confessions by and for roleplayers

some people can’t even follow their own rules. i’ve seen several rules pages that state if there’s no attempt to interact with their posts or them, then they’ll block. and yet, they don’t interact with my or other mutuals’ posts, nor do they send memes or like starter calls. also, if you put in your rules that you expect people to regularly check their dms, be it on discord or tumblr, then you better carry that same expectation for yourself. if you forgot or were held up, you damn well better apologize the same way anyone else would if they were slow.

now i know why i've never gotten long-term threads or meaningful ship development with a moot. they don't reply to threads that are over 3 months "old". and i often take a month or two to reply while all their other partners reply with a few days/weeks/a month. they get 20 notes while i'm lucky to get 3.

Stop trying to ship with my muse who I say very clearly on his bio, in my rules and on the pinned post is not available for shipping. This is strike two where I’ve spoken to you about it, it was very nearly a hard block because you’re just disregarding what boundaries I have set, you’re only still here because I’m a multimuse and others of my muses are available for shipping which might have confused you. Either way you’re no longer allowed to interact with that muse as far as I’m concerned seeing as you can’t be bothered to double check if you’re unsure. If you push it with another of the muses you’ll be blocked.

I've lost muse for one of my characters. Some days I want to jump ship and archive their blog, but I think it would upset one of my followers. So, I pretty much have to force myself to write replies. It's exhausting.

I tend to get carried away with my replies. I don't mean to, but they end up really long, to the point where I'm afraid they upset my writing partners.

It's kinda funny how many roleplayers openly critique and talk shit about their mutuals on dash

No I'm not gonna follow back a blog that only makes an effort to reply to muses who are on the opposite end on the gender spectrum of their muse. I feel like they have some sort of ulterior motive to get a ship out of me or ERP with me

It makes me really uncomfortable when someone tries to push their other muses onto me when we literally just started following each other and haven’t even interacted yet. Just because I followed one of your blogs doesn’t mean I want to follow all of them, especially when your other muses are from fandoms I'm not even familiar with.

stop checking my account. stop looking to see if I've updated with a new one. it's not cool and bothersome more than anything. you're blocked, that means stay away.

That awkward moment when someone thinks their muse is way more important to your muse than they actually are.

I'm sorry my muse wasn't the correct gender to help yours

I know most of the people here won't give a shit but: Not everyone constantly changing blogs and aliases is running away from drama or trying to block-evade. Some people just have an urge to start over, and if they can't do that, they stop functioning, they can't focus on their blog anymore. It's not always about fucking drama, blocking or whatever. Some people just suck at being consistent, and not rarely they SUFFER from it because they KNOW it is annoying. But they just can't help it.

Stop woobifi villains so you can justify liking and shipping them. Write and like them for what and who they are. If you can't embrace their true nature and are unwilling to acknowledge that they are terrible, then DON'T. WRITE. VILLAINS.

BE. HONEST. AND. CLEAR. ABOUT. WHAT. YOU. WANT. You only want f/m smut with twenty different female muses whose only difference is their shade of blonde? That's fine. Say that. Don't claim you're there for plot. Don't give them a sexuality they'll never actually use. Just be honest. You only want m/m smut and you always write the needy bottom? Go for it. Don't pretend you care about naturally developed dynamics. Don't act like your muses are into women. Just say what you want. And if you have a "no taboo" rule — explain it. Actually explain it. I've seen people call childhood friends to lovers pedophilic grooming. I've seen hero/villain labeled as problematic. So what exactly do YOU mean? Does my muse having trauma count? Does something bad happening in their past break your rule? Because "no taboo" means nothing without context, and it means even less when I can see you writing teacher/student on your blog. The real issue is that everyone is so afraid of looking problematic that they've scrubbed their blogs clean of any actual personality — and then wonder why they get no interaction, no good plots, none of what they actually want. I have more respect for a blog that says "I'm here to get my rocks off, all my muses are gay, here are my kinks" than for a blog so whitewashed it has no identity left. Say what you want. People will find you. Pretending gets nobody anywhere.

I got a random like on a very old post. The post was a lengthy starter for a closed RP, and rereading it reminded me that I write very well. It was active, it was accessible, there was lots to respond to in it. But the mun I wrote it for never replied to it, nor many other starters I spend a lot of time and effort making as interesting and "respond-able" as possible. They claimed to love our characters' dynamic, but almost never put in the effort. I eventually soft-blocked them because I couldn't stand to see them being so active with other people on my dash and so inactive with me. They hard-blocked me sometime later… which by then seemed on-brand. After rereading the liked starter, I deleted it. It was well-written, but I don't need or want monuments to one-sided efforts on my blog.

I keep getting followed by blogs that must be ran by the same mun. The icons are very similar to each other, all blogs have nearly identical theme layouts, and it's always the same type of very niche muse that no one else would write. I note this because on every blog, the mun has a different alias. Which I find to be peculiar. Not complaining or saying this is wrong, I just think it's kind of odd

i hate that i feel so much resentment towards the rpc for my fandom and the other people who play the same character as me. it's already a small fandom with only a handful of rpers and while its technically part of a multiverse and so there are other connected fandoms, its still hard to find anyone but the big rpers. And most of rpers I do find are already mutuals with the other people who rp the same character as me since they've been around longer. and I've tried branching out to blogs for other fandoms I like but not only are the rp tags a mess (seriously people stop spamming them with ooc posts or every single ask from your blog) but when I do find muses I'm interested in a lot of the time they don't follow back or I can't figure out a good way for us to interact. And to add insult to injury, the other people who play the character don't seem to actually care about her being ic at all, they're playing an oc performing identity theft for the sake of shipping. and maybe that's part of my problem, I'm very selective about shipping as well as mutuals only. and like I know no one is obligated to RP with me, but that doesn't stop me from feeling upset and jealous and depressed about the lack of interactions