally she does as a mother in terms of loving, understanding, supporting, and guiding her children in aspects of their lives outside getting married...

She hurts her girls just as much as her husband, just in somewhat different ways.

TL;DR:

"They blame immigrants so you won't blame billionaires" sticker

this behavior is nothing new. the global south and everything in it - the people, the culture, our heritage - is seen as nothing more than a decoration or commodity to colonizers. i don't even need to bring up the koh i noor or the entire british museum; these examples are recent and egregious enough on their own.

I think part of what is making young people lonelier, in discussing why they're increasingly isolated, is that they're so afraid of meeting someone who doesn't hold their same beliefs, and instead of being just core beliefs it is kinda ancillary shit.

It's actually okay to disagree even on social topics! Even on some political ones! But I mean, online you can start with "i love this mutual but they have a really bad/uninformed opinion about x media"

I know this is IMMEDIATELY going to be taken in bad faith, and yes babygirl, you are so right, I DO want you to go make best friends with both the KKK grand wizard AND your nearest nazi leader.

But seriously, as someone who has spent two decades doing community organization: finding ways to connect with different people is so so so important. There are people i follow here who ate 80% smart and their brain falls out of their head 20% of the time and that is GOOD FOR MY MENTAL ECOSYSTEM AND GOOD FOR LEARNING HOW TO BE A PERSON