Do you know that feeling?
When my wife and I first stepped into the swinger lifestyle — what feels like half a lifetime ago — we thought we should keep something “just for us.” A kind of intimate act that would be our own private space, untouched by anyone else.
After a lot of talking, we settled on two things: anal sex and kissing.
It didn’t take long before we dropped the anal sex rule. Kissing, though — that one lasted more than a year.
At some point she admitted that avoiding kisses was pulling her out of the moment. It stopped her from fully letting go.
For me, it felt strange not to kiss a woman who might have other, much more intimate parts of me in her mouth. And besides, I’d already seen my wife kiss other women — and I liked it.
We both dragged our feet on admitting it, but when we finally decided to drop that last barrier, our experiences became better — richer, deeper, and more relaxed.
And to this day, it hasn’t once damaged our intimacy, our sex life, or our trust in each other. Quite the opposite.
Talking matters.
Trust matters.
And yes — kissing matters too.
