confessions by and for roleplayers

I love my friend a lot, but every time they get really into a game or a call, rp replies almost completely stop. Sometimes I'm perfectly fine with it, but lots of times, like the most recent incident, it kinda hurts because I'm so excited for the rps we were either about to do or were in the middle of doing, and suddenly I have to curb that excitement. But at the same time, I'm happy they're having fun, and we both can lose track of time really easily, plus we'll probably get back into it just fine later, so I'm not exactly mad either… I just wish I could complain or ask for us to do more replies without feeling like I'm hounding or shaming them…

Someone who's always saying "write with my OCs not just my canons," who actually gets a LOT of interactions with their OCs, deciding to ditch their multimuse to make a single muse blog for a popular male canon? Right after getting dozens of likes on their starter call for their OCs? And now hasn't touched any of the threads for their OCs in months? How funny. I was really excited to thread with your female OC. I had a lot of fun planning it with you and I even did a bunch of research for the plot (which, honestly, I don't typically do). But now you're just fishing for ships and smut with your male canon and haven't touched your OCs or apologized for being gone or anything in months. Why did you even write all of us starters if you were just going to leave? I sure hope that whenever you come back to your OCs, if you ever do, that you don't start begging for threads again. And don't you dare make another "write with OCs not just canons, we love OCs on this blog, support female OCs" post. Because a bunch of us tried and you abandoned all your OCs' threads to write a popular male canon character instead. And I'm not saying that you can't write that muse too, of course you can. It's the fact that you dropped everything you had with every single other muse in the process and left us all hanging without apology.

you know, people here will be 'female muses this' and 'female muses that', but where are those people feeling so strongly defensive and supportive of female muses when a writer feels openly insecure about their female OC and needs encouragement?? I was the only one encouraging my partner in a moment of need while everyone else was crickets. so how about you stop being performative shits here and go actually support those writers out there when they feel sad and lonely and insecure??

i don’t really get why some muns state their ethnicity, sexual orientation, specific health issues, and relationship status in their promos or pinned posts… i’m not looking to date you. i only care if you write well, aren’t a bigot in any way (this counts as doing adequate research on certain ethnic or religious customs you’re not familiar with for your characters and so on), and you’re respectful toward me and other writers.

I believe EVERYONE in the RPC is talented in some way in this hobby. Whether it's insanely detailed and immersive writing, telling fun stories without being overly full of themselves, insanely beautiful graphics that flow with wonderful threads, or being genuinely friendly and uplifting when this hobby and community becomes a place of negativity and chaos. We all need to remember this isn't that serious - we're playing barbies on the internet and this is supposed to be fun. I hope you all recognize your talent and it warms your heart, and that you reach out to your friends and even just your casual mutuals and let them know you see them, appreciate them, love what they are doing too. <3

If I reach out to you to plot and you make me do all of the work in establishing the setting, picking the verse for YOUR muse AND my muse, establishing the dynamic, ontop of getting the feeling that i'm potentially writing the starter that I KNOW is not going to get answered, i'm checking out and i dont feel bad I never mind initiating and maybe my expectations for plotting are high? Or too goal oriented towards plot points? But I don't understand why you like my calls and ask for starters if you don't put in EFFORT and sprinkle maybe the barest of details on top of whatever we do. I'd rather you tell me you don't have the bandwidth for anything right now because I'm fine with that. I'm 100% okay with revisting it. But this isnt the first time this has happened and I feel like you want me to lean towards a specific dynamic ( romantic ) but you dont say that shit either! So why would I? Tell me that's what you want and we can discuss if it's possible. I constantly feel like I'm being harsh whenever it comes to things like this but like, i'm trying to enjoy my hobby and i have limited time to do that! It's supposed to be collaborative! Why the fuck do i have to do the work for you if I'm already willing to work with you???? And it sucks because you're very polite in dms but like… making me do the work is very annoying. Be ASSERTIVE. Stop being passive. Im not an npc that's going to throw prompts at you. You want shit? Work with me.

The people who are throwing a fit about not being given an explanation about why they are being blocked prior to being blocked by total strangers on the internet, are the same people who need fictional characters in book where one murders the other to turn to them and tell them "murder is wrong".

If I'm skipping over three paragraphs of your muse just berating mine in some internal monologue and all you've actually given me to respond to AFTER mercilessly hating on my muse, is nothing more than an 'Ok' then I'm sorry but that thread isn't worth my energy. Go hate on someone else.

i fully agree that people who use ai to write should know better. shame on them. i'm blocking, i don't WANT to hear it. i have zero tolerance for that shit. however - this also means that we need to be careful with ai accusations. the more firm your anti-ai stance is, the more careful you need to be before you claim someone is using it to write. otherwise you'll end up shaming someone who doesn't use ai and making a fool of yourself. sincerely, someone who hates both ai use and false callouts equally.

making a 'whoever follows first interacts first' rule on my blog has been a really great decision. not only does it take off the stress of how to approach new followers (especially ones who aren't in any fandom i have an au for), but it also forces me to be real with myself when i'm thinking about following new blogs.

i’m ngl, i’ve grown a little wary of people who say they prioritize ocs… in my experience, that just means they prioritize theirs and make fake-positivity posts about loving to interact with ocs. go through their blog, and it’s just a ton of ooc posts about wanting to ship their ocs with canons. they push their near-perfect oc on all your canons and try to steer toward shipping. but they never write any of their muses, be it canon or original, with other ocs. they never give that same energy back when it comes to loving or hyping up their mutuals’ ocs at all.

Me not sending you prompts when you reblog a meme is not me suddenly hating you or having lost interest in interactions with you. It's because we have a thousand threads already and you always, without fail, want to continue the asks into full blown threads. I love writing with you but please, please let me catch up without you getting offended that I didn't send you more when I am getting buried in drafts just for you already.

I appreciate this mutual for sticking with me through the years of rping, but I have this concern they keep on starting new threads coming from memes and they never ended it to the point they’ve got more than hundred drafts. I don’t know how to communicate with them regarding this situation. Although I don’t mind waiting them for responses, they always keep mentioning they feel guilty for dropping threads with anyone. I’m chill and I don’t mind them dropping our interactions and start over, but this has been more frequent and I wish I could let them know it’s not working out for me and I want to have more solid and plotted threads for my muses, but they’re one of the few people left who care about my muses when no one does, and I’d be feeling guilty if I ever drop them as a rp partner because they appreciate me as well, and I appreciate them too. I honestly don’t know what to do.

No one is obligated to follow OCs of color but given this is the recurring issue, it’s evident not many are interested and I chose to be vocal about this because white and attractive male muses get all the interactions they want and it pisses us off. I’m a mun of color and I have the right to be upset and disappointed how this site treats us differently. No one would prioritize us when it comes to interactions. No one bothers to engage with us or support us and some of us leave because we don’t get that same treatment. Don’t you know how fucking messed up and shitty that is?

I find it frustrating that people expect you to interact with them if you follow first, yet don't do it themselves. And say if you're interested, send me something. I'm sure I sent you something, if not a few times, but you have since soft-blocked me because I have been low-activity. I understand you have every right not to reply to anything. And I have even been thinking about unfollowing you because you never initiated anything when I was on. But you have never shown interest in my blog besides following me. Should I have tried harder to interact, maybe? But if I can't think of anything, or none of your memes spark inspiration, I'm not going to do anything. And I'm sure if I try to follow back, you'll just hard-block me, claiming I'm block evading as per your rules. I'm not even going to say anything about the fact that you never showed that you read my rules. Even though I think I did, if I didn't, then whoops. But you should have done it because you followed me first.

Me: (thinking to myself) Eh, I don't know if I really feel like writing this drabble. What's the point? I already have it all in my head. Writing it out will just be a waste of time. Mutuals: (commenting on a post I made about the idea of it) You should write it! It sounds really interesting! I want to read more about these characters! Me: All right, I guess I'll go ahead and do it. Me: (spends time and energy writing it) (Nobody reads it) Me: Ah. Yeah. I remember why I didn't want to bother writing it now. Guess it was good to have the reminder.

I think above all else in this hobby I'm tired of people lying to me. I can say I want people to me honest with me into I'm blue in the face. I can say all I want that i take rejection fine and prefer people communicate instead of wordlessly blocking. People lie anyways. They say they are interested in our rp, but they don't show it. Everyone else gets rapid fire replies. I'm tired.