confessions by and for roleplayers

News flash: You don't get a pass to steal and repost art just because you're a roleplay blog. It's still wrong, no matter how much it fits your muse.

I know this is hardly a unique feeling, but it sucks being absolutely nobody's favorite for a long time. I'm tired of constantly being torn between wanting to compete for my mutuals' attention and the notion of waiting patiently and just… being there, consistently, hoping that somehow that will translate into being considered worth the time and consideration I push in. I'm a grown adult who feels like the kid who never gets picked for group assignments in class. I don't know, just wanted to get it off my chest.

There's a popular psa post going around claiming 'you're not being ignored by your partners.' It goes on to say that even if your partners are replying to everyone else, it's just your jealousy and insecurity that makes you think you're being ignored. While that may be true in some cases, it's also downright naive and manipulative to insist your mutuals would never ignore you. We all know the rpc has a bad communication issue. There ARE absolutely many people who would rather ignore you than straight up tell you they've lost interest.

hot take: roleplayers who don't have super fancy and detailed graphics are usually much better at writing AND better at actually communicating and not being flaky

No I’m not going to change how my muse behaves to fit with your shipping desires. That’s not how RP works

“Writing my OC is Hard, no one asks me about the stuff I want to talk about.” You're getting engagement, more than I usually see on OC blogs. People love your muse, interact all the time, send memes and asks. If you have a topic you want to discuss specifically, why not make a post about it, write headcanons or an analysis or do a write up on it. Instead, you try and guilt trip followers because you're not getting asked questions on a specific thing you want to talk about

why is it that is seems like no one reblogs promos anymore? everytime someone promos their post these days it's just crickets.

It's kind of annoying that people have all this bad stuff to say about me or assume about me here when most of what I 'did' was due to being young and inexperienced with life and socializing (autism AND glass child life yaaayyy….) or taking steps to better my environment and who I surrounded myself with at the time. IE: Blocking someone as soon as a reliable source told me they were talking shit behind my back, in addition to already having suspicions that they had been doing that for a LONG time. Was it handled gracefully on my end? Probably not, but there's no real graceful way to remove someone who actively spoke badly about me, but never told me anything directly. Especially if they decided to get loud and public about me having blocked them. I tried to make it a silent, uneventful block, but…. they decided to make it public under assumptions that were not true. Idk man. If they all want to still adhere to assumptions that were never true in the first place, it's whatever. Still stings sometimes though, but thankfully ONLY sometimes.

True, there may be some people who will write with my female OCs of color but I can’t always be the one who makes an effort reaching out to people and engage with others. Not many will do that but when it comes to a white male OC muse with a popular FC they do a bare minimum yet they still get so many interactions. See the goddamn problem here how we’re always at the bottom and we get treated unfairly?

However, I don’t think I have ever felt such a wave of unbridled hatred towards another person before because they made my escapism crutch such a space of anger and dread. Luckily, despite their accusations of my own character, I knew to take a step back, breathe and then act. I was able to work out that my anger towards this person was because of my need to be able to ignore what was happening elsewhere in the world and not because they had formed an absurd opinion about me and took a disliking to my muses on whatever witch hunt they were on. I was still angry at them don’t get me wrong, but they didn’t deserve actual hatred, it was just easier for me to channel my frustrations about the world and project it onto them for what they were doing to me. They simply didn’t know how to curate their own space and sought to police the rpc based only on their personal preference. They also seemed to struggle to differentiate between fictional writing and reality and thought because I wrote these muses, I must also be a villain. I blocked every single account that so much as liked any of the callout posts or that sent any abusive ask or IM. I went as far as to check their blogs and any untagged posts about my muses and blog and blocked any of their mutuals who interacted there too. I never publicly responded in anger to this group. Just removed all of them from my space without engaging any of them. It’s been a much easier ride since, no hate, no tags to abusive posts claiming unhinged things about me because of my muses. Just me and my friends carrying on and not even a whisper from the witch hunt which didn’t affect who wrote with me, what I wrote or how. I let them have their opinions, didn’t put a word of it on my blog and silently removed them from my space. I wish the initial person who started it all had just blocked and moved on since they felt so offended by the initial muse. It would have been so simple. All that to say, if you’re not hurting anyone in your rps and you and your friends are having a grand old time, then carry on. Block the haters, they get bored when you don’t take their bait apparently. You’re doing fine. But also remember with everything else happening, it’s worth taking a moment to step back and put it into perspective. My emotions were running high because of the state of reality and it’s very likely theirs were too. It just all got blown out of proportion. I’ve seen big arguments here about blocking and the occasional confession about being confused why a blog has blocked someone they never interacted with. I hope my story provides an answer to that and that blocking strangers isn’t bullying them when you yourself are made into a target by someone who can’t work out how to curate their own space without loudly and viciously making their thoughts known with total disregard for you as another human being. Block away I say, it’s been much nicer since for me.

Can we please, PLEASE stop asking for RP on anon. I'm not going to agree to write with someone or agree to check out someone's blog when I have no idea who I'm talking to. You can say maybe the person is shy or has anxiety or whatever, but it really just feels like a way to get around people's rules, especially when they're mutuals only like me.

I didn't say no and drop you because I'm misogynistic or hate female OCs. I dropped you because not only did you break multiple rules of mine, you were only trying to get smut out of me. You tried to insert sexual tension right off the bat, made every single interaction turn sexual when it made no sense to, you were very obviously trying to push something I clearly said I didn't want. Not to mention you couldn't shut up about how hot you thought my muse's faceclaim was. Sometimes it is in fact YOU and not the gender of your muse.

i’ve known you for years and you’ve never fixed this issue of yours. you hyperfocus on one ship partner once you find a ship you enjoy, and then you exclude everyone else. all your other threads are dropped and you never fulfill your starter calls. and even before you became hyperfocused, you never really interacted with your mutuals much anyway. you never liked their ooc posts or headcanons, never sent them memes, unless they were already a friend of yours. but like clockwork, you start to notice people interact with you less, and then you get insecure and a little guilt-trippy on the dash. even when i was your ship partner and favorite person, i told you that you needed to give others the time of day. you needed to express interest in your mutuals if you want them to continue expressing interest in you. it’s not hard. it’s not rocket science. you said you knew that and that you’d try harder, but you try to rectify your behavior for like a week or two, and then stop. and i know other people have told you the same as i did, and you just repeat the same thing. you’re on your 1000th blog at this point and… it’s the same old song. you don’t think people are interested in your muses anymore… that your ocs must be boring… that you should just delete… now, people aren’t pandering to you anymore. and once again, i hear from people in our circle that it’s hard to offer condolences even though they feel for you because you just don’t care about others. you don’t try to learn about their ocs or their canons. you don’t offer much in the way of plotting. you still aren’t interacting with people on the dash unless it’s your two friends. you don’t send memes, you don’t like starter calls. when are you going to finally wake up? everyone wants a village, but they don’t want to be a villager. i’m sorry, but that’s just not how things work in this community.

sad that this needs to be said in 2026 but some of you need to hear it: no, vibes alone aren't enough to cancel someone. you can't cancel people over vibes and you're gonna look deranged if you try. this goes for ai use, anon hate, drama, etc unless you have SOLID PROOF that someone has actually done something, do yourself a favour and keep quiet. vibes aren't proof. gut feelings aren't proof. claiming that you "can tell" isn't proof. you think i don't get it? bitch i also think my rpc's got awful people, but i don't have proof so i keep my mouth shut. i'm not trying to make a fool of myself. i'd rather block, move on and keep my dignity. you want to be right so badly you will throw your dignity under the bus. sure back in 2018, 2019, you could've cancelled people over vibes, it would've worked probably, but its 2026. look up "cancelculture fatigue" and sit down. no one gives a fuck about your moral discourse anymore. speak out when you have proof.

God I miss when I felt safe writing ladywhump with people. After one too many experiences realizing too late that the other person was excited to write graphic violence and sexual assault happening to women, not as a way to demonstrate love for the character, but as a gleeful punishment for whatever made my writing partners hate them so much, I don't risk it anymore. Ugh.

~ Mod MJ ~

~ Mod MJ ~