confessions by and for roleplayers

The best time to rp was up to the year 2014, but the second best time is now and I mean that. People are kinder than they have ever been on this website. I’ve seen a lot of people kinda glorify the days of 2016 tumblr rp when genuinely I think those were the dark ages. I think the years from when Tumblr started to about 2014 were good, but after that, many rpers came in who… it’s hard to describe fully. It’s like I couldn’t interact with anyone. I rarely ever had anyone follow and getting people to interact was like yanking teeth out. Also, writing became more prose-y and thats when the “I owe you nothing” rhetoric started spinning. I recall around this time there was the feeling of a panopticon rping here. Then around maybe 2019-2023 this started to fade out. People talk to me ooc now! This is great! Maybe I just found a good group of people and this is just my experience so I cant speak for everyone, but what was going on? What changed for the better?

I am inclined to believe that people who reply a pm prompt directly instead of doing a new post aren't interested in turning it into a thread. It's really not that much work to copy-paste a prompt into a new post.

There was this mutual of mine who likes my starter call and I created one for them but they never responded to it for months. Same mutual also liked my inbox call but I sent three asks to them and only responded to one of them. However, they liked my HCs and send me asks once in a while and partially engage with me, which is a good thing because not many would bother doing these. I understand people being slow due to real life. I would like to ask them for a follow up for a starter without sounding too pushy, but I feel like they’re ignoring me on purpose or just generally busy despite I wanna remain mutuals with them. I don’t know if I should break mutuals with them because I wrote starters for them a few times but they don’t reply to any of them. We discussed OOC for a bit but our conversation doesn’t go anywhere. I don’t know what to do. I feel like they’re losing interest and they just want to keep me as a follower count.

It is frustrating when you throw your partner a pitch that works for both muses, and they completely ignore it to pull something out of their ass that only works for their muse instead.

Sometimes I hate being on here because there's this one person who has a history of block evading a good friend of mine and keeps deleting blogs after having them for a while then making new ones for new muses with no indication of who is behind that blog. I'm a little paranoid, right now.

So there is a topic that I normally don't feel comfortable writing, but lately I have been exploring it in once particular universe with one particular rp partner who I feel comfortable doing so with. I only write it with them, and I tag the posts in case anyone sees it and wants to blacklist (I don't think anyone is interested enough in my writing to read it and notice, but I still take precautions because it's the right thing to do). But I can't help feeling a little disheartened when I look for new rp partners and see their rules stating that anyone who writes that topic will always be banned from interacting with them. 100% it is absolutely their right to curate their experience and make sure they are comfortable, that is so important, but to know that because I write one single thing in one single verse with one single rp partner who I trust, I'd therefore be banned from interacting with so many people, it's a little sad.

You told me how it is you prioritise threads, that those you don't really care for, you don't even draft and put them in a tracker instead. And yet now, years later you're replying to threads I have basically forgotten about because I assumed you didn't have interest in continuing them. If they're the bottom of the pile for your interest and have been for years, why are you bothering with them now and what made you think that I would be interested in continuing them? You invertedly told me you didn't care about them so I stopped caring too. Don't try and put the onus on me to carry on a thread that I can't even access properly because they're legacy posts, they're dropped as far as I'm concerned after you didn't even bother to draft them. You're only replying now because your faves have moved on to new faves, you even complained about that to me too btw, I'm not an idiot.

It pisses me off whenever I see my bully gets positivity and shoutouts. It makes me wanna warn anyone to show how terrible person they are but too bad they’re super popular.

As a multimuse, I am very chill about people not picking a muse. I happily pick a muse for them at random, no problen. HOWEVER, if you want a prompt or starter from a specific muse, you have to tell me. Because surprise, I'm not a mind-reader, and I let my mutuals know that. If you wand Muse B instead Muse E from that starter call, comment on it. If someone repeatedly refuses to specify a muse but also ignores what I wrote or sent them, I softblock them. Either specify a muse if you have strong preferences, or deal with what I give you. That shouldn't be so hard to understand.

I don't understand people getting upset about inbox calls. Especially if someone runs a multimuse, and have inspiration for specific muses, they can post one or multiple inbox calls for those muses and see if their mutuals are interested in getting them in their inbox. No big deal.

I hate that this community had jaded me so much that when I see a mutual replying back and forth quickly with an rp partner while a ton of things like our threads are stuck their drafts for weeks, I'm not happy for them like I used to be. I'm bitter. I'm jealous. I fear I'm being fucking lied to my face again about the person wanting to write with me. That I'm being led on. I hate it. I wish I could think "good for them!" all happy like I used to!

I don’t have any issues writing with any OC regardless of their race. I write OCs of color and I usually get blocked and unfollowed by OCs who uses white and overused FCs because I’m not afraid to be vocal how we usually get overlooked and ignored. It’s upsetting. I wish I get the same treatment as them. That’s all I ask for.

i’m all for wanting to be inclusive and writing with a large amount of people who write the same muse, but there does come a point where it starts to feel like you’re just collecting people. this goes doubly so when a lot of these connections start to sound the same with nothing much—or at all—to differentiate them. i’m an actual person behind the screen with my own ideas and ways of handling my muse. i’m not a virtual doll that you can just hit copy-paste with when you’re other partner is busy. i’m starting not to trust people who boast about inclusivity and not doing mains or whatever because they’ve all been guilty of doing this.

I never know whether I should include a list the characters I absolutely refuse to ship my character with in my rules. Like I'm very picky about ships with this character and a lot of the popular ones in the fandom I hate, so part of me thinks I should go 'I won't ship with these characters' in my rules so people don't follow hoping for it, but at the same time it antagonistic to do that

I don't understand why it is so hard to check out new followers asap, especially if you're active on your blog every day, actively engaging and replying to memes. I get that you want to make sure the blog matches, but reading the rules and checking out the last couple of pages is not THAT difficult or time-consuming, let's be real here. I do understand it when someone is not active daily and has only limited time, but way too many people here like to play power games.

You can’t blame OCs of color writers to voice out how they’re always ignored and won’t get priorities unlike white muses, especially when they have tried to put themselves out there, like someone’s starters and reaching out in general. We can’t always be the ones who try to initiate interactions all the time. We’re getting sick and tired of rps being one-sided. Is there a fair reason why we always get ignored and almost everyone prefers white muses? And don’t you dare tell us our FCs aren’t attractive and popular enough to your damn liking, you all are just thirsty and weak.

I don't know what I'm suppose to do anymore. I have multiple mutuals who I send asks to, yet only one or two return the favor. I reply to every ask they answer to start a thread but I'm lucky if that gets one reply or even a like from the person who sent the ask in. I haven't gotten a thread beyond three posts with any of these new mutuals with me as the last poster every time. I have a graveyard of forgotten threads. I've talked to many of these mutuals in DMs, plotted, and yet- Nothing. I can't get any RP going consistently while I watch these people interact with each other. I have open starters, post starter calls that get ignored, and send an ask meme almost every time I see them on my dash. Why are you all mutuals with me if you never plan to RP with me? What am I suppose to do at this point? What am I doing wrong?