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The delineation between paranoid and reparative readings originated in 1995, with influential critic Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick. A paranoid reading focuses on what’s wrong or problematic about a work of art. A reparative reading seeks out what might be nourishing or healing in a work of art, even if the work is flawed. Importantly, a reparative reading also tends to consider what might be nourishing or healing in a work of art for someone who isn’t the reader.

This kind of nuance gets completely worn away on Twitter, home of paranoid readings.

@thinktanks

internet shaquille's basics but especially:

making rice

making scrambled eggs

making oatmeal

levels of cooking meat

using & storing vegetables with recipes in the description (this one has a bit of Sassiness directed at people who dont like vegetables but the content is solid)

food safety + a recipe to demonstrate

how to learn to cook (just a list of subtopics, no actual tips)

cooking techniques playlist

how to cut x

basics with babish s1 & 2, but particularly:

freezer meals,

weeknight meals,

kitchen tools (although the specific suggestions are pretty expensive even with the lower end scale items the basic categories are solid, and you can evaluate what items you will realistcially need - eg. if you dont need to read temp for steaks etc the temp reader will not be relevant) &

kitchen care (mid-high advanced home cooking)

basic knife skills

picking the right pan for each recipe

j. kenji lopez-alt's tips and tricks playlist

egg recipes

a little more complicated, involved, and longer than any of the rest of these but good breakdown of flavor & how and why to use the basic seasoning/flavor profiles

and then recipe channels representing various cuisines:

j. kenji lopez-alt (various)

marion's kitchen (southeast & east asian, western/asian fusion)

maangchi (korean)

future neighbor (mostly korean)

the western supermarket playlist of chinese cooking demystified (more recipes available but these are accessible if you dont have "specialty" ingredients)

family recipes playlist by made with lau (chinese)

not another cooking show (various)

cooking with boris (bear with me here i know he does it exaggeratedly humorously but a lot of them are actually solid and beginner cook friendly. mostly slavic/russian)

you suck at cooking (also falls into the intentionally humorous category but most of the recipes are pretty solid anyway)

how to cook that (baking, also does debunking videos of viral cooking hacks - breaks down the reasons the hacks dont work, pretty important to understand those basics imo)

internet shaquille (various)

babish culinary universe (various)

i REFUSE to recommended joshua weissman because he is fucking insufferable but if you want you can try if you can deal with it, the techniques/recipes seem fine for the most part

When I first learned about being aromantic and asexual, I saw a post on Tumblr about QPRs, aka “Queer/Quasi-platonic relationship”. Here is some quick information on what this means.

I thought that I was interested in this type of relationship. I have been in multiple QPRs in the past even. 

But, after really reflecting on it, I realized - it was the exact same situation as with romantic/sexual relationships.

I am not interested in any kind of relationship beyond friendship. Queerplatonic, romantic, sexual, anything like that. I do not want a “life-long partner”. I love being completely single. I am completely fulfilled and content.

Yet, that voice that tells me that I will never be happy without being in these types of relationships? Yeah, it’s still here. 

With QPRs, this was my unconscious thought process.

“If I am not in a romantic/sexual relationships, at least I can be in a QPR and be somewhat normal.” or “Maybe I will develop these feelings if I can hold out a little longer.”

I felt the exact same in QPRs as I felt in romantic/sexual relationships: trapped, awkward, uncomfortable, stressed. The fact I could not return these feelings would make me extremely stressed. In my last relationship, that was the biggest wake-up call. I was so stressed during that relationship and had no idea why. The second we broke up? I felt so much better.

My dream is living on my own, maybe own a pet, have my own space, but also have a few friends I can hang out with. This is completely fine! I am allowed to live however I want to as long as it isn’t hurting anyone.

Anyways, I guess I’m making this post to show people that you don’t have to be in ANY kind of relationship if you do not want to. I didn’t realize this until very recently, and if I had known earlier, it would’ve saved SO MUCH TROUBLE for EVERYONE. 

and i said white people bc i feel like literally everyone else figured that shit out already? like in public bath houses and women walking around with their breasts exposed. europe got a hold of chriatianity and decided to put a worldwide ban nakedness and put these restrictions on the human body, bastardizing the nature with which we come into the world. its dirty, its deviant, its dangerous to be exposed in the appropriate spaces or ones own home.

the way young people have to cover up in their homes before guests come, the way shorts and other summer clothes are only perceived as sexual in nature and not the most effective way of combating a million degree heat, the way people freak out when they see a bra strap like it wasnt them who made bitches wear bras in the first place

transgender men in japan in a trans-friendly hot spring in beppu japan

himba girls from a village in kaokoland, namibia