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DEI does not mean lower standards.

Departments with a significant percentage of female surgeons have better overall patient outcomes for all surgeons.

This is demonstrated in study after study after study.

Why? Because surgery is such a male-dominated field that a female surgeon has to be orders of magnitudes better than her male peers to be considered for the same job positions/research grants, etc.

And when you get enough female surgeons in a department, they start being able to influence decision-making to improve patient safety and procedure efficacy for the entire department.

But hospitals don't like hiring female surgeons because they might do something inconvenient like needing time off to give birth to the next generation.

DEI in medicine doesn't just ensure a genuinely merits-based hiring process, as opposed to a convenience-based one.

It's not inappropriate for a man to wear a dress to a business meeting. It's not inappropriate for a woman to wear a three-piece suit to a funeral. It's not inappropriate for someone to dress androgynous for an interview. Gender nonconformity is, for many people, just a part of expression. It's not just a performance or a fun weekend thing (although, again, that's good too)!

• Not enjoying a certain act (i.e. tying up, pain play, etc) does not make you a bad sub.

• Not sharing the same kinks as your dom(s) does not make you a bad sub.

• Asserting your wants, needs and/or triggers does not make you a bad sub.

• Stopping a scene entirely and not wanting to continue does not make you a bad sub.

BDSM is supposed to be fun. You can stop or alter things to suit your comfort. It’s ok to do this.

Sit back and make him suck your dick, nice and slow.

Train him to deepthroat your cock.

Fuck his face, balls-deep, like it’s a pussy.

Cock slap him.

Make him lick your sweaty balls.

Make him service you in a public place (e.g., a restroom, a park, your car).

Spit on him.

Make him clean your sweaty ass after you work out.

Make him wear a puppy tail in his ass.

Piss on him.

Piss down his throat.

Piss in his ass.

Make him drink your piss from a glass.

Piss on a pair of underwear, or a jock strap, then wring it out over his face.

Finger his hole.

Fuck his ass.

Spank him.

Paddle him or whip him.

Fuck him with a dildo.

Tie him up and use his holes.

Smack or slap his face.

Call him names.

Tag team him with a buddy.

Gangbang him with a group of friends or strangers.

Whore him out to friends or strangers.

Make him sniff and lick your piss- and/or cum-stained underwear.

Gag him with your dirty underwear, jockstrap or cum rag when you’re fucking him.

Cum on his face.

Cum on his face and make him wear the load out in public.

Cum on his ass.

Cum directly down his throat.

Cum in your hand, and make him eat it from your hand like a dog.

Organize a bukkake and cover his face with multiple cum loads.

Make him eat your cum off your buddy’s cock.

Cum on the floor or a table and make him lick it up.

Make him drink your load(s) from a shot glass.

Cum on food and make him eat it.

Double-penetrate him with another Top or with a dildo.

Flick or twist his nipples.

Write names (e.g., faggot, bitch, pig, slut), pictures (e.g., a cock and balls, a pig face, a toilet) or phrases (e.g., insert cock here, with an arrow pointing to its holes) on his body.

Make him wear a butt plug out in public (e.g., to the bar, to the gym, to the grocery store).

Piss on his underwear then make him wear them home.

Tie him to your toilet when you have guys over, and tell them to use him instead of the toilet.

Don’t let him cum.

Make him ask your permission to jerk off or cum.

Make him eat his own cum.

Make him jerk off or finger himself while you and/or your friends watch.

Make him watch while you fuck another faggot.

Position him beneath you while you’re fucking another faggot and make him lick your cock as it goes in and out of the faggot’s hole.

Make him eat your ass while you’re fucking another faggot.

Make him clean your cock off after you fuck him.

Make him clean your cock off after you fuck another faggot.

Make him eat your load out of another faggot’s ass.

Take photos and/or videos of him servicing your cock.

Blindfold him when you use him.

Fist his hole.

Cum in his ass.

Make him fuck another faggot, or get fucked by another faggot, while you watch.

Make him and another faggot fuck themselves on a double-ended dildo while you watch.

Make him lick your feet.

Use him as a footrest.

Make him give you a massage or footrub.

Take him to a bar; when his beer’s empty, refill the glass or bottle with your piss and make him drink it in public.

Make him pee at the urinal (e.g., at the movies, at the gym, at the bar) with his pants around his ankles so everyone knows he’s a faggot.

Shave his body.

Make him wear a puppy tail in his ass.

Save your piss in a bucket, and make him bathe with it.

Keep him in chastity.

Decide what he wears.

Make him wear a collar and leash.

Keep him in a cage.

Make him do domestic chores for you (e.g., laundry, cleaning, shopping).

Make him sniff poppers, then use him.

Make him wear a ball gag.

Make him crawl in your presence, like a dog.

Make him eat his meals out of a dog dish.

Make him service anonymous cock at a gloryhole.

Engage him in forced workouts.

Make him beg for your cock.

Feed him your pre-cum.

Make him call you “Master” or “Sir.”

Make him wear a hood while you use him so that the only sensation he has is the feeling of your cock in his hole.

Make him lick you head to toe

Make him drink a bottle of your piss left somewhere in a public place and order him to tape it!

Go in to a club’s bathroomat the same time and order him to leave his half full glass of his cocktail in the toilet before you and add to the cocktail your piss, leave him the glass somewhere and order him to drink it in front of you.

Go to a public bathroom together and while standing in front of urinals make him put your head down to your urinal and drink your piss.

Make a video you raping him, cuming in his ass and forcing him to drink your piss and post it on tumblr claiming ownership of him.

Make him wear a puppy tail and take him for a walk outside.

Make him wear women’s lingery and fuck him like a whore.

Mummify him and fuck him in his mouth and ass.

Tie him up with chains or rope and let him sleep on the floor next to your bed.

Choke him while you fuck him in missionary position.

Pull his hair while you fuck him in doggy position.

Make him wear a collar showing your ownership in public.

Make him come to your work place and service you in anyway you need.

Make him wear a cock cage.

Make him wear ball weights.

Make him give you his social profile passwords to monitor his communication.

Make him raport sexual contacts with other guys.

In response to a message from a follower about how to punish a long distance submissive… Many of these punishments are suitable for both RL and LDRs. The first thing is to make sure that the she knows she is still cared for and appreciated, and that the punishment is not because you are angry (on that note never punish a submissive until you are ready to set aside any uncontrolled anger). Secondly, make sure the punishment fits the crime. Third, many submissives are masochists, so if you’re going to use pain as a punishment make sure it’s a variety of pain she doesn’t care for. Lastly, ensure that when the punishment is complete that you let her know that this is behind you now. That she is loved, and that you are ready to move forward. This is especially important in a LDR.

Lines- It’s a classic for a reason. Choose the lines carefully. There is a magical effect when you write something over and over again… you begin to believe it. I highly recommend. “My pleasure belongs to Sir, and I will not steal from him,” over “I’m sorry for being a disobedient whore.” I think it’s easy to see the psychological difference.

Kneeling- Sometimes all it takes is to literally bring a sub to her knees to remind her why obedience is important. Extended times kneeling are uncomfortable. Nakedness is a given, and kneeling on rice is a classic pain punishment that’s said to be very effective.

Snapping rubber-bands- Long distance pain punishments are indeed possible. Wrap a large rubber band around a thigh, pull it back several inches, release and repeat.

Corner time- Kneeling, standing, or holding ankles while facing the wall can be a very effective punishment. Being alone, in silence with the fact that you’ve disappointed your Dominant is a very powerful thing. Nakedness is a given, and for added difficulty having her use only her nose to hold a coin against the wall is much harder than it sounds.

Extra chores- Punishments are not meant to be fun, and this one never is.

Clamping- Another long distance approved pain punishment. Being clamped while doing chores, kneeling, etc. is an uncomfortable reminder. You want to be sure to separate this from playtime. Labia clamping is another option to consider.

Early bedtimes/restrictions on social media, TV- There is of course an element of trust here, but social media sites are easy enough to check for activity

Mouth soaping- Another classic for a reason. A bar of ivory soap in the mouth can border on torturous.

Taking away panties/bra- This sort of thing depends entirely on the submissive. Some women are perfectly comfortable being without panties or a bra. Others think it’s unspeakable.

Essays- Having to put into words how you failed to fulfill your commitments is a very serious punishment for most submissives.

Figging- Figging, for those who don’t know is when you insert peeled ginger root into your bottom. This is a type of pain some masochists do not find enjoyable. The bonus here is that unlike other methods such as using capsaicin, icy-hot, etc, ginger root will cause a pain reaction but will not damage tissue.

Plugging- Plugging out of a sexual context, or for extended amounts of time, can be uncomfortable, and embarrassing. Add in a bit of edging, a trip to the grocery store, or sleeping with the plug inside if you’re up for it.

Denial- Be sure to edge and torture her as fits the transgression, or your mood.

Self-deprecation- Having a submissive refer to herself only as ’this forgetful whore,’ or in the third person for a set amount of time.

There are many more not included with the list, however I think this is a good starting point. Over time you will see which things are most effective for your sub.

LDR punishments should be verified by video, picture, voice etc. This is not a matter of trust only. It’s important that a Doms presence is felt during times of punishment, and your desire to verify will help her understand the importance of obedience and your commitment to making sure she follows through.

I was allowed full access to any books, movies, and internet I wanted fully informed about our family beliefs and practices but I was given no supervision once I reached about 13 because my parents trusted me to stick to the rules or not as I felt and come to them if there was anything that I had questions about.

As long as I said where I was going, who I was with, and when I was going to be back and then phone if anything changed I was allowed to do pretty much as I pleased from 13 onward.

I moved back in with my parents after university and the first conversation we had was my dad telling me that if I felt like they were treating me like a child to please tell them because they had no intention of doing so.

password protected my computer so i had to get permission every time i wanted to use it

put a passcode lock on our pantry so we couldn’t eat without permission

regularly checked our internet browsing history

shut off the internet at regular intervals, including when i needed it for university homework

did monthly checks of our bank statements and would confiscate money if they didn’t approve of our activities

in response, i went behind their backs and opened a new bank account, got a secret job, bought my own groceries, and used the wifi from the school across the street. they didn’t succeed in disciplining me. all they did was force me to distance myself from them.