The heart of D/s:
It's been said that it's not the lock that holds the submissive in bondage, but the fact that she doesn't want the key.
Of all the false or in-your-face D/s imagery we are inundated with on Tumblr there are almost none that capture the authentic heart of what D/s truly is better than these.
The simplicity of this captured moment; the understated yet profound symbolism goes completely unnoticed to the uninitiated eye.Β
D/s is an art of the finest subtleties. While yes, the first thing that draws the attention of the viewer is the chain and clasp extending from the Dominant's hand, yet that is arguably the least important part of the symbolism!Β
The most profound symbol is found in the ribbon.
The ribbon though visually unremarkable, symbolizes consent. And in the deepest way imaginable. For without it, there can be no dynamic. It is a very fragile bond. It is not an iron shackle. ...But a mere tied ribbon.Β
Gentle upon her flesh, symbolizing His care for her safety and well-being is always first and foremost a priority in His dominance.
Tied loosely and gently so that if she so chooses, she may untie or simply pull and break free of it. This shows her she is safe.This is the meaning behind the saying: "Always leave the cage door open, so the bird can return."
The Dom is her sanctuary, not her prison. Likewise is His structure, guidance, and bondage. There is another a saying: "Through surrender, I am free."Β
This freedom cannot be achieved without the structure of the Dominant being properly administered.Β The ribbon's delicacy ensures the deepest of connection. The submissive awaits the subtle tug of a gentle and guiding Dominant heart for direction. And the Dominant administers this subtle tug without breaking the bond. For when there is a heavy handed yank by the Dominant, or a rebellious defiant jerk by the submissive- a clashing of battling wills, There is a loss of faith. A loss of trust. A loss of connection. And the bond will be broken.
Thus, all that is necessary is the subtle and gentle. And indeed, without the subtle and gentle, there can be no dynamic. It truly is the little things that mean the most. And in this, the most will be achieved.
In this, she knows she is safe.
In this, she can finally surrender.
In this, she can finally submit.
And in this, she knows she is finally free.
It warms my heart to see this is still making the rounds.
