confessions by and for roleplayers

Stop woobifi villains so you can justify liking and shipping them. Write and like them for what and who they are. If you can't embrace their true nature and are unwilling to acknowledge that they are terrible, then DON'T. WRITE. VILLAINS.

BE. HONEST. AND. CLEAR. ABOUT. WHAT. YOU. WANT. You only want f/m smut with twenty different female muses whose only difference is their shade of blonde? That's fine. Say that. Don't claim you're there for plot. Don't give them a sexuality they'll never actually use. Just be honest. You only want m/m smut and you always write the needy bottom? Go for it. Don't pretend you care about naturally developed dynamics. Don't act like your muses are into women. Just say what you want. And if you have a "no taboo" rule — explain it. Actually explain it. I've seen people call childhood friends to lovers pedophilic grooming. I've seen hero/villain labeled as problematic. So what exactly do YOU mean? Does my muse having trauma count? Does something bad happening in their past break your rule? Because "no taboo" means nothing without context, and it means even less when I can see you writing teacher/student on your blog. The real issue is that everyone is so afraid of looking problematic that they've scrubbed their blogs clean of any actual personality — and then wonder why they get no interaction, no good plots, none of what they actually want. I have more respect for a blog that says "I'm here to get my rocks off, all my muses are gay, here are my kinks" than for a blog so whitewashed it has no identity left. Say what you want. People will find you. Pretending gets nobody anywhere.

I got a random like on a very old post. The post was a lengthy starter for a closed RP, and rereading it reminded me that I write very well. It was active, it was accessible, there was lots to respond to in it. But the mun I wrote it for never replied to it, nor many other starters I spend a lot of time and effort making as interesting and "respond-able" as possible. They claimed to love our characters' dynamic, but almost never put in the effort. I eventually soft-blocked them because I couldn't stand to see them being so active with other people on my dash and so inactive with me. They hard-blocked me sometime later… which by then seemed on-brand. After rereading the liked starter, I deleted it. It was well-written, but I don't need or want monuments to one-sided efforts on my blog.

I keep getting followed by blogs that must be ran by the same mun. The icons are very similar to each other, all blogs have nearly identical theme layouts, and it's always the same type of very niche muse that no one else would write. I note this because on every blog, the mun has a different alias. Which I find to be peculiar. Not complaining or saying this is wrong, I just think it's kind of odd

i hate that i feel so much resentment towards the rpc for my fandom and the other people who play the same character as me. it's already a small fandom with only a handful of rpers and while its technically part of a multiverse and so there are other connected fandoms, its still hard to find anyone but the big rpers. And most of rpers I do find are already mutuals with the other people who rp the same character as me since they've been around longer. and I've tried branching out to blogs for other fandoms I like but not only are the rp tags a mess (seriously people stop spamming them with ooc posts or every single ask from your blog) but when I do find muses I'm interested in a lot of the time they don't follow back or I can't figure out a good way for us to interact. And to add insult to injury, the other people who play the character don't seem to actually care about her being ic at all, they're playing an oc performing identity theft for the sake of shipping. and maybe that's part of my problem, I'm very selective about shipping as well as mutuals only. and like I know no one is obligated to RP with me, but that doesn't stop me from feeling upset and jealous and depressed about the lack of interactions

nothing pisses me off more than when I’m trying to join a rp with an unclear concept and instead of answering me directly the host just says “you’ll see!” hey thanks for that, i’m really excited to join your roleplay i know literally nothing about and have nothing to expect from!!! like this is the worst possible thing you could vague for maybe. i can understand if it’s like a mystery rp but if you’re hiding the basic premise of the roleplay im not even gonna bother

Nothing to humble an artist like posting some gift art for a partner and having them suddenly ghost your threads and stop interacting with you at all. Was my art really that bad? 😞

don't keep partners around that will clog your dash, constantly interact with their besties but completely ghost you in every way or shape. they are simply not worth your time and attention. they already found their clique and you are clearly not part of it. find yourself partners that care and interact with you.

Going through a little wave of my blogs getting deleted by tumblr. I tag everything consistently so that people can black list what they don’t want to see. I had to contact support to get three of my blogs back because I logged on one day and they were all just gone. One of them is still not reactivated. No link, no account list, little grey faces on my partner’s blogs where I had replied previously. Turns out someone reported me. Maybe for my muses, maybe out of something personal, maybe because I can quick thread with mains. I nearly lost everything because someone refuses to blacklist, use xkit or you know just unfollow. I sincerely hope this person steps on a lego barefoot every day for the rest of their life. What a miserable person to have in the rpc.

You reblog memes saying don't worry if you take a long time to reply. Yet you soft-blocked me for what? Never sending you anything? hardly being on? I'm sure you followed me originally, but you never liked my rules post. Yes, I probably should have sent off your password. But you never sent me anything. I have it on my blog description that I'm low activity. It really do be one rule for me, but not for thee. I've now blocked you because I'm not going to play whatever game you're playing.

I reblog all promos one of my mutuals makes whenever they make them, I gush about them in the tags and mention our muse parings that I love writing with them and that others should give them a go. I very rarely post a new promo for my blogs but recently I did and they liked it but never reblogged it. It's been weeks. That really hurt, especially when they kick up a fuss to me when someone else doesn't reblog their promo. What did they expect me to think now that they haven't reblogged mine?

Confessing that I have returned to tumblr after Covid… wait, that was 7 years ago. Damn.. I'm old.. But is the rpc even here still?

It sucks when I keep trying to get more mutuals to interact with me yet it's only the same one or two people that ever do and they only very rarely do. I almost want to ask them to pause to see if the lack of anything at all would encourage someone new to step in but I doubt they would. It makes me wonder why most of these people even followed me to begin with?

What is the point of adding someone to discuss plotting only for you to say sorry i have too many threads then unfriend them before they can reply? I just wanted to say okay maybe later and i can't. I don't know why i bother trying to rp anymore. the way rpers interact with other rpers. we aren't ai, we are humans. yet people dismiss others like they aren't real.

You do not get to dictate what happens to my muse, if we're plotting for where the thread is going and what will happen, then only I can decide what happens to my muse in any thread we have in dangerous situations. You don't get to turn around and tell me that it won't happen when it's not in your muses' control. If you can't accept that then we're not going to write together.

I’ve been in online arguments myself (though not often, thankfully.)  I 100% get how hard it is to walk away when you feel like you’re being wronged/misunderstood/ganged up on/etc.  But on this blog, the mods NEED you to help us by stepping back and letting us do our jobs.  Making a bad situation worse is never the answer. *attack ≠ argue with ~ Mod MJ ~

hot take but it absolutely does not matter what someone does to a fictional character. all that matters is how you treat real people.