confessions by and for roleplayers

Sucks watching a mutual noticeably lose interest in you seemingly out of nowhere. I don't think I did anything wrong, I think we're just drifting apart and it just… sucks.

Some people just love to blow the dumbest shit out of proportion, IC and OOC. I would have seen myself out if one of my multimuse partners had ALL their muses act irrationally hostile and petty towards my muse over a breakup between one of their muses and mine. Especially if mine did nothing wrong and their muse has been a selfish shit… but on the other hand, some people just love to be the ultimate victim I guess. Blown-up Rp dramas are weird to me.

I really start to feel like people these days are too lazy to properly rp anymore. I post a starter for a person with a setting and plot hooks, and the person does nothing with those hooks and barely acknowledges the setting with their muse (or even changes it in their reply). It happens all the time, to a point I can't ignore it anymore. I don't know if people just don't want to put any efforts in writing with me or I am really that unlucky to have surrounded myself with so many people being too lazy to read/reply properly. English is not my first language, and I acknowledge that my writing might be not as accurate and flowery as that of others. But it feels not fair to string me along with half-baked and emotionless replies. Threads are no fun if the replies I receive are always derailing the setting or my partner just contributes nothing to the plot. It burns me out. I feel like I haven't had any great back-and-forth threads anymore that really excited me and had me invested in a LONG TIME. As of now, I just want to drop 90% of my drafts because I feel like those threads will never go anywhere with these partners. They react, but never contribute. I miss my former partner who's too busy to rp now. The threads I had with them were fun, they were exciting. Both of our muses fed on the other's nonsense, there was an interaction going on both sides. All the threads I have now are so boring and just weird.

It sucks so much that so many people don't give you a chance if you don't have amazing graphics and blog design. I have confidence in my writing, I KNOW it's good writing. Unfortunately, I don't have the skills or tools to create fancy graphics so people don't even look my way yet fawn over the people who write the same muses as me but have fancier graphics even if they barely even write.

Dude. You listed like half of my muse list. That's not "specifying a muse". And I have that as a rule for a reason. How is reading comprehension so low in a reading/writing based hobby?

Just because we've known each other for years doesn't excuse the fact that you're not a good RP partner, or even friend, to me anymore. And haven't been for a long time. I'm done with you, I'm tired of putting up with your antics guilting myself into staying with you just because of how long we've known each other. You wanna know why so many partners leave you? Well I've actually tried to explain it to you multiple times and you just refuse to hear it and you keep pulling the same shit again and again. So, I'm sorry, but I have to be done.

since when did lack of interaction not mean anything but lack of interest? i know there are people who follow just to read some rpers posts and that's cool and all but if i get no interactions on any starter calls or memes i reblog and reblog at various times to compensate for time zone differences…. how else am i supposed to take that other than the people i follow do not want to interact with me? or maybe im missing something and "taking things too seriously" or whatever

it's incredibly discouraging when you're trying to make friends on this site and it's like everyone else expects you to do the work of friend making. or they have their own groups. or everyone that complains about wanting more friends wants to make friends with ONE specific person or group and that is not you. it kinda sucks man. i'm constantly stepping out of my comfort zone to connect with people and people are not doing the same for me. i'm tired of it.

your muse having a tragic backstory and my muse having a tragic backstory does NOT mean we are participating in the oppression olympics. i'm fucking tired of you trying to make it seem like your muse has it worse when they BOTH had it equally bad!!!! just because my muse isn't an asshole and doesn't lash out doesn't mean they're not both severely traumatized and coping in different ways. i treat your muse with the respect they deserve and acknowledge when they are struggling with something. i don't water down their trauma for the prospect of making yours comfort mine. I ROUTINELY ACKNOWLEDGE THAT THEY'RE BOTH IN AWFUL POSITIONS. why the fuck am i constantly keeping your muse and mine in mind when it comes to discussions about how they cope and how they behave, but you seem to "forget" to do so ooc. ic--i don't care. ooc, it pisses me off bc why the fuck am I doing all the thinking???? people in this rpc need to stop being so fucking selfish. you want all these angsty plots and threads but you only want to focus on your own muse like come the fuck on. i'm not a bot. i'm not an ai. if you keep treating me like a scenario generator where your muse is the Star, i'm gonna start softblocking people over it. this is a hobby and i want to enjoy it without this bs. no one has the bandwidth to plot effectively or have a serious discussion but I supposedly have to for every single fucking person i come across or NO ONE will do anything. and to anyone saying "oh but what if" and wants to throw in some completely unrelated ooc explanation-- respectfully, shut up.

I will no longer reply to starters, random prompts or memes of partners that 1. owe me replies and 2. I have noticed dropping threads left and right (despite claiming to be 'sooo excited for it'). Why should I invest time, motivation and inspiration on writing anything for you at this point if you don't acknowledge my writing and never reply to it? I am done with leeches just wanting dopamine kicks through 'receiving replies' but then never doing anything with those replies. Not even likes.

Anyone else ever encounter rpers that have awful grammar and spelling mistakes galore, to the point its actually a pain to read whatever they're writing as a reply? No commas. No periods. Every sentence feels incomplete and proceeds to go onto another thought without finishing the first. Like wtf? I thought- maybe its a language barrier but after reading the mun page, that's apparently not the case. I know literacy rates are tanking with the younger population but holy shit. This is kinda bad.

I usually love it when my mutuals interact with one another like… with the idea of being able to trust them because they've interacted with me enough to know that, if I actively interact with them it means they're safe people to interact with. I'm very picky, because I'm quite tired of the bullshit. However, if someone never interacts with me and is a silent spectator that has little to no intention of interacting with me (especially if I made efforts to do so) it rubs me the wrong way. Makes me feel like a tool rather than a roleplay blog. It's an icky feeling. I hate when people do that :/

It annoys me when someone has their muse as labeled pan/bi without even mentioning a lean but ONLY intends to ship their muse with the member of one gender. No one owes me or anyone else anything, I get that. But why do get people's hopes up? All they ever talk about is men, all they ever reblog is het stuff, all their ships are with men.

Every time I see a promo tag saying ‘I’m looking for more people to rp with!’ I normally follow those blogs but never followed me back. Just admit it you only want attention to certain people, not anyone.

I hate how people in the replies of confessions will straight up antagonize you for situations they have one sentence of context for. I hate how much it's made me feel the need to over-explain my own negative emotions because somebody or something in the RPC made me feel shitty. The one time I didn't preface something with a million disclaimers or give a dissertation on my intentions, unsurprisingly there were people jumping down my throat in the replies. No, I can't provide more context for the sake of privacy nor am I gonna try to skirt around the blog rules. I shouldn't have to hold your hand through a random vent post. What gets me is that this is just another microcosm of tumblr's general culture of: "Hmm, I see you mentioned having an anger response to something. You have 15 seconds to explain every single little nuance of your situation to me or else I'm going to start accusing you of shit via call-out post." I thought the point was that we all hated this shit. Other times I can tell it's just somebody taking an anonymous vent way too personally. Not every post is about you or your personal situation. I'm sorry if you've had bad experiences in the past but I can assure you that mine and yours aren't 100% the exactly the same. Stop projecting onto me when I'm a faceless stranger just trying to air out bad thoughts.

Listen. If I like your starter call and send you memes, but you never write me that starter and never send any memes back, it's disrespectful. I see you only ever reply back and forth excessively with the same person, never with anyone else. Just be honest and say you are exclusive with that one person. Why even bother posting starter calls when you only write with that one bestie anyway? I unfollowed you. I won't even bother to softblock, you can unfollow me yourself for all I care.

If there's one thing I've learned from being on this hellsite at least ten years? It's that people absolutely have double-standards. They'll tell you that you are on here too much, but the minute you step away and try to make time for yourself, they will drop you for not being active. The ultimate thing I've pulled away from how things have gone recently is that people are unwilling to get out of their own little cliques and would rather sit and watch others burn like Nero watching Rome, rather than try and actually engage with someone they don't know.