Quoiromantic positivity blog!

second thing is a question actually, is there a difference between quoiromantic and quoisexual and if so what is it? or is it just used interchangibly

thanks in advance and have a great day or night wherever you are :D

Yeah, there may not be much visibility but at least within the community we can all complain about it together! Not sure if it's still a thing but the word "squish" was always used for platonic crushes so there were a few attempts to combine the two into things like "squash" and "scrunch". Maybe it would be worth doing a poll at some point so people could submit words they like to describe "??? Attraction??? For this person??? Maybe???"

Secondly, that's a great question! "Quoiromantic" is usually used for confusion around romantic attraction vs other attractions, while "Quoisexual" is usually used for confusion around sexual attraction vs others. For some people there's just confusion all round so they might use both or just "quoi" or some combination of quoi and aroace terminology. Hopefully that makes some sense though?

We mainly share quoiro stuff but there's others on tumblr that focus on quoix stuff instead, so feel free to bounce around the blogs and see how they differ!

That's fair enough! Nebula- and quoi- are kinda like the identical twins of aspec identities anyway, so whether people use one or the other or both, they're welcome here. I personally found out I was autistic a couple of years ago (five years after I learn about quoi identities) and while it probably has some effect on my ideas (or lack of) of attraction, I'm already happy with quoiro so am unlikely to be changing anytime soon.

Hello! Yes, it's just me currently as far as I'm aware but I'm still keeping an eye on the blog. Glad you found it! It's been about seven years since I first heard the word but it was definitely relieving to find.

The thing about sexuality and attraction is that labels aren't there to force you into a box and choose an experience for you; they're there to a) help you put the experiences and emotions you have into words, and/or b) help you find other people who share these experiences or emotions. So while it may not be as easily identifiable as the major LGBTQ attractions, if it helps you then that's what matters!

I don't know about other people, but finding out about quoiromanticism lifted a huge weight off my shoulders. You don't have to immediately know (or know at all) what's going on with attraction, you can just be. Because there are other people who experience the same thing!

As for the last question, I'm very glad you asked that because until now I'd just assumed there weren't, but there are! This is just from a five minute search of GoodReads, but apparently the main character of 'The Unstoppable Wasp' comics is quoiro (though confirmed by the author outside of the books since it got cancelled before it could be fully canonised) and one character in the book 'The Changing of Allison Dutch'. I haven't read either of them but it's definitely worth looking into further! Non-fiction, I will forever recommend Ash Hardell's ABCs of LGBT+, since it's the one I started out with and actually defines quoisexuality and quoiromanticism!

No worries, it's good that you're exploring your relationship with attraction and how you want to describe it! You can absolutely identify with quoiro and demiro at the same time. Quoiro describes the state of your attraction (or lack of state i suppose) while demi describes the conditions of this attraction forming so it makes perfect sense to me to combine the two. Get a feel for quoiromanticism and demiromanticism, see how they feel and apply them whenever feels right!

Hey, sounds like you've been going through a lot. From one neurodivergent person to another, identifying feelings and dealing with social situations is hard at the best of times, so adding sexuality into it can be even more terrifying.

I'm not going to say you know yourself and how you're feeling the best, because I know that definitely doesn't help me. But if quoiromanticism is resonating with you, you can try the label on for size, see how it feels and how it fits with how you already think of yourself (in combination with other terms like aceflux and grayro as well as on its own), and you can either keep it if you like it or move on to something else if you don't. Attraction and romantic orientations are confusing and it's not always 'one size fits all'. If you haven't already, I'd also look at the 'nebularomantic' posts around tumblr, since they tend to be focused on the link between neurodivergency and not being able to define attraction. Essentially the same concept, but a bit more connected to being nd than you might see quoiro posts being.

I can't really say much about the relationship thing as it's never been an area I have experience with, but if you're happy in your relationship and could communicate if there was any boundaries that needed setting regarding your sexual/romantic/platonic needs and wants, being quoiro doesn't necessarily need to affect anything, I don't think? It can just be a cool way to describe how you're feeling, either just to yourself or maybe to your partner as well if you felt comfortable talking about it or wanted to share any resources with them.