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A good look at the ways autistic exerience and gender identity intersect.
Content note - this video uses functioning labels that i do not condone, and does not challenge inaccurate assertions that puberty blockers are given freely without thorough assessment.
Autism is known for having a ton of co-occurring conditions that can go along with it, many of which are significantly more common in autist
What exactly is autigender? I've seen it used a few times now but there's several definitions and it's really confusing.
Ok, so this is how I view autigender. I have feels and reasons why I define autigender this way, and if you would like to hear, send another ask.
Autigender is not explicitly saying that “My gender is autism” - it’s not about saying you are a boy, girl, enby, autism, whatever. It’s about your relationship with your gender.
Specifically, gender is a social construct. The primary deficit of autism includes difficulties interpreting and understanding social constructions. This means that we have a disability that inherently makes understanding gender part of our disability.
Because of this, we can have exceptionally complicated and unique understanding of what gender is, how it affects us, and how we express gender.
Autigender is a word that describes this unique, complicated relationship. So when a person is saying that they are autigender, what they are saying is more or less that their understanding of gender is fundamentally altered by their autism.Because autigender describes the relationship with gender, an autigender person’s gender can be, well anything. Boy. Girl. Enby. Cis. Trans. Anything. Agender. Gender Nope.
So what about a person who says they are autigender, and that IS their gender? Well, I think this still describes the relationship with their gender - Specifically in this case, their autism affects their understanding to such a degree that they just can’t be any more descriptive with regards to gender. That leaves the only word they have - autigender.
The could just as easily say, I don’t know, or Gender Nope, or Genderless - and I know a lot of autistics that do.
For me personally, I have a pretty good grasp on my gender - but I don’t know exactly what my gender is. I call my self queer or gender queer or enby, but autigender does describe my relationship with my gender. I know a lot about my gender but there is a wall that I can’t get past and that wall is my understanding of gender - as it is influenced by my autism.
At first the whole idea of autigender made me really uncomfortable because I initially interpreted it as “autism is my gender.” It took a while to get used to, but autigender really clicked for me when I started viewing it as a relationship with gender.
I don’t personally identify as autigender, but it is fair to say that I am autigender. I have that wall, after all. Despite not identifying as autigender, I do fully support the idea of autigender - including its use as a neogender.
Understanding the nuances of autism and social constructs, when a person says “my gender is autism,” allows me to understand where that controversial statement comes from… That is, reaching the point where you understand that autism affects your gender and then… sometimes that’s all you figure out.
That’s okay. Sometimes, we just don’t get answers. And I think autigender is a perfectly wonderful way to communicate all of the the information in this post with a single word - autigender.

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Why do parents of autistic children have a tendency to react so strongly in opposition to adult autistic advocates?
My understanding is that they have been indoctrinated by the dominant narrative surrounding autism.
The demonising, scaremongering, dehumanising rhetoric pushed by the majority of autism organisations and their "awareness" campaigns.
Autism $peaks being the most well-known culprit, but they are by no means the only one.
This pervasive narrative is full of ableist constructs and deductions that are lacking in deeper insight because they are made by professionals who have been observing us from the outside and interpreting our behaviours via the allistic framework of existing and functioning.
From inside our community we have a very different view and it clashes greatly with the picture that has been painted of us.
When we speak up about these discrepancies it challenges the deeply held beliefs of parents who have invested in this narrative of pathology and deficit and burden.
Having deeply held beliefs challenged feels akin to an attack and elicits a state of fear and resistance.
Also parents are under immense pressure, women especially, to be Doing Everything Right and that can foster a sense of insecurity that awakens when their parenting techniques and choices are questioned.
One defence mechanism for feeling insecure is to double down and go on the offensive as a means of self-preservation.
Autistic activists challenge what people think they know about autism and what they think they know about parenting an autistic child and that can be too overwhelming for some people.
It may be especially hard for them when we as activists may not have the energy, ability, patience or desire to construct our sentences in a way that dances around a person's ego and instead we just get right to the point.
We can be blunt and they can interpret it as aggression.
In a lot of situations, not just interacting with parents of autistic kids, we are expected to mask to some degree for what we say to be palatable instead of people just taking on board the information they have been given.
This is other people making us responsible for their own emotional regulation, they don't want the way we say things to cause them any discomfort or distress or else they won't even engage with the words we saying.
Unfortunately we cannot dictate or control other people's emotional reactions aside from pre-empting sensitivity and going gently to try and account for that.
All we can really do is to try and anticipate a defensive and emotional reaction and then decide if we are going to try and deliver our information in a way that accounts for the fragile and defensive state they may be in.
Some days we need to express and honour our pain and anger we let other activists be the gentle patient ones.
There is not a single true and proper way to pursue activism and the message is valid regardless of its delivery: autistic adults know more about the needs of autistic children than ANYONE because we have had 18 years lived experience in that role.
Of course there is always the risk of pushing people away by forcefully, and truthfully, telling them that, by using behaviourist approaches and/or engaging in pursuits to eradicate undesirable autistic traits, they are complicit in the abuse of their child and that they are setting their child up for a lifetime of PTSD.
Most people find that so hard to hear that they decide we are aggressive and unreasonable and that we are telling them are evil.
Being unwittingly complicit in abuse is not the same thing as consciously setting out to damage someone, good people do bad things all the time, but that nuance is often lost on people who feel that being called out on one behaviour/belief/attitide is an attack on their entire existence and is akin to character assassination.
I am aware, from experience, that it can really challenge our sense of identity as morally robust people to be told that our choices and behaviours are harmful.
Thankfully I eventually arrived at a place where I understood that being a good person is less about an inherent internal source of goodness and more about the actions we make, what motivates us to make them and how much care we take to genuinely ensure that we minimise harm and act in the kindest and most nurturing ways possible.
Obviously not everything I do is good because everyone is fallible, to be human is to err.
But learning from mistakes and taking time to force myself to take a seat and observe and listen to people with different lived experiences has helped me wrangle with that wounded feeling that spurs defensive action when informed that I have made a choice that has caused, encouraged, condoned or perpetuated harm.
It's a really really uncomfortable place to be emotionally, and to engage with it and allow it to exist is not at all pleasant - but the outcome is personal growth and a deepening of my compassion and that feels joyful and loving and much more peaceful.
Misguided choices, even with the best of intentions, can cause irrevocable harm.
It does not make you a bad person, it makes you a person who has made a harmful choice - something I can guarantee literally everybody has done in some way or other countless times throughout their lives with varying levels of awareness about the impact of their choices.
For example: my mum loves me fiercely, but the way she raised me has caused me deep hurt and I am spending my adulthood healing from that.
She is, objectively, a good person and I love her very much.
But she made ill-informed judgements and choices and I carry the trauma of that.
My hope is that we can spread awareness and shift attitudes such that actually autistic voices are afforded the gravitas and weight and power to make an impact in the global social narrative around autism.
Where we lead in creating spaces and services for autistic people, autistic people and their families flourish.
It's a very simple notion but shifting the weight and location of power from outside the autistic community to within the autistic community is a massive task and I know I won't live to see my dream realised in its entirety.
I can only hope to observe what progress we are capable of driving forward during my next 50+ years on this planet.
One in five women presenting to UK clinics with anorexia may also have autism, research suggests.
Even more reason for mental health teams to develop a deeper and clearer understanding of autism - to help those with co-occuring mental heath conditions and to understand how also being autistic could mean that a totally different approach is needed.
I personally have a strong drive to make lists and document caloric intake and have to avoid doing so because that behaviour awakens other dangerously eating disorded behaviours, especially as it's all coupled with growing up poor and having extreme sensory issues around food which created a traumatising environment of food scarcity.
Lists and numbers and quantities and goal-setting and rigid plans and prescriptive routine are all aspects of autistic coping - when executive dysfunction makes adapting to change hard then we rely on structure and routine and gathering information/data. Understanding the function of these behaviours will be vital in helping support autistics in recovery from eating disorders.
Ask Me I'm Autistic is an interest group focused on promoting education around Autism within the neurodiversity paradigm. We have a unique c
To join this group you need to have a Facebook account, familiarise yourself with the rules (and make sure you are ready to follow them) and, upon applying to join, answer 3 questions.
This is one of many online spaces where Autistics dedicate their time and energy to educating about autism. These are the sorts of places to go to get Autistic insight into the experience of being Autistic and how best to support Autistic people.
Sir Anthony Hopkins, who was only diagnosed as autistic in 2007, doesn't just act superbly - he also composes classical music. He wrote this waltz in 1964 and did not hear it played until 2011.

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Left At London (sometimes stylized and shortened as /@/), is the stage name of Nat Puff (she/her), a trans woman from Seattle, Washington who is not afraid to let herself be known intimately through her music, while still remaining accessible.
Although Left At London mostly is known for her pop writing sensibility, she is mostly known for her deeply personal and introspective lyricism. Despite some of the songs subject matters being very specific to her life as a trans woman with autism, borderline personality disorder, ADHD, and PTSD, her songwriting style takes these concepts and makes them into something that’s uniquely abstract while still remaining relatable and honest.
Autism is a defining characteristic
A lot of proponents of person-first language (saying person with autism instead of autistic person) say that we aren’t defined by our autism. As one person I spoke to about this put it, “Your autism doesn’t define you; You define you.” After presenting him with the case that I’m about to explain in this post, he quickly changed his mind.
Autism plays a major role in shaping our personalities. It impacts the food we eat, the music we listen to, the clothes we wear, the movies we watch, how we interact with others, and what our hobbies and interests are. Think of any question you’d ask a friend or prospective significant other to get to know them better, and chances are that that particular aspect of their personality would be different if they were autistic.
It’s also important to think of other cases in which we use identity-first language, especially race (black person, white person, etc), sexuality (gay person, bi person, etc), and religion (Christian, Muslim, Buddhist, etc). Autism has a much larger impact on people’s personalities than any of these things, but we never hear anyone say person with black, person with gay, or person with Christianity. Why is that?
As long as there is intolerance for anything that doesn’t conform to social norms, there will be people who try to “cure” people of differences or trying to control their place in society. Fundamentalist Christians force their LGBT kids into gay conversion therapy to “cure” them of that difference, autistic people are subjected to ABA torture and quackery to “cure” them, apostates are shunned by former friends after leaving a cult religion in an effort to force them back into submitting to dogma created by primitive ancient people with no knowledge of science “make them come to their senses.”
Long story short: we are defined by our autism, we don’t wanna be changed, and taking autism away from us would make us fundamentally different people.
Autism 101
Sara (Agony Autie) is autistic herself as well as being the parent to an autistic child. She is motivated to change perceptions and treatment of autistic people in society. These two videos are best watched together.
A few videos from Amythest Schaber's series Ask An Autistic. Please take time to explore their other videos to find answers to other questions you may have about autism.
A selection of videos from autistic youtuber SilentMiaow.
Just because someone is nonverbal, does not mean they don't have anything to say. I have chosen to share these videos as a way to challenge the notion that verbal autistics cannot speak for the whole community. This nonverbal autistic person has very much the same things to say as activists who are percieved, largely by parents and professionals who live/work with autistics who have high support needs and concurrent conditions, to be "high functioning" and therefore unqualified to shed light on autistic experience.

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Rhi is an autistic poet and blogger.
Forgive the clickbait title: this is a video where a trans man talks about his personal experience of the overlap between being autistic, trans and physically disabled.