With this in mind, this also makes me think of the ways people describe us. When people say the reasons that they love/like you or describe you as a person, are they only naming ways that you serve them? Are they equating your worth with how much you do for them?
ex. โYouโre such a good listener. Youโre so generous, youโre so compassionate. Youโre always there for me. You always hold me down. Youโre reliableโ
โYouโre so funny! Youโre very vibrant. Youโre creative, passionate, and intelligent. Youโre optimistic. Youโre so talented at ____โ , etc. I think thatโs very telling.