confessions by and for roleplayers

It pisses me off whenever I see my bully gets positivity and shoutouts. It makes me wanna warn anyone to show how terrible person they are but too bad they’re super popular.

As a multimuse, I am very chill about people not picking a muse. I happily pick a muse for them at random, no problen. HOWEVER, if you want a prompt or starter from a specific muse, you have to tell me. Because surprise, I'm not a mind-reader, and I let my mutuals know that. If you wand Muse B instead Muse E from that starter call, comment on it. If someone repeatedly refuses to specify a muse but also ignores what I wrote or sent them, I softblock them. Either specify a muse if you have strong preferences, or deal with what I give you. That shouldn't be so hard to understand.

I don't understand people getting upset about inbox calls. Especially if someone runs a multimuse, and have inspiration for specific muses, they can post one or multiple inbox calls for those muses and see if their mutuals are interested in getting them in their inbox. No big deal.

I hate that this community had jaded me so much that when I see a mutual replying back and forth quickly with an rp partner while a ton of things like our threads are stuck their drafts for weeks, I'm not happy for them like I used to be. I'm bitter. I'm jealous. I fear I'm being fucking lied to my face again about the person wanting to write with me. That I'm being led on. I hate it. I wish I could think "good for them!" all happy like I used to!

I don’t have any issues writing with any OC regardless of their race. I write OCs of color and I usually get blocked and unfollowed by OCs who uses white and overused FCs because I’m not afraid to be vocal how we usually get overlooked and ignored. It’s upsetting. I wish I get the same treatment as them. That’s all I ask for.

i’m all for wanting to be inclusive and writing with a large amount of people who write the same muse, but there does come a point where it starts to feel like you’re just collecting people. this goes doubly so when a lot of these connections start to sound the same with nothing much—or at all—to differentiate them. i’m an actual person behind the screen with my own ideas and ways of handling my muse. i’m not a virtual doll that you can just hit copy-paste with when you’re other partner is busy. i’m starting not to trust people who boast about inclusivity and not doing mains or whatever because they’ve all been guilty of doing this.

I never know whether I should include a list the characters I absolutely refuse to ship my character with in my rules. Like I'm very picky about ships with this character and a lot of the popular ones in the fandom I hate, so part of me thinks I should go 'I won't ship with these characters' in my rules so people don't follow hoping for it, but at the same time it antagonistic to do that

I don't understand why it is so hard to check out new followers asap, especially if you're active on your blog every day, actively engaging and replying to memes. I get that you want to make sure the blog matches, but reading the rules and checking out the last couple of pages is not THAT difficult or time-consuming, let's be real here. I do understand it when someone is not active daily and has only limited time, but way too many people here like to play power games.

You can’t blame OCs of color writers to voice out how they’re always ignored and won’t get priorities unlike white muses, especially when they have tried to put themselves out there, like someone’s starters and reaching out in general. We can’t always be the ones who try to initiate interactions all the time. We’re getting sick and tired of rps being one-sided. Is there a fair reason why we always get ignored and almost everyone prefers white muses? And don’t you dare tell us our FCs aren’t attractive and popular enough to your damn liking, you all are just thirsty and weak.

I don't know what I'm suppose to do anymore. I have multiple mutuals who I send asks to, yet only one or two return the favor. I reply to every ask they answer to start a thread but I'm lucky if that gets one reply or even a like from the person who sent the ask in. I haven't gotten a thread beyond three posts with any of these new mutuals with me as the last poster every time. I have a graveyard of forgotten threads. I've talked to many of these mutuals in DMs, plotted, and yet- Nothing. I can't get any RP going consistently while I watch these people interact with each other. I have open starters, post starter calls that get ignored, and send an ask meme almost every time I see them on my dash. Why are you all mutuals with me if you never plan to RP with me? What am I suppose to do at this point? What am I doing wrong?

What is it with no one reblogging promos anymore? gotta miss the days when everyone shared, commented, etc.

some of yall confuse accountability with public humiliation and i've been uncomfortable with it for a long time. i need to get out of this shit ass circle. idc if we're mains, affiliates or exclusives. i'm gonna start blocking anyone i see doing this.

I totally get updating your mutuals on when you’re going to be busy or if you’re sick. That makes sense to me. What I struggle to get is updating daily, sometimes multiple times a day, to tell us ALL about your schedule before you can get to drafts. I’m not saying this to be mean, but it does make me genuinely scratch my head. I don’t need to know the specifics of your class schedule, the list of things you’re doing in the gym today, the details of all the errands you’re running, or… anything like that. I also don’t need constant updates on when you’re done with something and moving on to the next thing either. None of us do. I only care if you’re busy [general] and doing well [general]. To me, it sounds like you need a Twitter account and that you also want the attention that comes from likes on your OOC posts. I’m sure this will get some, “wELL uNfoLLoW!! PEopLe cAN pOsT whaT tHey wAnT!!” types, but so be it.

Well if you delete all of our threads from your blog, no I’m not going to send you memes because now how do I know you won’t just do the same with anything else we write? No thanks

'wow i'd like to find some new partners to write with' I say. I go into the rp tags for different fandoms I'm in. 'Blog spamming the tag with every single asks they get on their blog, ic or ooc' 'dash commentary' 'rp group promo that gets spammed every day' 'oooc posts about the mun's mental health' 'oh hey, theres's finally a promo and the character looks interesting' the blog has no rules or about page that I can locate.

Getting frustrated with the main mod of a roleplay I’m running. Feel like he’s running this roleplay with his phone in one hand and his dick in the other. Most of the story arcs are centered around whatever he finds attractive, with no regard as to how it affects what other people have set up or tried to make. He keeps a continuity to it, and the plots are always fun and good, but they only exist cause the concept behind it gets his dick hard. And as a comod who’s trying to help write the rp and make things work, it’s frustrating when I ask for how the rules of certain things work, and I only get half an answer because he doesn’t know. Recently a friend of his joined who he’s super close with, and the friend’s made a bunch of characters that interact with plot elements in ways that until now I’d been told would have been entirely impossible. But it’s fine I guess cause he likes this guy and wants to make a good impression. I feel like I don’t even know what the story is about anymore.

Deep dark confession but it might be of use to some here. If a mutual posts a ton of ooc content or spams the dash regularly with live blogging or rapid one liner replies constantly, I blacklist their URL and Xkit removes all of their posts from the dash. I know this is frowned upon as we’re supposed to support our mutuals but without this feature I’d unfollow and that is somehow considered socially worse than quietly blacklisting. This removes all of the dash spam and I can scroll without just having one blog dominating my feed with posts unrelated to their muse or fandom. However, this means that I don’t see their memes, their promos, their starter calls or opens. I get a notification when they reply to our thread and I can plot freely and happily with them in the IMs. I don’t mean to make people paranoid about it here but for those of you saying that you don’t get any memes or promo reblogs from your partners it might be that they do as I have done. Too much ooc, unrelated media content or dash spamming might be the cause. That all being said if one of my blacklisted mutuals ever just asked me “hey can you take a look at my memes” id do so in a heartbeat for them. I just can’t have my dash completely clogged with posts that are not really things I want to engage with. That is going to mean a sacrifice of missing out on the stuff I would usually engage with.