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Aux Femmes D'Amerique Les Femmes de France (at Meridian Hill Park)

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so long, tumblr
Yesterday tumblr deleted the long-running Ask Coquette tumblog, which was one of the only reasons I joined tumblr in the first place.
They say it was her third DMCA takedown notice that did it. They also say that they tried to get her to go through the counter-notification process on her previous two strikes & she declined.
Maybe thatâs true. Maybe it isnât.Â
But whatâs irrefutably true is that those posts are gone, and with relatively little warning.
As far as I know, I never post copyrighted material that would trigger a DMCA takedown notice. But DMCA takedown notices are abused ALL THE TIME by people with their own weird agendas.
Although Iâm not really posting anything here that is going to need to be archived in perpetuity, I nevertheless would prefer to have a little bit more control over the fate of my writing.
So: look for me at http://blog.rossgrady.org
Office Art (#7 in a series -- yes it's 9 feet wide) #officeart (at IBM RTP 500 Campus)
Someone is sad because a work conference is on the same night as Yo La Tengo (at Geer Street Garden)
The Abstract Expressionist Bricks (at Liberty Warehouse Nos. 1 and 2)

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June 10-12, 2015
The other day I finished Paolo Bacigalupiâs new one, The Water Knife. Itâs excellent, a noir set in the blazing desert heat of Las Vegas & Phoenix a decade or three into our future, when Southwestern drought is a permanent condition, and city-states & corporate actors are at low-grade guerilla war with each other over water, and the right to use it.
This is Bacigalupiâs first âadultâ novel since his debut, The Windup Girl. While I liked some of his YA stuff quite a bit, Iâm thrilled to see him writing for adult audiences again. In tone (and some of its content), this reminds me a bit of Richard K Morganâs Takeshi Kovacs novels, which is a very good thing.
Given that it was 80 degrees when I went downstairs at 9:00 a.m. to get the paper, and weâre looking at a high of 97 today, now is the perfect time to read this one. Oh yeah, and what was the A-1 above-the-fold headline on that paper I went to get? California Cuts Farmersâ Share of Scant Water
One running gag in the book is that most of the major players have first-edition copies of Marc Reisnerâs Cadillac Desert, but none of them seem to have actually absorbed its message. I donât think I had ever heard of it; itâs a wonderfully well-written chronicle of the greening of the American Southwest via massive irrigation projects, and how the whole system is doomed to collapse. It was published in the mid-80s. Its predictions are playing out, one after another, in California this summer.
Wednesday night we went to see Alabama Shakes & Courtney Barnett at Koka Booth Amphitheatre in Cary. Like everything else in Cary, itâs embedded in a suburban office park. But itâs actually quite lovely -- lots of trees, a big lake, nice pavilions.
Itâs still a big outdoor amphitheatre, though. $7 PBRs, asshole security personnel everywhere you look, and shitloads of utterly clueless showgoers who insist on taking lousy smartphone photos every five minutes throughout the set.
Seriously: There were long moments during Alabama Shakesâ set where my entire field of vision consisted of a solid half-dozen smartphone screens.Â
Courtney Barnett has garnered all kinds of excited accolades this year for her talking Aussie-accented indie-rock blues shtick. Itâs fun. Americans love an Australian accent. I canât imagine that Iâll want to pull out that record a year from now & listen to it, but she puts on a good show.
Alabama Shakes, on the other hand, put on a GREAT show. Theyâre touring as a nine-piece, including three backup singers, but the focus is still 100% Brittany Howard, who is infinitely more ferocious live than she even is on record. Such an amazing voice & personality.Â
I had multiple [younger radio-station] friends give me shit about going to this show. Iâm still not clear on why. Obviously theyâre a popular band -- or popular enough to play Koka Booth instead of the Cradle. (And they got popular FAST -- they played a ton of small shows in their native Alabama, but by the time they made it to the Triangle, in 2013, they were already playing Koka Booth.)
But theyâre still a bunch of scraggly dudes from small-town Alabama, fronted by a 26-year-old black woman who grew up on Bowie & Zeppelin, plays a turquoise SG and sings like one of the great soul shouters. Theyâre not some kind of prepackaged mainstream over-polished hit machine.
I dunno. Are they too âSouthern Rockâ for the kids? Or do we really still have a problem whereby any hint of mainstream popularity automatically taints an artist? No, donât answer that, I know.
Last night I poked around & realized that Metacritic has a whole set of lists, including Best Recent Additions to Amazon Instant Video. Score!Â
This only goes partway towards explaining why we wound up watching North Dallas Forty. What a fucked-up weird movie. I had never seen it, though I suppose I had been vaguely aware of it & had had it on a mental list to eventually watch.
In case youâre unfamiliar, itâs based on a semi-fictional novel, loosely based on the mid-70s Dallas Cowboys, and was one of the first works to really focus on the physical toll that football takes on the bodies of the players. Nick Nolte plays the classic talented wide receiver with a bad attitude, but neither he nor the game are romanticized in the least. Itâs all scars, concussions, messed-up joints, and painkiller cocktails washed down with breakfast beers.
Nick Nolte is brilliant. I basically canât stand football -- and this movie did nothing to change that, nor did it try -- so I had a hard time getting in touch with his characterâs seemingly genuine need to feel the momentary high of making a perfect catch. But his acting is superb.
It was shot in 1979, so the clothes are insane, and everyone smokes all the time. Or nearly all the time -- they all grudgingly stub out their cigarettes shortly before leaving the locker room to run out onto the field.
All in all, it was thoroughly fascinating.
Exciting to see this façade and building getting fixed up! (at 309 E. Chapel Hill St. Durham, NC 27701)
Oh man, are the letters coming down? I hope not. Also, does anyone know what theyâre doing to the side of the building facing the Durham hotel? Last time I walked by there were long vertical scores cut into the brick.
June 5 - 9, 2015
Friday night we struggled with our Amazon Instant Video watchlist for the standard amount of time, and then wound up watching Kick-Ass, which we had never seen. It was OK. For reasons that I cannot begin to explain, weâd narrowed it down to that or the first Pitch Perfect.Â
Hey, tiny ChloĂŤ Grace Moretz cussing like a sailor is a funny joke. As a movie it kind of struggles & ultimately limps across the finish line, but all of Nick Cageâs & CGMâs scenes, together or separate, are golden.
Saturday afternoon we went to the Carolina & saw Love & Mercy, which was utterly brilliant. Itâs a somewhat unconventional biography of Brian Wilson -- unconventional in that Brian in his 20s is played by Paul Dano, but Brian in his 40s/50s is played by John Cusack. Unconventional in that it essentially unapologetically skips the 70s and most of the 80s, and leaps back & forth in time a lot.
Itâs not straight biography by any means -- it essentially stops shortly after âGood Vibrationsâ and doesnât pick up again until Brian meets Melinda Ledbetter sometime in the late 80s. But it does a remarkable job of capturing the chaos that Brianâs mental state was apparently in during the period of his great musical breakthroughs of the mid-60s, and the utterly oppressive nature of his relationship with Gene Landy in the late 80s.
And the extensive set pieces involving the writing & recording of Pet Sounds are just amazing. They went out of their way to cast the Wrecking Crew at least semi-accurately, and called out many of them by name, although Carol Kaye only gets one line, and Hal Blaine a few more.Â
In fact, youâll want to see the Wrecking Crew documentary, either before or after you see Love & Mercy.Â
Having Paul Dano play young Brian, and John Cusack play old Brian, is obviously a huge gimmick -- and yet it works, remarkably well. Paul is the spitting image of young Brian, and while it takes a little longer to get used to John Cusack, what you come to realize is that Cusack has completely nailed older Brianâs vocal tics & weird mannerisms. This might only make sense if youâve seen a reasonable amount of interview & performance footage of Brian from the 90s onward, I guess.
Anyway. Well worth a trip to the theatre, if you care at all about music.
Saturday night we went on a canoeing excursion on Jordan Lake with Frog Hollow Outdoors, one of the Paddle Under the Stars trips they do with the Morehead Planetarium. It was lovely -- few clouds, perfect temperature. Not too many speedboats blaring metalcore nearby.
We drove up to the boat ramp & parked & got out & discovered that the Morehead Planetarium education coordinator who was leading the trip was a woman I went to college with, at Rice University in Houston. She & I have actually run into each other off & on around town for years, but I never knew she was an astronomer, or astronomy educator, or whatever her title actually is.
I think she & I are the only members of our college class currently in the Triangle. There are more of my high school friends here -- but then I went to high school just ~300 miles away from here, not ~1200.
Monday night we went to a Bulls game. It was nearly perfect -- the stands were only maybe 1/3 full, so the murmur of nearby conversations wasnât insanely distracting. The Bulls had an excellent game -- they allowed 4 runs to the Lehigh Valley Iron Pigs, but wound up stomping them 11-4. The actual game was less lopsided than the score would suggest -- most of the damage was done in just a couple of innings.
The only real flaw was that the notorious raspy-voiced peanut vendor, who has become an unlikely celebrity at the ballpark, was there -- ON HIS DAY OFF. And between innings he kept getting up & doing stuff to call attention to himself. Leading the YMCA dance but singing âY M C Peanuts.â It was kind of sad, in a small way.
I mean, itâs great that heâs having his 15 minutes -- or two seasons -- of fame, but he (along with, to a lesser extent, all of the other roving vendors) drives me up the freaking wall. Walk around & sell peanuts & beer. Sure. Maybe even yell out what youâre selling every so often. But nowadays there are so many vendors, and theyâre so aggressive, that itâs actually hard to focus on the game.
On Mondays, though, fewer fans mean fewer vendors. One step closer to my dream of a âthrowback Mondaysâ thing, where they turn all the LED displays & whatnot off, and the only music they play is live organ. Some parks do this already, but just once a season. The Bulls donât even do that, but I can dream.
Office art (#6 in a series) #officeart (at IBM RTP 500 Campus)
May 25 - June 4, 2015
Hoo boy, thatâs like 2 weeks. Not remotely coincidentally: The first two weeks of the summer internship that I manage. From an empty lab, to a lab with 16 super-bright students, whoâll be in RTP all summer, working on a bunch of really interesting projects.
But it knocks my comparatively relaxed off-season schedule all outta whack. Like I have to actually be in the *office* at 9:00, instead of just awake & online.
So my social media activities have been somewhat curtailed, at least compared to other times of the year.Â
As a reasonably introverted person, the start of the summer always brings mixed feelings. I love having the interns in the lab, and I love being exposed to the cutting-edge work that theyâre doing. Itâs the payoff for the other nine months of the year that are spent recruiting, interviewing, and stressing through the offer & hiring process.
But at the same time, I know the next three months are going to be nonstop human interaction all day every day.Â
Nights & weekends have been spent, as always, with a mix of computing projects at the radio station, reading, movies, a little bit of music.
I saw this video on someone elseâs Facebook page the other day, and was thus introduced to Frazey Ford, who was in a band, the Be Good Tanyas, to whom I had never paid any attention.
This album came out last year; had I heard it then, it likely would have made it onto my top-20 for the year. She recorded it in Memphis with the remaining members of the Hi Records band, and you can tell, for sure.Â
So yeah, good stuff.
Saturday night we went to Raleigh & saw Sheila E, and Morris Day & the Time, at the Red Hat Amphitheatre -- probably the last time weâll go to a show at that particular venue, at least during the summer. No trees, no shade, nothing but concrete & asphalt for blocks. Thereâs the gorgeous Raleigh âShimmer Wallâ depicting an oak tree, but it doesnât cast a shadow.
Still, for a couple of Prince proteges in their late 50s, both Sheila E and Morris Day put on a hell of a show. Morris & the Time in particular: the focus was squarely on The Hits, and the choreography was sublime.
Sunday night we watched The Drop, a twisted little tough-guy crime movie based on a Dennis Lehane story, and starring Tom Hardy & James Gandolfini, in one of his last roles. And Noomi Rapace, of all people. So the acting was uniformly good, and the story, while somewhat formulaic, moved along nicely. Recommended if you like any of the words in this paragraph.
Several times a day I look at the rooster paintings we bought from Bronwyn Merritt, and every time I come away feeling happier. I think sheâs showing them in Cary right now. Check them out. Seriously. (ours are here).
I finally finished the new Neal Stephenson, Seveneves. What a mess. Itâs like 850 pages long, due in large part to the fact that Stephenson apparently doesnât have an editor with any sway over him. This has been true for a while, actually -- Reamde was also a sloppy mess.Â
Whatâs frustrating is that the book is crammed with good ideas -- but itâs also repetitive, and laughably badly written in places (especially the first 150 pages or so). But every time I thought I had hit my breaking point, he would pull out a stretch of 30-40 pages of great writing, or a stunning plot twist, and suck me back in.Â
But when I was finished, while I was sad to see it end, I mostly felt relieved it was over. Compare that to Cryptonomicon, where I was kind of heartbroken when it was over, and seriously considered just starting again at the beginning.
My reward for finishing the Stephenson was the timely arrival of a pre-order of the new Paolo Bacigalupi book, The Water Knife, which is everything the Stephenson isnât. Which is to say itâs short, snappy, character-driven, and just throws you into the deep end without feeling any obligation to provide an 80-page infodump of every piece of technology, and every tiny circumstance leading up to the events of the book.
Itâs emphatically speculative fiction -- it takes place in a near-future American Southwest, years further into the ever-worsening drought, during a time of literal water wars. If youâre only going to read one spec-fic book this summer, this is the one.

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Waterline (at Duke University - East Campus, Durham, North Carolina)
Down In It (at Old Havana Sandwich Shop)
Yep (at Red Hat Amphitheater)
Opening act at Red Hat Amphitheatre: the blinding sun (at Red Hat Amphitheater)
Merlin, Gaahl, and Leon (at Mangum 506)

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Chesterfield (at West Village Loft Apartments)
May 19-24, 2015
Yesterday it was announced that another black-owned business downtown, Hairizon (next door to Toast) will have to move because their building has been sold. They say itâs going to be turned into condos. I canât imagine that the ground-floor retail space is going to become residential, but for whatever reason, they wonât be able to stay there. Weâll see what winds up there -- and whether itâs as white and bougie as I expect it will be.
These are the same folks who struggled back after their store was destroyed by a drunk driver who barreled the wrong way down Morris St & headlong into their storefront:Â
So they've started a crowdfunding campaign to raise capital for the move. Like most such campaigns, itâs not so much an investment drive as it is a donation drive, although some of its premiums at least offer a credit at 50% of the amount of the donation.Â
These folks have been in business for four years, which would suggest that their business model is reasonably sound. Itâs not at all surprising that they canât source capital in âtraditionalâ ways -- small business lending has never recovered from the financial crisis of 2008, and it was always biased against anyone who wasnât a white man with an established network anyway.
But itâs possible to structure a crowdfunding campaign in such a way that the investors actually get a return on their investment, or at least get their money back. CocoaCinnamon have become the local experts at this.Â
Even then, though, successful crowdfunding campaigns are less about the soundness of your business plan, and more about how media savvy you are. Although with the rise of social media as marketing platform, I suppose exhibiting savvy at crowdfunding might be a reasonable proxy for savvy at marketing in general.
In any case, I wish them luck. But I also wonder whether they would be more successful if they restructured their campaign to offer something closer to an actual return on the investment.
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This past week was hectic. On Tuesday the Hopscotch lineup was announced. Again this year thereâs nothing to rival, say, sunn o))) at Raleigh Memorial Auditorium . . . but how many experiences like that are there waiting to occur? You canât expect an annual festival to consistently create once-in-a-lifetime events. (or, I mean, you can, but youâll probably be disappointed)
Looking back at previous lineups, in fact, what I notice is that in several cases, the shows I was most psyched about -- Fucked Up, Swans, Pallbearer -- were at the time ultra-rare, but are now seemingly annual events. Fucked Up played Hopscotch in 2010 and then played the Triangle twice in 2011, and have been back again more recently.Â
Was this just coincidental timing with the rise of their prominence in the US, fueled by some great records & a deal with Matador? Or was (is) one real contribution of Hopscotch that it turns bands on to the fact that the Triangle is a viable market? I think thatâs an emphatic yes. The Hopscotch dividend has been paying & paying for 5+ years now.
Mostly, though, when I look back at old lineups, Iâm reminded of how few of the bands you actually get to see at any given Hopscotch. Even if youâre ultra-disciplined & only catch 20 minutes of each set, youâre probably going to hit at most ~12 bands a night, which still only gives you 36 out of the 138 bands who play.
And I usually only wind up catching maybe 20 bands (plus day parties, which is a whole different thing). I *think* I have 20+ bands that interest me enough this year. I have some more listening to do. Itâs still fewer than in most previous years -- like I said, there are no âholy shitâ moments for me in this lineup -- but as long as the ones I like donât all wind up booked in a single timeslot against each other, Iâll be into it.
On the local front, on the one hand itâs disappointing to see some of the same bands coming back year after year, while others still wait to be invited. But on the other hand, Iâve been working my way through the list and Iâm totally psyched to have been turned on to some locals Iâve either never heard of (Ashevilleâs Morbids) or had been totally stupidly ignoring for too long (like, say, Naked Naps).Â
Tuesday night my friend Mark & I attended a special dinner at Dashi, focused on fermentation. Lots of sour beers, and foods involving miso & kimchi & other funky things. The highlight for me, I think, was the black garlic ice cream with fish sauce brittle. I can also definitively state that most sour beers just arenât my thing.Â
The rest of the week . . . I donât remember the rest of the week. I had developed a 15+ issue backlog of New Yorkers that I finally dug my way out from under, so thatâs probably part of it.Â
Friday night I went to Raleigh with my friend K to see Make, Usnea and Ufomammut. It wasnât as mindblowing for me as it was for some people -- although it was good to near new Make tunes, especially with Luke Herbst now on drums -- but it was a good way to empty out the brain and just sort of exist in this plane of raw throbbing noise for a couple of hours.
Saturday evening we attended a screening of American Movie, hosted by Jeff Tweedy, part of this hilariously erratic series at the Carolina Theatre. Tweedy seems like a genuinely good guy. And I was reminded of how much I love Uncle Tupeloâs Anodyne. Thatâs a good record to be reminded of.
And of course American Movie is still profoundly moving and hysterical, and it was magical to see it in a room full of people, many of whom were there because of Jeff Tweedy & thus (a) hadnât seen it and (b) didnât even know what they were in for. Thatâs actually the best thing about this series, and one reason why I keep going, despite the fact that its organizer is literally the most annoying human being on the planet.
Last night we watched Leviathan. Jesus what a Russian movie. Like, I feel like I know almost nothing about Russia, but nevertheless I feel confident in saying that this is a quintessentially Russian movie. Itâs all corruption, drinking, and God. Fascinating.Â