Not everyone can recover 🙍 do you have BPD or BPD traits?
If you delve into the psych papers on BPD, only 46% of us achieve good psychosocial functioning.
DBT is the main medically-studied therapy with proven results; even then, it can cost anywhere from 12-45k a year ($250 a session) and requires specialized therapists, a therapy team, and a group component. It takes 2 years of focused effort at a minimum, typically multiple sessions per week. Many people don't complete their programs because of cost.
Furthermore, people with BPD have an arduous recovery. When stressed, they decompensate and can even lose all therapeutic progress. Dr. Elinor Greenberg calls BPD recovery "difficult, painful, glacial, and full of frequent regressions."
Going further, DBT is only really proven to reduce suicidality and impulsivity. Other traits, like painful mood swings and chronic feelings of emptiness, are life long and can't be changed. Only endured -- and maybe reacted to more appropriately -- unless you're stressed.
Also, not everyone can recover even with DBT. Factors like previous jobs held, extraversion, and neurosis are taken into account: if you're already on the worse side of the spectrum, DBT may not be as effective, if you can even access it.
Many people with BPD die alone because we lack social flexibility.
We're more susceptible to chronic physical illnesses.
But saying that "you have a bad mindset" does literally fuck all for anyone. I would've long-willed myself out of having BPD if I could. My bookshelves are full of self-help books I bought before dx.
People cope in different ways.
Vent blogs...are there to vent.
Finally, it's pretty fucking awful to accuse people of having a victim mentality when "feelings of persecution" is literally a symptom of Discouraged Borderline. 🙍
I'm glad YOU were able to recover and turn it into a thing you overcame, though!
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