Reverse Queer Dictionary!

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The purpose of this blog is fairly simple: people who are looking for a label that describes them can come here, give a description of what they’re looking for, and receive a list of labels!

There is only one mod currently, and you can call me August or Crow! I mainly use he/him, but don’t mind the occasional neopronoun!

Rules:

Give a description of the identity you want labels for. This can be as brief or as in-depth as you want!

Be respectful, and understand that identity can be a very complicated and nuanced thing.

Please use tone tags/indicators when it is necessary or applicable!

I don’t really have a DNI; if someone makes me uncomfortable, I will block them. However, no NSFW/18+ only blogs!

Have fun! :D

Edit 2/8/24: Here is a link to my queer dictionary carrd!

Important disclaimers are under the cut! Please read before submitting a request!

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I found genderescape (a gender that is easily understandable if you don’t think about it, but becomes vague and confusing when you try to pinpoint it or explore your label), which sounds like the closest label that I could find

There is also miragegender (a gender that is not quite clear enough to make out, and fades or moves further away when one tries to get close enough to see it or figure it out)

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The main term that comes to mind is genderfloy (someone who is genderfluid and mostly male; someone who is typically male but can be other genders). More vaguely, there is also focusgender (a gender where one feels multiple genders either fluidly or statically, but one or two are most common)

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Here are a list of labels that could potentially fit:

Abrisexual - A fluid sexuality where the label changes, but the actual feelings of the sexuality do not (the gender(s) you’re attracted to don’t change, just the label itself)

Novosexual - Someone whose sexual orientation is tied to changes in their gender identity; someone whose sexual orientation changes in response to their gender changing

Pollosexual - Someone who feels that they are multiple sexualities at once

Aurorasexual - A genderfluid lesbian that feels uncomfortable and/or dysphoric calling themself a lesbian when they are male-aligned or just in general

Gaybian/Velaurian - Someone who identifies as both gay/turian and a lesbian

Sappihillean - Someone who identifies as both sapphic (wlw/non-man L non-men) and achillean (mlm/non-woman L non-women)

Demilesboy - Someone who identifies partially as a boy and/or partially as a lesbian

Saphboy - Someone who feels connection to the term “boy” and experiences their gender and orientation as sapphic; the sapphic equivalent of lesboy

Omnique - Someone whose gender identity and/or orientation change so that they will always be gay/queer

Anfisian - Someone who is wlw, wlm, mlw, and mlm; someone who is a woman and man, fluidly or simultaneously, and is attracted to women and men, fluidly or simultaneously

Femtussesual - A genderfluid individual who is attracted to women, women-aligned, and feminine people

Virtussexual - A genderfluid individual who is attracted to men, men-aligned, and masculine people

Wifamoric - Someone who experiences non-straight attraction to women and/or feminine people, but their attraction is fluid, flexible, or fluctuating in some way, however, their attraction to women tends to be the most constant, defining feature

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Here are some terms I found that could potentially fit:

Toric - A nonbinary individual who is attracted to men, exclusively or not

Enbian - A nonbinary individual who is attracted to other nonbinary individuals, exclusively or not

Carnelian - A nonbinary individual who is attracted to men and other nonbinary individuals, exclusively or not

Diamoric - An umbrella term used to describe non-binary individuals' experience with attraction that does not fit the same-gender/opposite-gender dichotomy

Floric - A non-woman who is attracted to other non-women

Lilacean - Someone who is attracted to men in a queer way

Queer - An umbrella term for anyone who is not straight/cishet

Uranic - Someone who is attracted to men, masculine, and neutral-aligned nonbinary individuals; someone who is attracted to non-feminine-aligned and non-woman-aligned individuals.

Gai - An orientation that is gay in a uniquely non-binary way

Nofemaric - An individual that is not attracted to women

Nofinsexual - Someone who is attracted to all genders except those that are FIN (feminine in nature)

GNCsexual - Someone who is attracted exclusively to GNC individuals

Lavenian - A turian (see below) man or nonbinary person who is GNC

Veldian/Turian - A man or nonbinary person who is attracted to men, typically exclusively; queer attraction to men; a gay man or nonbinary person

Bimnsexual - A bisexual individual who is attracted to men, male-aligned individuals, and nonbinary individuals, exclusively or not

Cinthean - Men, man-aligned, or unaligned nonbinary individuals that are attracted to other men, man-aligned, and/or unaligned nonbinary individuals; non-fem/non-women attracted to other non-fems/non-women, exclusively or not

Queerian - A queer individual who is attracted to other queer individuals

Like, I still feel attraction. I just don't bother to label it because it feels disconnected from me. It's like this little entity that feels separate from the actual me-

I've tried using unlabeled as well but it just doesn't fit me. So I'm wondering if there's anything like this?

Also, I do know about aegoromantic & aegosexual, but neither accurately explain it either. I'm not on the aroace spectrum, so that's one thing.

I just don't know!! My orientation and attraction is just a little thing I can hold and it's just something I experience but it's not *me* nor is it my identity so I don't know like is there any label for that at all???

~ @starryfield-sys ( 🖍️ )

( yes this is meant to be posted off anon so i can get alerted like extra fast cuz sometimes the mentions don't notify me T×T )

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The main term that comes to mind is cass-(sexual/romantic/etc.)—someone who is indifferent to the idea of sexuality/romantic orientation/etc. and believes it not to be an important part of their identity. I found cassattractional (someone who is cass for all attraction types)

The other term that could potentially fit is pomo-(sexual/romantic/etc.)—someone who doesn’t fit or denies any labels for a particular type of attraction

If neither of those seem right, feel free to send in another ask and I can do a deeper dive!

Major update: added hyperlinks throughout the dictionary, for example if in the definition of a gender term it references "epicinity" and the word is underlined, you can click on "epicinity" and it will take you to that term in the dictionary.

Other things:

Added a handful of new terms throughout

Fixed a few terms with incorrect definitions or flags

Fixed a few grammatical errors

You can find the dictionary carrd here:

Also my pronouns change with language? Probably not important but it's there

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In terms of only feeling like "yourself" gender wise, there is egogender (a xenogender where the only way to describe one’s gender is simply as oneself)

There is also genderqueer (anyone whose gender is "queer" or has a non-normative experience with gender)

Not every non-cis individual experiences gender dysphoria or euphoria, and pronouns don't necessarily align with gender, and some cis individuals experience gender euphoria (although generally not in the same way as non-cis individuals). You mentioned not knowing what you want to "become", which if you mean that in a gender sense, many, if not most, people don't necessarily "become" their gender; they simply are their gender. If you mean "become" in the sense of transitioning, not all non-cis people transition, and the way you transition doesn't necessarily have to align with your gender identity. All of this is to say I can't really give anything else with what you've described, because none of it necessarily describes a certain gender experience--it moreso describes your experience with and how you perceive gender /nm /npa.

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I was able to find a few terms that could potentially fit:

Blobgender - A xenogender where your gender just feels like a blob

Blobgender (alt def) - A gender that cannot be clarified/defined 100%. It's like a blob: it feels blurry, fuzzy, hazy, irregular, odd, etc. Or it can be defined as a blob on one's gender, a blob that confuses/blurs one's gender or gender identity

Everythinggender - A gender related to the concept/idea of everything

Everythinggender (alt def) - A xenogender that pertains to and encompasses everything

It's like being gay in the way a man/nb likes a man/nb and having a male preference but also not minding liking girls, like, i dont mind liking girls in b oy way but its much more comfy in the genderless way,,,

Sorry if this doesn't make sense,,,thank you in advance!

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The most similar term I found was courpalian (someone who is nblnb, nblw, nblm, mlm, and mlnb but not mlw)

Other terms that could potentially fit are

Azalian - An agender/genderless individual that is attracted to women and/or women-aligned individuals, exclusively or not

Agenirian - Someone who is aglw; an agender individual that is attracted to women, exclusively or not

Azurian - Someone who is mlm and nblm and prioritizes their attraction to men over other attractions they may have

Opalian - Someone who is mlm, mlnb, nblm, and nblnb and prioritizes their attraction to nonbinary individuals and men over other attractions they may have

Torico - Someone who is most commonly attracted to men, frequently attracted to nonbinary people, and rarely attracted to women

Toro - Someone who is primarily attracted to men and nonbinary people and can sometimes attracted to women, although it is unlikely

im prettyy sure i saved it from pinterest but i have no idea and reverse image searching has resulted in zero help 💔

thank you sm for the help!!

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I was able to find it: ambonecflux (A gender identity where one identifies as male, female, both, neither and fluctuates between them)

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The primary term I found is emotugender (someone whose gender is fluid or fluctuating and is affected by one's emotions, mood, or state of mind)

For feeling genders when happy or sad, I found:

Joygender - A xenogender connected to joy, happiness, or similar emotions; one could feel that their gender fluctuates while experiencing these emotions, their gender is only felt while experiencing these emotions, or they feel as joy and happiness are an important part of their gender

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There are a few terms that could potentially fit:

Ambiamorous - Someone who can enjoy both monogamy and polyamory and has little to no preference between the two

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The primary term that comes to mind is alterous (a form of emotional attraction that is not necessarily platonic, but not romantic in nature)

Some other, similar terms are:

Exteramo Attraction - A form of attraction that is neither platonic nor romantic nor anywhere between them

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