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victim’s point of view of what happened is the only version that matters.

“If someone says you hurt them, you don’t get to decide you didn’t.”

you don’t have to prove that someone is abusive in order to cut them out of your life, if they’re wasting your time and energy, draining you, making you feel miserable, putting way less effort in communicating than you are, blocking your thoughts and opinions, triggering you, making you cry, causing you pain, making you feel awful about yourself - you can cut them off with no further reason needed “I need different things in life right now” is a reason enough.

Fuck abusive and emotionally manipulative friends Fuck them for making you feel like shit for everything you do Fuck them for making it seem like they’re the victim Fuck them for twisting up every single situation so it seems you’re the one to blame And fuck them for using your own weaknesses against you, because you trusted them with all your secrets and worries

Friendships can be abusive. It took me a long time to realize that a friend can manipulate you, emotionally abuse you, gaslight you, and that the effects of that trauma can last for years after the friendship ends. Abuse also knows no distance; one of the most damaging friendships I ever had had thousands of miles between us. We haven’t spoken in years and I’m only recently discovering the depths to which that friendship has affected me to this day. I didn’t even want to admit the fact that it was abusive in nature even though she’s not in my life anymore because her hold on me is still present, and because I didn’t think friendships could be classified as abusive relationships. But they absolutely can be. Please be careful and take of yourselves and if you think a friend is crossing a line, please reach out.

jin stans are so easy to please. give them one photo of jin making bedroom eyes or saying some dumb shit and theyre over the moon its such a nice life