Itâs Monday. Iâm going home at 6pm and a middle aged man and a teenage boy are the only people left on the bus with me. I consider the fact that because the driver is also a man I am the only person left on the bus with the correct genetic makeup for boobs. Iâm automatically scared, scared because of my own anatomy. I wonder how old I was when I realized that my own body was going to be the cause of the constant anxiety and fear I feel in situations like this. I get off at the last stop and the older man smiles at me while following me up the street. His smile drips, drips, drips and my heart is pounding, pounding, pounding. He turns off down another road, but I run the rest of the way home.
Not all men.
Iâm at home on a Tuesday, beginning to plan the travels I want to go on next year. I dream of wandering the streets and meeting strangers. I just canât wait to escape the city Iâve lived in for 17 long years. But⌠my mum is hesitant. Sheâs forever worried about the danger that being a young girl traveling alone can bring. Iâll be alone and sheâs scared. Surely Iâm invincible. I feel invincible. But I know, I know this danger is real and I canât help but think to myself, if I feel unsafe in my own city, how am i going to feel in a strange place with strange men who donât speak the same language as me? If I was my brother planning this, I would probably just be wondering if European girls are going to be hot.
Not all men.
Wednesday is a beautiful sunny day but Iâve always been told that I donât have a ânice enough bodyâ to wear a bikini on the beach. Ever since I was 6 years old Iâve thought that having tummy fat was ugly. That skin that doesnât have a perfectly golden glow is undesirable. I amble to a clear patch of sand in my one piece and I can feel pairs of eyes latching onto me. Hairy men in speedos who I donât look twice at eat into my body with their stares. Iâm a piece of meat. I am a piece of meat? I am here for their amusement. Please donât let me be eaten alive.
Not all men.
Thursday night two friends and I are walking to our god damn school dance when we hear âJesus look at you! You sluts heading to a pole?â These words snarl out of the mouth of a respectably dressed man and we stop in horror. Shivers roll up my back in fear. Itâs dark. We are alone. What. Do. We. Do??? One of us pulls the finger back. I can never be sure how quickly a sexist man can get angry so we walk quickly away. Weâre angry, so so angry. But also so⌠deflated. I wonder if we deserve this shame.
Not all men.
Sitting on the internet, Friday night and scrolling down my Facebook newsfeed:
âHaha, good job at the game today bro. You RAPED them!â
âDamn with tits like that, youâre asking for it :Pâ
Another sexist commentâŚ
Another sexist commentâŚ
Another sexist commentâŚ
Iâm shrinking and shrinking and shrinking and I want to CRY because these boys donât realize how small they make me feel with just pressing a few keys. I see these boys on the streets, I talk to these boys, I laugh with these boys. Dear GOD, dear GOD i hope these boys donât think actions speak louder than wordsâŚ
Not all men.
Three rules that have been drilled into me since I was young run through my mind at 1.30am on a Satur⌠Sunday Morning:
-Donât ever talk to strange men
-Donât ever be alone at night in a strange place
-Donât ever get into a car with a stranger
I break all 3 of these laws as I pull open the taxi door. Making light conversation with the driver, he doesnât see my sweaty hand clutching the small pocket knife I keep hidden on me at all times. He doesnât even realize the fear I feel at his mere presence. He cannot comprehend it, he never will. How easy would this 15 minute car ride be if I was born a boy?
Not all men.
It comes to Sunday, another snoozy, sleepy, Sunday and someone has the AUDACITY to tell me not all men are rapists. I say nothing.
Iâm a 17 year old girl.
When I am walking alone and itâs dark, itâs all men.
When I am in a car with a man I donât know well, itâs all men.
When men drunkenly leer at me on the streets, itâs all men.
When a boy wonât leave me alone at a party, itâs all men.
Not all men are rapists. But for a young girl like me? Every one of them has the potential to be.
Not.
All.
Men.
a piece i wrote for an english assignment about my personal experiences with rape culture, in particular with the saying ânot all menâ which i know has been makin a lot of controversy on the internet recently! idk just wanted to share (via trueho)
