Purple Dragon Roleplaying

Even the smartest character can be blind to the most obvious answer.

I've got 30+ muses, and I'd be happy to have someone narrow things down for me... even if it's only a little bit. I'd take the list I was given, consider the other person's muse, and then try to figure out who from the list they gave me would work best against theirs. To me, this really feels like the best option for both of you. They get a muse from you that they're interested in, and you get to pick a muse that works well for you, too.

The chance is very good that this person you're complaining about not only thought they were being helpful by giving you options, but also thought you'd be more likely to agree to an RP if you had options.

Also - I just want to say - of course this person has moved on. They did the damage they intended to. They don't need to linger or dwell on it. People who treat other people like this do it because they enjoy it. It gives them a high to be cruel to some stranger on the internet. Usually because their own lives are lacking... It's why so many of them are repeat offenders. They don't care who they hurt, so long as it makes them feel better about themselves.

In regards to having to 'curb that excitement,' have you thought about other things you can do to hold onto it instead? There's no harm in finding another outlet for what you're feeling while you're waiting for your friend. Drabbles, maybe? Or aesthetic photo posts? Or themed Pinterest boards? What about music playlists? Or even those cute meme-y character quizzes or character designers? You've got a lot of options that might do the trick for you.

A decade ago, I would've thought this post was about me. LOL! I once had a falling out with some people on my RP blog. Those people then got pissy when I blocked them from my gif blog, too. They vagued about it, they got friends who weren't involved to reblog things (just to show me they could.) I even had to make posts about it on the gif blog because their antics forced me to change the things I was posting. It was... an ordeal.

So yeah, if you (collective you) purposefully cause me a problem, I'm not going to think twice about blocking. You're going on that list and you're NEVER coming off. I'm more than happy to be 'childish' if it means I don't have to see your blog in my notifications.

Just because you haven't asked anyone to pick sides, doesn't mean it won't happen. If you've voiced your issue with this person to your mutual partner, it's possible they've just decided the other person's views are more in-line with their own. Rather than make a big issue out of it, they're distancing themselves. Ideally, it would be nice if they could just tell you that and make a clean break, but those kinds of conversations can be hard, and not everyone is up to having them.

Another possibility, if you haven't voiced to the mutual partner why you cut the other person off, is the person you cut off has decided to privately share their side of the story. With only one side to go off of, it's easier to be led into believing that one person is fully 'in the right' and the other is fully 'in the wrong.'

It's also possible your mutual partner is simply worried about potential/future backlash for continuing to write with the other person. Even if you haven't given them any indication of that, past experiences can go a long way to determining how people react in various situations. Maybe they've been burned before and they're trying to give you space.

If I had a partner constantly ignoring my muse's reactions in favor of rushing the story forward, I'd probably drop them.

I will say, however, kudos to you for acknowledging that you need to dial back your own replies. As someone who writes larger replies myself, I know it can be hard. But unless this really is a case of your partner replying/reacting to countless unimportant things, I think this is your best course of action for both you and your partner/s.

I remember an RP I had a long time ago where my partner had their muse do something to annoy my muse, but instead of ending the reply there to give my muse a chance to respond, they continued writing for another paragraph or two, moving the RP forward enough that it essentially eliminated my muse's ability to respond realistically. When I messaged my partner to explain the problem and ask for a bit of a retcon so my muse could reply, she got very upset and passive aggressive about things, and the RP died right there.

It sounds like you'd rather hurt them by ghosting, than risk them thinking poorly of you/'siding' against you... which I just don't get. If they side with the other person, then you haven't really lost anything more than what you're already willing to lose because of ghosting. And if they do side with you, then you know you've probably got someone you can rely on. Talking to them just feels like the optimal solution given the information you've offered.

Positivity blogs are a little different - and (for some of us) can have negative connotations. Blogs where all of the posts are about specific people have a tendency to turn into 'circle jerks,' if you'll forgive the expression. People are always left out and feelings get hurt. It's also harder to get reblogs, because not everyone can relate to 'So-n-so is an amazing RPer and I love them!' when they don't know who So-n-so is.

Eventually, once the blog has made the rounds in a specific RP circle, the interactions die because there's not a lot of sustainability once everyone has sent in things, and everyone else has liked/reblogged them. The only way to get that momentum back for your blog is to move on to a new circle. That's not always easy, so it can be hard to make it happen.

I think, if you want to steadily gain momentum and keep your blog going, you might want to focus on something a little less specific. Move away from naming names, and focus on general positivity posts. Encourage people to send in things that a partner did for them that made them smile (without naming names or giving away too many details.) Ask them to share things they like about RPing in general. Basically, use COAR as a template in regards to rules, etc., but only focus on the good things about RPing.

A blog like COAR can sometimes make us feel like there's nothing good left about writing in the RPC, but I think we all know that's not really the case. COAR just isn't designed to highlight that. But your blog could. :)

You could also create a promo and ask other RP-focused blogs (like COAR) to share it. Get the word out using RP meme blogs, and RP advice blogs, and that sort of thing. Not everyone will say yes, but some will, and it's a good place to start.

Anyway, COAR doesn't have a lot of positivity posts, but I know I always smile when I see one get posted. It'd be nice, I think, to have a blog posting non-specific RP positivity like that every day. :)

I'm not sure if I seen any posts going around discussing the recent VERY DETAILED (and honestly kind of poetic in how vitriolic they are) AI generated spambots on AO3.

I feel like I just need to spread the word, because these guys are NASTY. But they aren't real! You can tell that by the fact that they don't mention a fandom, a character, or anything even remotely about the fic itself.