time to fuckin murder

for example, no you don’t owe anyone anything in that if some creep is trying to get with you, you can block him without feeling bad. you don’t owe kindness to people who are transphobic or racist or bigoted.

but, you can’t use this as an excuse to fuck over people who have helped you. “you don’t owe anyone anything” isn’t an excuse to allow yourself to forget compassion and basic empathy, it isn’t an excuse for you to be an asshole just because you find it easier to be one

relationships aren’t transactional in that if your partner does something nice for you, you are indebted to them. they do these things because they love you; it is their choice to express love through these gestures

but they are transactional in that you both actively need to be putting time and care into the relationship. ignoring the dynamic of one person caring too much (and putting in excessive (emotional an literal) work and labor) while the other does nothing isn’t healthy. one person can’t solely take and the other person can’t solely give- that’s dangerous, and you can’t put the bandaid of “this isn’t transactional” over a relationship that is draining you in all capacities

WEEE WOOO WEEE WOOO I AM OFFICIALLY DONE AND SOBBING NOTHING ANYONE COULD SAY WOULD FIX MY BROKEN HEART WHAT THE FUCK

me: hmmm yea sure i dig it i’ll bite [writes fic]

flyers: u wanna go full brainrot?

me: uhhh probably not—

flyers:

carolyn:

Patrick Marleau recorded his first NHL point on Oct. 11 1997 and has not missed a game since 2009. He has 566 goals, 1196 points, three All Star appearances, and two Olympic gold medals for Canada in 2010 and 2014. Today, he surpasses Gordie Howe’s NHL record for most games played at 1,768.