our real life

Written by Mistress Ivey,

Because it can be so much fun! That’s why…

I have written several books and heaven knows how many blog posts about how and why you should tease your man. But it seems like everything is about him, when in fact, the reason for becoming a Mistress is to have someone cater to your own needs, wants and desires. After all, isn’t that what this is all supposed to be about?

If taking control and setting up an FLR is supposed to be all about the woman’s needs and desires, why do I spend so much time talking about what she should be doing for him? Isn’t it obvious? I can think of only one reason… To keep him sexually aroused so that he will want to do everything he can for her.

But if she has to work this hard at it, isn’t that sort of self defeating? If by that you mean that she should have to do nothing and he should do everything, then it won’t work. Both partners must get something out of the relationship, and in order to do that, both must put something into the relationship. Tit for tat (pun intended). The great part about it is, the woman, you, should be getting a great deal more than you are putting into it. How is that fair? I didn’t say it was…

Here is how it really works… You are in charge! In charge of him. In charge of everything. You get a servant (sub, slave, whatever) to do all those things you don’t want to do. To get that, you have to keep him sexually aroused and focused on you. That’s it. The big bonus for you is the feelings that only come from having that much power and control at your fingertips.

Let’s face it, Ladies, don’t you get a little charge every time you give him an order and he complies? Especially if you have just ordered him to do something humiliating that he would never do without you “making” him do it? Then there is the powerful feelings when you ruin or completely deny him the orgasm he has been begging for for the last two months! The look on his face when his ejaculate dribbles out of his cock after a long tease session is priceless. The fact that he hasn’t had an orgasm in two or even three months just adds to the joy.

Yes, you spend some time keeping him horny by teasing his cock, telling him what to do, making sure he is doing everything you want, and then, of course, having to punish him when he doesn’t. But, there again, there is that feeling of power and control. Isn’t it wonderful?

1. You are not punishing your man - you are protecting him from his perfectly normal lack of self-control…

2. You are not denying him sexual pleasure. In fact, when you do release him from his male chastity belt, sex will feel better for him and his orgasms will become much more intense…

3. You are not denying yourself the sex life you deserve. While he’s locked up he’ll use his mouth and fingers to provide you with sexual satisfaction on a regular basis. And, there are ways that you have satisfying penetrative sex while he is still under lock and key…

4. Men will try to claim they need to have regular orgasms to stay healthy. This simply isn’t true. They do need to have ejaculations every so often; but you can make this happen in a matter of minutes without him getting an erection or having an orgasm…

5. Hundreds of thousands of married couples are in the male chastity lifestyle. It’s not kinky. In fact, the odds are that several of your friends already have their husband’s crown jewels locked away…

6. When done correctly, your man will feel more loved by you than he did before male chastity became a part of your life. In fact, most men eventually thank their wives for insisting on the lifestyle…

7. While at first you’ll only keep him locked up for a few days at a time, eventually he should be restricted to eight to 12 orgasms a year. This is more than enough…

8. Over time he’ll start to feel like more of a man, because he’ll know that all of his sexual energy is going towards pleasing you. He’ll like the fact that he no longer feels like a little boy who can’t help but play with his little pee-pee when you are not looking. Instead, he will be saving himself for you…

These are the rules I have chosen to live by as an unowned submissive small dick loser.  I have also decided to allow others to add to these rules as I like the feeling of not being in control.  If you would like to add a rule, just reply to this post and as long as it is SSC and doable, I will add it.  It is that simple.

1. No female nudity allowed.  Tits and pussy are for real men only.  If I see a post or page with nudity on accident, I must close the page immediately and take a 15 minute time out from the internet.

2. Masturbation is required, it dulls the senses of the dick and conditions the mind so that real sex is impossible.  Real sex is for real men only.  Only non-nude or censored images of females or men with real cocks are to be masturbated to.  Orgasms are NEVER ALLOWED, I am to edge only.  All cum from any  accidental orgasm must be immediately eaten and your balls must be smacked 10 times hard

3. All tasks, assignments and requests made of you online must be completed and proven by photo or video evidence.  (Again, SSC)

4. You must worship real cock daily, you must crave cock and cum from real men, you must not turn down safe opportunities to service real cocks.  It does not matter if you are not gay, you are a loser and this is your purpose now.  You must avoid opportunities to date women, unless they know you are a small dick loser.  Not that any women would want to date you, but you should not put them in a position to be disappointed.  Only real men may date women.