confessions by and for roleplayers

I'm very, very duplicate friendly. If a person who writes the same muse isn't, I just steer clear of their blog. But the second I see them writing the same AU I have been writing for months with a mutual? I hardblock them. Good luck getting ideas from me now, you loser.

some people use blocking as a bullying tactic. i've seen multiple writers ostracized from specific fandoms or communities because one of the louder people within that niche does not like them for whatever reason (usually jealousy).

the number of male rpers on this site who manipulate and use their female writing partners ooc is shockingly high. they only realize it when it's too late and they've got half the site blocked for … what? e-dick who used you for nudes? get a grip.

If you post and complain that it feels like "no one is interested in my headcanons or anything I write" and yet you have two or three mutuals that actively engage with your headcanons and posts? Kindly shut up. I get wanting to feel validated, but essentially telling the ones that actively show up for you that they arent enough because you want accolades and affection of more and more people, because you used to get so much attention writing fanfic? Frankly is being a bad friend and a shitty RP partner. If you were so popular on wattpad, then go back to writing fanfic and stop making people feel shitty and worthless, and expected them to fawn over you when your writing is actually shitty and self serving, rather than collaborative.

I love that you found new friends and abandoned all our threads despite them being your "favorites". I really wish I could just block you even though we're supposed to be friends.

"Me! Me! Me! Give ME all your attention/interest or else I'll softblock you!" Nah, I'd rather not, actually. I'm going to do us both a favour and just hardblock and move on.

i love to both write and draw my blorbos but the longer I look at the rpc, the more I feel that maybe I should just stick to enjoying my faves by drawing them, because a lot of people in this community genuinely piss me off

i'm the type of person that doesn't make a habit of wishing ill on others and i don't make fun of people's circumstances because we all are one medical bill away from not being able to do anything on this planet. HOWEVER, i do believe in karma. and i do think if you treat strangers like shit while participating in a HOBBY we're all supposed to enjoy, you're gonna have days and company that you deserve 🍵 so ACTUALLY treat people the way you want to be treated--even if you do not know them--and BE HONEST with yourself about how you treat others. because what you do will eventually be reflected back at you. and if you're piece of shit victimizing yourself, you're gonna attract pieces of shit that do the same thing and find camaraderie in your nonsense. and when it bites you in the ass, you can only blame yourself. if you are disrespectful in this space, you will eventually get disrespected. that's the day you deserve.

it is always telling you posted a reply or a headcanon of your muse that your partner doesn't like when they engaged with all your posts and from one day to the other, it stops entirely. I just wish ppl would tell me where it went wrong instead of just suddenly ghosting me.

“I don’t use icons-” no problem, each to their own. “I think they’re dumb and a waste of time-” ok that’s your opinion “If you have to use icons you’re not a good writer.” Rude. You’re saying adding a little muse picture in a reply is a sign of bad writing now? I guess I won’t follow or interact with you then since apparently me enjoying creating and using icons makes me a bad writer according to your rules. Don’t then complain that no one is interacting with you if you insult them on the first page of your blog they’re going to check.

I say I don't mind late things. But honestly? If we plot, you promise me a starter, and you never write it, I'm going to be bitter about it. That's rude and disrespectful of my time and engagement. Axe forgets but tree remembers!

It is kinda depressing to me, as someone with a small amount of mutuals, to see the dash has been VERY active when I come online, but no new notifications. No pm, no replies, nothing.

I write a fandom-based OC and it’s discouraging that not everyone in the fandom appreciates her, despite the fandom she’s in is a huge and popular one. I understand that she’s not everyone’s cup of tea. I have worked hard on writing her story, but everytime I see more popular and successful fandom-based OCs, I get easily jealous. She’s also a POC, and I’ve noticed more white OCs are always getting attention, especially males with popular and attractive FCs. It’s not even fair if I don’t get that treatment. I wish there are more blogs out there who would prioritize OCs of color, especially females. I worked my ass off too and it sucks my work doesn’t get recognized. I feel so unappreciated and ignored here.

Recently reblogged a promo, we have a couple of threads together which I thought were going well. I deleted the reblog the next day. They had decided to completely change their established blog over night. Muse? Gone. Fandom? Switched. All our threads and their notes? Mass deleted. I can’t and won’t promote a blog I don’t know to my other established writing partners. The most baffling thing is they posted the promo and I reblogged it maybe an hour after they had. Who does that and then completely changes their blog?

When did it apparently stop becoming common courtesy (and common sense) to check people's limits/triggers before throwing certain topics at them? I'm not talking about for every little thing, but surely we can all agree that, regardless of whether you support writing them or not, there are some topics that you should absolutely 10000% check if a writer is comfortable with or not before suggesting them or throwing them in a starter. Non-con, mpreg, incest, abuse etc. This isn't about whether I, or anyone else, think it's ok to write them or not, that isn't the point of this confession. But even if you support/enjoy writing these things, can we please go back and normalise checking if someone is ok with a topic before you jump in the deep end? When it's staying clear as day in someone's rules, "sorry I didn't see that" just doesn't cut it anymore. (At its core, we could just straight up say normalise reading rules in general, but this specifically irks me).

Don’t ever be afraid to share positivity with another RPer. Do they have an excellent grasp of their muse? Do they create amazing graphics? Are the AUs they come up with perfectly conceived? Please tell them! Whether you do it anonymously or not, I promise the positivity will mean the world to whoever you’ve sent it to. It may not seem like it’s ‘needed,’ but opening your inbox to find unexpected kindness is almost always going to give someone a better day than they were having before.

Its frustrating, I recently got back into rping in a Fandom that I used to years ago, and it never was the biggest Fandom but its got even smaller but there are still rpers there. But in a way I was kind of happy about it cause when I was looking around while setting up my blog I didn't see anyone else playing the character I was planning to, so I thought it'd be easier to integrate myself into the community. Yeah, didn't turn out that way. Despite not being private blogs, not a single rper in the Fandom followed me back. And at first I was sad but figured they’re probably used to just interacting with each other and its not like I'm entitled to their attention, so I'd just have to stick to crossovers. But then s new blog for a different character in the Fandom appeared and they reblogged their promos in excitement and it was like 'oh do they just not like my character, or were they maybe already friends with the rper' Well I found out from an a rper in a related Fandom who I befriended that apparently the reason I get ignored is that someone in their friend group runs a multimuse that has the character I play on it, though it's not an active muse. And apparently even though all these peoples blogs say they don't do exclusives, they won't rp with other versions of that character out of ' respect Like the fuck, maybe put that on your blog somewhere