have me & my 50 cents escaped homelessness yet?

can they? can they stop that? please don't do that?

like i'm glad you remembered i exist but you can just say you recognize me. or "i appreciate your existence," you're an important part of our community, hope you have a good day, happy pride month, you're doing great, etc, etc, we don't have to love each other.

so i’m gonna put it out there ahead of time.

Guache does not like to be photographed : (

I've never liked how on this site it's a borderline social faux pas to unfollow someone if they switch primary fandom. Even if the way it's treated like a betrayal is largely tongue-in-cheek it's still irritating. I followed you (general) to find interesting things to put in my digital collage. Unfollowing you opens up more dashboard space for things I may want to put in my digital collage now that you've moved on to something else that grabs you. This is not a value judgment on you! We've barely even conversed (if ever)! I never signed this social contract you seem to think I did!

not all nonbinary people use they them or even like the set. nonbinary people can use he him, she her, it its, neopronouns, or any combination of these. it is perfectly acceptable and encouraged to default to they them if you do not know a persons pronouns, but the best way to know how to call a nonbinary person is to just ask us.

nonbinary people are not "theys" or "thems" or "they thems" or any term that simplifies us to pronouns. we are not all "things" or "creatures." there are absolutely nonbinary people who are alright with, or even use, these terms, but many of us do not like the dehumanizing aspect of it and find it offensive. the best way to know how to refer to us is to just ask us.

nonbinary people may present any way they want. they can present femininely, masculinely, neutrally, androgynously, or with any other modality. nonbinary people are not required to present "opposite" of their sex and we are not required to present neutrally or androgynously.

nonbinary people can be straight just as they can be gay or lesbian. not all nonbinary people are multisexual. it is entirely up to the person to decide how to label themselves. some nonbinary people use these more well known terms and some use terms made explicitly for nonbinary people such as trixic, toric, enbian, ceterosexual, gai, strayt, uranic, neptunic, and so many more. some nonbinary people use multiple attraction labels and some only use one. some nonbinary people use consistent labels and some nonbinary people use contradictory ones. it is entirely up to the person to decide how to label themselves.

nonbinary people can choose to transition socially, medically, or both. some nonbinary people pick a different name and some use their birth name. some nonbinary people choose a gender neutral name and some choose explicitly masculine or feminine ones. some nonbinary people want to start HRT and some do not. some nonbinary people choose to take typically prescribed amounts and some choose to microdose HRT. some nonbinary people go through the medilegal process and some DIY. some nonbinary people want top surgery and others dont. some nonbinary people desire opposite genitalia and some nonbinary people are fine with their current. some nonbinary people are altersex and desire a mix, combination, or lack of genitalia. some nonbinary people are intersex and many of us are perisex or dyadic.

I've got multiple attempts within the past few years. Not beating that 70/80% of people with BPD attempt suicide at least once in their life statistic. I'm saying this for the context of "I'm not oblivious to how this can be triggering to people, and this topic is something I have experienced attempting multiple times." (Please no "I'm glad you are still here" type of stuff in any replies/answer to this. To me, it comes across as infantilizing.)

Censoring the word "suicide" itself reinforces the "Don't talk about it, even doing so is so triggering to others" stigma. Just tag posts with warnings properly and trust that people with that trigger will filter everything they need to.

Seeing something I have tried and actively deal with near every day with ideation for years be treated as too triggering to even say the word for uncensored tells me that people see my experiences as too scary to hear about. God forbid think about people in my position and what we go through. Might be my lack of empathy, but it reads as performative and infantilizing to go to such lengths to the point you make the word harder to filter or have screenreaders read to protect a group of people who on this platform have tools to filter things.

This is ableism and suicidism.

@thisis-suicidism