my biggest fear is i'll spend my whole life being the caretaker and never the one whose taken care of. and while I love giving, i'm feeling empty like what else do I even have left to give?

Everyone talks about how hard it is to trust people after you've been hurt. But barely anyone talks about how hard it is to trust *yourself* when you've had your gut instincts and convictions skilfully undermined by someone.

entering this great new phase of my life where, when someone treats me like shit, instead of going "oh man I guess I'm a piece of shit" I can whole-heartedly go "christ alive, what is wrong with you? you can't treat people like that" and it may sound simple but it took a long time to get here and there's no fucking way I'm going back

i do not ghost purposely i just have no idea what to say ever

and i have no concept of passage of time

Don't make the mistake of being so understanding and forgiving that you overlook the fact that you're being disrespected.

You deserve a calm relationship that's good for your mental health, heart, and nervous system. A lover who's your bestie, your safe space, and soothes your soul during stressful situations. Life is tough enough – you deserve someone who brings you peace, not problems.