confessions by and for roleplayers

Hey there, OP - it seems to me this kind of depends on how the whole situation is making you feel. Since there could be a lot of factors that change what you're feeling towards this person and their RPs with you, I'll going to reply based on how certain situations would make me personally feel.

If this person had gone completely silent and/or is still posting things but not posting ANY threads for me or anyone else, then I'd wait. They could be going through things in real life, they could be in a writing rut, they could be focused on something else - like an art project or a video game. In other words, tomorrow really might be the day they'll come back.

However, if this person is replying to a bunch of threads with other partners while yours have sat waiting for 6+ months, then I'd say it's probably time to cut your losses. Although, I admit, I'd probably wait a full year before moving on.

Nowhere did I say that anyone was "rude and insufferable" for wanting to write with me on their other blogs. I would never think that? I said it makes me uncomfortable when someone I've only just followed and don't know at all (we haven't written together, haven't gotten to know each other, nothing) starts pushing their other blogs onto me. That's all.

It's in my rules that I'm 1. mutuals only, and 2. I'm only open to other fandoms if I know/am in the fandom.

When someone in our first conversation, before we even talk about our muses or plot or anything, starts sending me links to their other blogs (for muses from wildly different genres than the one my muse is in, it's not like they shared similar vibes or anything) and pushing for me to follow them, without even saying, "hey, I also write these muses, any chance you'd be interested?" or anything like that... I didn't think I'd be seen as wrong for not appreciating that? Or when I say sorry, I'm not familiar with them, and they try to convince me to "just give it a chance" anyway? Or when they send me asks from those muses anyway because for some reason they think that if I follow one of their blogs, that counts as being "mutuals" on all of them? And again, this is before we interacted AT ALL. No threads, no memes sent, no posts liked or commented on. I did not know them. We'd done nothing but follow each other. If we'd been writing together a little bit, built some rapport? Sure. But that's not the case here.

I have a lot of muses across a lot of single muse blogs. I know the feeling of wanting to interact with someone with muses I have on another blog. But I wouldn't start begging them to follow my other accounts when they've shown no interest in the fandoms my other muses are from. I'd wait until we've written together a little, or until I see them mention liking the fandom... or I'd just quietly follow from those other accounts and see if they follow any of them back.

I'm not saying they're wrong for being excited at the thought of a new writing partner. I just find this specific behavior from a stranger uncomfortable. Pushy. Overwhelming. Maybe it's just mismatched energy. I don't know. But I didn't think I'd be viewed so negatively for it.

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Many things can be right at once.

OC's and characters of color being marginalized and needing to have so much more. And they need voice to speak out and point things out.

The struggle of a non poc writing a poc character, oc or otherwise, and it being obvious to actual poc because the lack of understanding experiences is coming through the writing, and more so if it's seemed fetishizing depending of context... (the other side of the coin poc having very little options in canon characters and then maybe limited in face claims to make ocs so they write white characters and maybe get dogged on for that.)

Advocacy is important, no denying or belittleing how important it is....but this is a hobby of escapism where curating is the best thing you can do for yourself. Your strong words about the issue will cause guilt. Some can take it, recognize their part in it, and hopefully do better. Others can't. And won't. Some understand it but they're at the limit of all they can do and selfishly want to turn off their brain from the realness, and yeah it's a luxury, but still their right.

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Previous mutuals of mine have communicated to that person regarding their excessive OOC posting in the past, to which they replied with "deal with it". So I concluded with that behavior as them they're aware, but hates it when some doesn't want to "deal with it" as they say.

While the OOC posts are tagged, yes, but not always. It's become excessive to the point it's better off to unfollow or block as they advised. I'm all for making friends and learning about an rp partner in time, but I don't want to be bombarded with personal issues within week 1 of following someone.

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i understand this could be hurtful but as someone that preemptively blocks people all the time, try not to dwell on it too much. these are some of the reasons i blog ppl for: they are someone i had blocked before on another account, they have too many fcs or oc types i don’t like engaging with, i don’t like the content of what they write (its triggering), they are close to another account that i am not on good terms with, their ooc posts make me uncomfortable.

none of these things are big deals or signs that u did something wrong per say, it’s just what people are comfortable with having on their dash or potentially writing with. it’s better they block u now than way later when u reply to an open and suddenly ure blocked without notice.

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