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Mesosex: a person who has an intersex variation, but one which does not conform to perisex (non-intersex) ideas of what intersex is. For example, people who have intersex traits that are considered "mild", or who have variations such as PCOS Hyperandrogenism and Poland Syndrome.

Meso- for middle/in between, to refer to the state of being in between what the intersex community accepts as intersex and what the broader public (mistakenly) thinks intersex is.

This is a revision to the initial definition for the term, which I originally coined a few months back. The revised definition comes from many conversations with both identifying-as-intersex people and identifying-as-mesosex people.

In particular I'd like to highlight this long (but very productive) thread from which the revised definition was first proposed by @queercripintersex

From that thread and private conversations some key takeaways have been:

There was too much ambiguity in the initial definition.

The people I've spoken to for whom mesosex has resonated all either have intersex variations, or very good reasons to question that they could be intersex.

And a lot of those people have faced harassment and invalidation by perisex people for experimenting and/or claiming the intersex label. They have expressed a desire for alternate language by which they can communicate their relationship to being intersex.

Not everybody with an intersex variation wants to use the term intersex, or to only use it contextually. Some feel they aren't "intersex enough", even people with variations like Klinefelter's or CAIS that are widely accepted as intersex.

For people who are new to thinking of themselves as intersex, it is valuable to have a microlabel available that can capture their impostor syndrome.

There is a real and legitimate concern that the initial definition of mesosex would lead people with intersex variations like PCOS to think of themselves as neither intersex nor perisex, even though the intersex community is unanimous that PCOS hyperandrogenism is intersex.

Although there is a clear hierarchy of which intersex variations are seen as more legitimately intersex by perisex people, if we validate this hierarchy then we undermine our collective need for pan-intersex solidarity.

im still a little nervous to actually call myself intersex (i have no idea why), but i have worked up the courage to publicly say that my body has naturally mixed traits (likely due to weird hormone shit).

maybe one day I'll work up the courage to call myself intersex. i sure as hell don't fit into "perisex" very cleanly.

just wanted to say thank you. learning all sorts of things from this community and this blog. about others, and about being proud of my body.

:)

To the womenmen, the menwomen, the men who are women and the women who are men.

To the boygirls, girlboys, boys who are girls and girls who are boys.

To multigender people whose genders DON'T include "man" or "woman", "boy" or "girl."

To multigender people whose genders are xenogenders.

To multigender people whose sexuality can't fit into a neat binary box.

To multigender people who use he/him and she/her pronouns. Who use they/them pronouns.

To multigender people who only use he/him, or only use she/her.

To multigender people who use neopronouns. Who use it/its.

To multigender people who use different pronouns at different times.

Happy Pride to multigender intersex people.

To multigender systems.

Happy Pride to multigender people who can't truly live as themselves. Who are closeted. Whose genders aren't truly respected and affirmed by people around them.

bluebonnet femme! ⸻ a term for femmes who feel as though they don't fit the stereotypical image of a femme; such as those who are strong, aren't submissive, those who are the caregiving type, those who are masculine, those who are also butches, those who are transmasc, etc!

inspired by the meaning behind bluebonnets, specifically resilience and bravery!

flag & term by @idwl, we’re just posting for her!

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peony butch! ⸻ a term for butches who feel as though they don't fit the stereotypical image of a butch; such as those who aren't strong or dominant, those who aren't the caregiving type, those who are feminine, those who are also femmes, those who are transfem, etc!

inspired by the meaning behind peonies, specifically bashfulness!

flag & term by @idwl, we’re just posting for him!

idwl does not consent to their creations being added to any wikipedia sites or reposted to any other social media sites!

𖹭⠀❛ bi—sapphillean⠀； a term for sapphilleans that are also bisexual or bisexuals that are also sapphillean.

bi-sapphillean ; a term for sapphilleans that are also bisexual or bisexuals that are also sapphillean.

⠀✿⠀sapphillean symbol by @charlie-lottie

@radiomogai @io-archival

pt: bi-gaybian. end pt.

𐙚 DEFiNiTiON ꒱・❥・ to be bi, gay/turian and lesbian in some sense . . .

pt: to be bi, gay/turian and lesbian in some sense. end pt.

0.1 English is not my native language, I apologize if there are any mistakes.

0.2 If this has been coined previously, please consider this as an alt.

0.3 You can place my terms/flags on other sites or anywhere else, just don't forget to mention me as the author/creator!

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— these represent those that are both mono-mspec —

How these work?

* strong preferences

* attraction to a multigender partner

* split attraction model

* fluid attraction

* identity/community attachment

* other reasons

* doesn’t mean every gay is mspec some are exclusively mono

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in spite of it all, happy 2026 pride.

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these get reposted a whole lot from here to reddit to twitter to tiktok and on and on, and i don't personally care whether or not i'm credited. i made these for everyone to use, enjoy, and find meaning in them. i appreciate folks who do credit me, but if able, please at least link to the threadless shop in the previous post - folks can get an official shirt where 90% of earnings go to trans led orgs focused on mental health (which is an important matter in general, but very personal to me) and not from a scam bot site selling AI-churned maga garbage where you probably won't get one anyway. i also suggest downloading the files from my ko-fi - they are free/PWYW and you can use them to make your own shirt, patch, embroidery project, whatever. tips are always nice, cuz i do like a pizza now and then, but never required for download.

One explicit rule for this post !!!! No doubting yourself in my notes because "well my doctor hasn't said—" Shaking your shoulders!!!!! medicine is wildly intersexist!! They often lie to very "obviously" intersex people sometimes to the point of harm by ignoring their variation! I know too many horror stories sadly!! Medicine and doctors CAN help you with numbers and images and hard information about your body to lead you to a more clear answer if necessary that much is all true, but you know how your body feels and looks best because you're in it all the time! And ultimately, I will say it infinitely, intersex is first and foremost a social & political label!!!! Medical diagnosis of any variation is NOT a prerequisite to identify with being intersex, and anyone who says such is intermedicalist (link) and not worth listening to, much like transmedicalists!!!!!

Oh by the way. Sliding this in real awkwardly for a pride month post but anyway check out An Intersex Jam 2026 they're running this year too make it big go go go !!!