Milka

hi friendly reminder you aren’t a bad person for not reblogging something. reblog bait fucking sucks and its intended purpose is to make you feel guilty. it is not a moral failing to not reblog something and you are never a bad person for scrolling past a post. sincerely, a moral ocd haver

you are free to reblog this post but you aren’t obligated to. it’s okay to scroll, i promise

Yes, some thoughts are the result of neurodivergence. Some thoughts are disordered. But that doesn't make them a crime.

As long as you are not using them to hurt yourself or others, there's no reason you should be punished for your thoughts.

Please stop letting purity culture and pop psychology tell you that you're wrong for having a brain that isn't 100% morally pure.

You can choose to do the wrong thing while having empathy.

No, your ex is not a narcissist.

You are not “so OCD”

The weather isn’t bipolar.

Loving your boyfriend isn’t “BPD coded”

Small inconveniences aren’t trauma.

You aren’t “delusional” for having a crush.

So, why would that be any less concerning, exactly?

If they are harming themself for attention, the intention doesn't matter, because it's still an act of self harm.

If they are faking symptoms for attention*, that's either a result of a behavioral/personality disorder or factitious disorder, which are still mental health disorders that require care.

(*Which, bare in mind, you CANNOT know if someone is faking unless they actively tell someone that they are - atypical variations of conditions exist, misdiagnosis exists, and somatoform disorders which mimic the symptoms of other conditions exist.)

Some people in my position just go by "Queer" which I think is cool as well. It works great because it's a pretty wide umbrella term. I think I would call myself generally queer as well in terms of who I'm attracted to.

To be clear: I do have a label for my gender- just not for who I'm attracted to.

Reminder that this is not about a single event, this is a repetitive pattern that happens *regardless* of if the trans women's blogs violate tumblr's guidelines or not.

Reminder that if it's only trans women calling this out, tumblr has an easier time covering it up because they just ban them.

Reminder that you've got to speak up against this bullshit now, that you've got to be loud, that you've got to support trans women because the places where they can speak are dwindling.

Reminder that pride includes trans women and you cant celebrate pride while ignoring the way trans women are getting silenced.

Minors can be polyamorous. Minors can have polyamorous parents or other relatives. Minors are not harmed in any way by exposure of polyamory. I knew I was polyamorous by the age of 12. I felt extraordinarily othered by the lack of representation.

Polyamory isn't inherently some super explicit NSFW thing.

It's literally no different from the "don't let same-gender relationships exist in video games!" argument.

People act like group sex, swinging, and sexual open relationships are all that exist. But polyamory can occur in non-sexual manners (romantic, queerplatonic, etc), and monogamy can occur in purely sexual manners. Neither are "inherently" sexual.

How great would it be to have characters tell you "I want to pursue [insert character]. Should I talk to [current partners] about it?" and then you can encourage or discourage them, and if you encourage them, then you get a little cutscene of them talking to their current partners about wanting to add a new member to the relationship?

It would teach children and uneducated people SO MUCH about consent and communication in polyamory.

"Well, I wouldn't want my miis to be polyamorous" then make them monogamous? In a hypothetical like this, the options would be:

-Closed monogamous (wants a monogamous partner)

-Open monogamous (doesn't mind having a polyamorous partner)

-Ambiamorous (fine with polyamory or monogamy. Add a partner amount or a "no limit" option for the possibility of polyamory occuring.)

-Polyamorous (and then you'd select how many partners the character is interested in having, or a "no limit" option.)

Its literally no different from having the "what genders will they date" option.

"But I like the cutscenes of them fighting over the person!" That could still happen, if the miis dislike each other, or one of them has the "closed monogamy" setting on.

(Also, it would be nice if the game had a "don't date this person" option in the "real life connection" settings, so you wouldn't have to make everyone you don't want to date into "family" and play mind games with the system to try and avoid unwanted partnering.)

And before you get on my ass about how this would be hard to program in the game now - I know. I'm talking about FUTURE representation. I'm talking about how nice it would be if games started to actually think about us! I know it's likely not even possible in the game with how it was programmed, but it would be WONDERFUL to be thought of in the future.

Other queer issues with the game:

1- You can only have a character be nonbinary in the creation menu. None of the babies of miis are nonbinary unless you edit their profiles - they reinforce the idea that everyone is born either a "girl" or "boy", and that non-binary is something that comes "later." And while that may be true for some enben, a lot of enben also feel they were *born* nonbinary!

2- All babies are born straight and gender conforming, unless edited in their mii menu.

3- When you select a mii as "male" it automatically selects their dating preferences as female, and vice versa for when you select a mii as female. When you select a mii as nonbinary, it leaves their dating preferences blank. Yes, you can change their dating preferences, but it's weird of them to have a heteronormative "default." Same thing happens with pronouns and clothes worn during events.

4- There's no ability to select multiple sets of pronouns. There's no it/its pronouns. And worst of all, there's no customizable pronouns! That especially pisses me off, because they literally have customizable sentences throughout the game! Its not unfounded for the games programming! How hard would it be to have a menu where you type three words (ie; xe/xem/xers) and it inputs the pronouns in the correct places? The game is so close already with the customized phrases!

5- You cannot select multiple genders for a character. You cannot make a character female and nonbinary, male and nonbinary, female & male & nonbinary, etc. I get that they probably did this because they wanted an easier time determining what characters would be attracted to who, but I pose that if a character is attracted to women, and another character has "woman" as one of their genders, let them get a crush! (Or if you're so worried about it, have it where only people attracted to both women & enben can get a crush on someone with both those options selected.)