confessions by and for roleplayers

I don't know what I'm suppose to do anymore. I have multiple mutuals who I send asks to, yet only one or two return the favor. I reply to every ask they answer to start a thread but I'm lucky if that gets one reply or even a like from the person who sent the ask in. I haven't gotten a thread beyond three posts with any of these new mutuals with me as the last poster every time. I have a graveyard of forgotten threads. I've talked to many of these mutuals in DMs, plotted, and yet- Nothing. I can't get any RP going consistently while I watch these people interact with each other. I have open starters, post starter calls that get ignored, and send an ask meme almost every time I see them on my dash. Why are you all mutuals with me if you never plan to RP with me? What am I suppose to do at this point? What am I doing wrong?

What is it with no one reblogging promos anymore? gotta miss the days when everyone shared, commented, etc.

some of yall confuse accountability with public humiliation and i've been uncomfortable with it for a long time. i need to get out of this shit ass circle. idc if we're mains, affiliates or exclusives. i'm gonna start blocking anyone i see doing this.

I totally get updating your mutuals on when you’re going to be busy or if you’re sick. That makes sense to me. What I struggle to get is updating daily, sometimes multiple times a day, to tell us ALL about your schedule before you can get to drafts. I’m not saying this to be mean, but it does make me genuinely scratch my head. I don’t need to know the specifics of your class schedule, the list of things you’re doing in the gym today, the details of all the errands you’re running, or… anything like that. I also don’t need constant updates on when you’re done with something and moving on to the next thing either. None of us do. I only care if you’re busy [general] and doing well [general]. To me, it sounds like you need a Twitter account and that you also want the attention that comes from likes on your OOC posts. I’m sure this will get some, “wELL uNfoLLoW!! PEopLe cAN pOsT whaT tHey wAnT!!” types, but so be it.

Well if you delete all of our threads from your blog, no I’m not going to send you memes because now how do I know you won’t just do the same with anything else we write? No thanks

'wow i'd like to find some new partners to write with' I say. I go into the rp tags for different fandoms I'm in. 'Blog spamming the tag with every single asks they get on their blog, ic or ooc' 'dash commentary' 'rp group promo that gets spammed every day' 'oooc posts about the mun's mental health' 'oh hey, theres's finally a promo and the character looks interesting' the blog has no rules or about page that I can locate.

Getting frustrated with the main mod of a roleplay I’m running. Feel like he’s running this roleplay with his phone in one hand and his dick in the other. Most of the story arcs are centered around whatever he finds attractive, with no regard as to how it affects what other people have set up or tried to make. He keeps a continuity to it, and the plots are always fun and good, but they only exist cause the concept behind it gets his dick hard. And as a comod who’s trying to help write the rp and make things work, it’s frustrating when I ask for how the rules of certain things work, and I only get half an answer because he doesn’t know. Recently a friend of his joined who he’s super close with, and the friend’s made a bunch of characters that interact with plot elements in ways that until now I’d been told would have been entirely impossible. But it’s fine I guess cause he likes this guy and wants to make a good impression. I feel like I don’t even know what the story is about anymore.

Deep dark confession but it might be of use to some here. If a mutual posts a ton of ooc content or spams the dash regularly with live blogging or rapid one liner replies constantly, I blacklist their URL and Xkit removes all of their posts from the dash. I know this is frowned upon as we’re supposed to support our mutuals but without this feature I’d unfollow and that is somehow considered socially worse than quietly blacklisting. This removes all of the dash spam and I can scroll without just having one blog dominating my feed with posts unrelated to their muse or fandom. However, this means that I don’t see their memes, their promos, their starter calls or opens. I get a notification when they reply to our thread and I can plot freely and happily with them in the IMs. I don’t mean to make people paranoid about it here but for those of you saying that you don’t get any memes or promo reblogs from your partners it might be that they do as I have done. Too much ooc, unrelated media content or dash spamming might be the cause. That all being said if one of my blacklisted mutuals ever just asked me “hey can you take a look at my memes” id do so in a heartbeat for them. I just can’t have my dash completely clogged with posts that are not really things I want to engage with. That is going to mean a sacrifice of missing out on the stuff I would usually engage with.

I'm not generally in the business of judging people, like you do you for real. But I'm not following you if I gotta squint through several layers of gaudy, garish graphics and PSDs to see your little oversaturated icons next to your tiny colored text. Like this shit almost feels intentionally bad.

I'm very, very duplicate friendly. If a person who writes the same muse isn't, I just steer clear of their blog. But the second I see them writing the same AU I have been writing for months with a mutual? I hardblock them. Good luck getting ideas from me now, you loser.

some people use blocking as a bullying tactic. i've seen multiple writers ostracized from specific fandoms or communities because one of the louder people within that niche does not like them for whatever reason (usually jealousy).

the number of male rpers on this site who manipulate and use their female writing partners ooc is shockingly high. they only realize it when it's too late and they've got half the site blocked for … what? e-dick who used you for nudes? get a grip.

If you post and complain that it feels like "no one is interested in my headcanons or anything I write" and yet you have two or three mutuals that actively engage with your headcanons and posts? Kindly shut up. I get wanting to feel validated, but essentially telling the ones that actively show up for you that they arent enough because you want accolades and affection of more and more people, because you used to get so much attention writing fanfic? Frankly is being a bad friend and a shitty RP partner. If you were so popular on wattpad, then go back to writing fanfic and stop making people feel shitty and worthless, and expected them to fawn over you when your writing is actually shitty and self serving, rather than collaborative.

I love that you found new friends and abandoned all our threads despite them being your "favorites". I really wish I could just block you even though we're supposed to be friends.

"Me! Me! Me! Give ME all your attention/interest or else I'll softblock you!" Nah, I'd rather not, actually. I'm going to do us both a favour and just hardblock and move on.

i love to both write and draw my blorbos but the longer I look at the rpc, the more I feel that maybe I should just stick to enjoying my faves by drawing them, because a lot of people in this community genuinely piss me off

i'm the type of person that doesn't make a habit of wishing ill on others and i don't make fun of people's circumstances because we all are one medical bill away from not being able to do anything on this planet. HOWEVER, i do believe in karma. and i do think if you treat strangers like shit while participating in a HOBBY we're all supposed to enjoy, you're gonna have days and company that you deserve 🍵 so ACTUALLY treat people the way you want to be treated--even if you do not know them--and BE HONEST with yourself about how you treat others. because what you do will eventually be reflected back at you. and if you're piece of shit victimizing yourself, you're gonna attract pieces of shit that do the same thing and find camaraderie in your nonsense. and when it bites you in the ass, you can only blame yourself. if you are disrespectful in this space, you will eventually get disrespected. that's the day you deserve.