“Breaking News: Chivalry Is Romance😂🤦🏻♀️”
I was reading something on a red strapped blog we all know and know there ways of pushing the narrative 😂 and what always made me stop is how they pictures and put the chivalry behaviour as signs of love and affection!!
Let me speak about this from my perspective as an Egyptian Arab woman.
We have what I would call a common sense of decency
I don’t know what you call it in your countries, so forgive my lack of knowledge here.
If you’re escorting a lady, you normally keep her on your right, or sometimes a step or two behind you. It’s simply a sign of respect, especially if you don’t really know each other
When it comes to escalators or going upstairs, the man usually goes first. Not because he’s more important, but so he isn’t walking behind the woman looking up the stairs, and so he can guide the way.
Going downstairs?..The woman usually goes first.
Holding the door?..Normal.
Letting her step in first?..Normal.
Offering your jacket because she’s cold?..Normal.
Offering to call an Uber or give her a lift? Normal.
Those are things I was raised to see as good manners.
Not flirting…Not romance…Not a declaration of love..Just… common decency
Now, if I applied every single one of those gestures as proof that a man was in love with me…
I’d have half the men in my life secretly in love with me. 😂😂😂
And here’s where I get confused.
If we’re taking every polite gesture as undeniable proof of a relationship, while completely ignoring the body language of the so-called boyfriend… then what exactly are we looking at? 😂🤦🏻♀️
To me, body language, consistency, and the overall dynamic speak much louder than someone holding a door, carrying a bag, or offering a jacket.
Because, in my opinion, there’s a huge difference between being a gentleman… and being in love.
But that’s just my perspective as an Egyptian woman.
I’d genuinely love to know…
How does it work in your culture? 🤍
