Hi! Iβm Julie. This blog is a little scrapbook of things that make me happy :)
Iβm a perma regressor! I donβt really label my age, though. If I had I guess, I usually fluctuate from infant years to around 7. I age regress as a response and coping/comfort mechanism for my depression, but I do age regress just for fun too. Since I use it to self-soothe often, consider it a major theme on my blog.
A good chunk of what I post is stuff from my childhood, so hopefully you really like late 2000s-early 2010s nostalgia. I love Club Penguin, so expect a good amount of that, too. Iβm pretty active on private servers as Poofergirl89, both on Journeys and Legacy (Iβm more active on Legacy).
I donβt have a super strict DNI. Kindly refrain if your blog heavily contains NSFW content, if youβre a bigot, partake in morally reprehensible behavior, or follow others who do such things. Other than that, I love making new friends :)
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Hiii Indy Indy bo bindy... since I have your humble blessing can I get some fine CocΠΎa/GlistΠ΅n stuff? Dealer's choice it can be either CG!CocΠΎa and little!GlistΠ΅n or CG!GlistΠ΅n and little!CocΠΎa as long as you have fun drawing it ^_^ - @puffleparty2013
went with baby cocoa :) gave her a water mat. I think she'd enjoy it
βhi, little one. youβre feeling anxious and scared today, but youβre not sure why? letβs sit down here, and talk through what youβre feeling, okay? you can pat your chest or arms gently to help ground you while we talk, and iβll rub your back if youβd like me to. ready, sweetheart? ok, letβs say these affirmations out loud togetherβ¦β
{affirmations for anxious days}
β’ youβre safe.
β’ you arenβt doing anything wrong.
β’ itβs okay to rest and relax!
β’ you arenβt in trouble.
β’ how you feel matters to me.
β’ look around β everything is okay right now.
β’ youβre allowed to have fun and be happy!
β’ you arenβt in any danger right now.
β’ you are so loved.
β’ you feel worried, and thatβs okay.
β’ i can see that youβre trying your best!
β’ your body is safe.
β’ youβre always allowed to protect yourself.
β’ where do you feel the worry in your body?
β’ youβre a good kid. iβm so proud of you.
β’ iβll stay right here with you until we feel better.
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βHmm, letβs seeβ¦ would you rather like to read βSnow Whiteβ or βGoldilocks and the Three Bearsβ? Ooh! Great choice. Letβs start at the beginning. βOnce upon a timeβ¦ββ
CG!Meijro McQueen stimboard for @polkadotplayhouse <3
hey there, babyβ¦ itβs okay, come here a sec π«
i see youβ¦ i see the little heart inside thatβs feeling heavy. itβs okay to feel scared, sad, or overwhelmed. even if itβs hard to be little, itβs okay to take a moment just for yourself. you can wrap up in a blanket, hug your favorite stuffie, or just take a slow, soft breath. whatever helps you feel safeβ¦ itβs gonna be okay.
youβre doing better than you think, sweetheart. even if it doesnβt feel like it. every little step you take, every tiny moment you give yourself, it matters. your feelings are valid, your little heart is important, and it deserves to be seen. itβs okay to be soft, to be small, and to need a break from the world.
you are loved, more than you might realize. you deserve warmth, little moments that make your heart feel light, and lots and lots of hugs. itβs okay to let yourself rest, to let yourself be little, and to know that even in the heavy moments, someone sees you. itβs gonna be okay, kiddoβ¦ youβre doing great.
Coping with BPD splitting while regressed βΰ¨ΰ§Λ
Something I've been wanting to figure out for myself is how to deal with splitting while regressed. Big reactions and emotions can be too much sometimes, and I want to try and find ways to help myself with that
Here's some ideas I had of what to do to help myself with this: (That you might find helpful too!)
Things regressors can do:
β Run a cold or freezing bath for yourselfβ This can shock the nervous system and help your brain focus on the temperature instead
β Journal about the situationβ Write about what's going on. (Ex. What triggered the split, how you feel, what you want to say, what you think you'll do) Even if you don't have a journal, grab a piece of paper or open the notes app
β Drawing/Coloringβ This can help focus your mind on something else. The action itself, the thing you're drawing, the colors, the feeling/texture of drawing. An extra thing to do with this activity is assign negative emotions/actions/etc to your colors, and when you color or draw with those colors, that's letting out those negative things
β Get your feelings and emotions out through playβ Get some stuffed animals, toys, whatever you perfer, and play out how you feel. Or play out how the split would go and what you would say through your toys (Extra: Then after you could make the characters apologize about it)
β Talk and practiceβ Get a toy or something you find comfort in (Or a person you trust, assuming they didn't trigger the split) and talk to them about how you feel, imagine what they would say. Practice what you would say to the person who triggered you, or figure out what you would do from there
β Singing/Hummingβ You can sing or hum with or without music. Either way, it's a good way to focus on something else. If it's a song you don't remember the lyrics of, that can help your brain focus on trying to guess or remember
β Talking to yourselfβ Get your emotions out by talking to yourself as you do other things. It's a good way to feel smaller in general, but it's also very helpful to get emotions out that way. Even if it's just nonsensical babbling or noises. Maybe even repeat positive affirmations
β Communicate your needsβ If you need time, ask to distance yourself (if you're talking to someone). Just the same as if you need help, you're allowed to ask for it. Talk about how you feel if you can. Set boundaries for the period that you split. Communicate in other ways (drawing, writing, pointing). Now that's all easier said than done, but it's never impossible
β Eat some sour candies (+alternatives)β Helps your brain focus on the sourness of the candy instead of big feelings (Just be careful not to get a stomachache) If you don't like sour things, maybe try spicy food! If you don't like spicy food, try salty food. Some other alternatives to this are pop rocks (focus on the pops), soda (focus on the fizz), ice cream and smoothies/milkshakes (focus on the chill)
β Stress/chew toysβ Stress balls, slime, pacis, chew toys, chewlery, etc, are all good options to take your emotions out on
β Go outsideβ Take a walk, go to the park, play in your backyard, eat at your favorite food place. Just make sure you take someone with you if needed. A backyard or empty park can be really calming, maybe bring some toys or activities you like with you
β Contact a trusted personβ If you have someone aware of your splits and they know some ways to help, try to contact them. Just make sure it's okay with them to talk about it
β Take a break from regressingβ Now regression is different for everyone. But for some, it's not good to be regressed while splitting. Making it harder, scarier, or more confusing to deal with. If you need to take a step back from regressing for a moment, than you should
Things caregivers can do:
β Offer spaceβ If you notice any signs of a potential split, ask them if they need some space. Make sure to be considerate in the way you ask this and how it's worded. If they would like space, you could ask if they need anything before they take some time to themselves (Ex. Favorite toy/stuffed animal, water, a snack, put a show or music on)
β Encourage actions listed aboveβ See some of the mechanisms listed for regressors to do, and ask your little if any of those sound like they can be of help to them
β Ask if theres anything you can doβ Ask questions! It's good to ask if theres anything specific that works for people in times like this. And if your regressor doesn't know/doesn't remember, maybe offer to help them find some things that help
β And if you as a caregiver is splittingβ Remember not to be hard on yourself during this time, and make sure to ask for space or support if you need it. It's okay to take time from your regressor if needed, it will keep you both safe and happy. I don't have much more on this because I'm not a caregiver. BUT if anyone wants me to make a list like this on how caregivers can deal with splits, I'd love to do that in the future E:)
And remember that no matter role you take in this situation, your feelings are valid. You're allowed to want space from people or situations, and you're allowed to help yourself and recieve help.
Let me know if anyone wants a version of this that is tailored to caregivers splitting (And I'll provide advice for regressors in that too if I can think of any!!)
Sorry if any of this was worded bad.. a little tired right now
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Stress Relief/Calming Distraction/etc. Ideas for Regressors (based on my own experiences and things I've learned from others)
-- FIRST AND FOREMOST,
β’ Take some deep breaths. I know that's like listening to a broken record and obvs doesn't work for everyone, but it's worth a try!
β’ Drink some water and put some comfy clothes on and/or wrap your favorite blankie around yourself!
β’ Put on some soft lighting, if available. Especially if you're overstimulated!
β’ If you gotta/wanna bodily/vocally stim, DO IT!!! I also like to use stim toys and touch/hug soft things like a blanket, stuffie or pillow.
β’ If you have a pet, give 'em a cuddle or some pets! (a stuffie is also very comforting!) Or if you have one that can't/doesn't like to be handled/touched, you can just sit and watch them move around (feeding them if needed, can also be fun to watch!) (I love watching my fish swim around/eat sometimes πΉ)
β’ If you're feeling anxious; dip your face in a bowl of cold/ice water, eat something sour or spicy like Warheads sour spray, Sour Patch Kids, Takis or jalapeΓ±os, hold something cold like an ice pack against your chest/stomach, try to relax your jaw and shoulders, use stim toys/stress balls
β’ If you're feeling angry; you can crumple/tear up pieces of paper or an old notebook. Writing down your feelings and/or scribbling rapidly before doing this is good too! You can also punch a pillow or anything soft enough to where you won't hurt yourself. Ik it can be wasteful, but snapping wooden pencils into lil bits was very therapeutic for me for a while! If you happen to have balloons for whatever reason, you can tie one to a rubber band(/string?) and bounce it against your fist like onea these babies:
β’ From the one above, write out your feelings! Even if it's just "I am feeling _ because _". If you have a hard time finding the words, here's some cool emotion wheels I like to use!:
β’ If you are on your period, take some painkillers (Midol is a lifesaver!), try to avoid caffeine & nicotine if you smoke, use a heating pad/heated blanket if available, take a hot bath or shower, if possible exercise/walking or certain stretches can help with cramping, and I'm gonna be completely honest here free-bl33ding on the toilet just helps sometimes idk π
-- NEXT, DISTRACTIONS:
β’ If possible, go for a walk or ride your bike around the block!
β’ If possible, try to talk to/call or text someone you trust, like a friend or family member. You can talk about anything, it doesn't have to be about what's causing your stress/anxiety/etc.
β’ Watch TV, YouTube, stim GIFs/videos, etc. Whatever helps you relax or laugh!
β’ Play a calming video game (I like to play Slime Rancher, Animal Crossing, Cooking Mama, Night In The Woods, Webkinz and No Man's Sky on creative mode!)
β’ Be creative! Even if you think you're "bad" at it bc it doesn't matter if it looks "pretty," you don't have to show anyone or post it anywhere. All that matters is if it makes you feel better! Drawing/doodling and coloring have always been a very great emotional outlet for me! Other fun stuff you could do: Splatter/abstract paint, make a collage or start a scrapbook, make a DIY craft with stuff around your house, SCRIBBLE!!, play around with an instrument or music program/app, design a character on Picrew or some sort of character creator, print out/make paper dolls and their clothes, stickerbomb something, film a music video featuring ur pets/stuffies/toys!
β’ Continuing the creativity one, make a mood/stim/agere board for yourself, an OC, your fave/comfort characters(s), etc.!
β’ Do word/number puzzles like word searches, crossword puzzles, sudoku, acrostic puzzles, cryptograms, framework/fill-in puzzles, etc.
β’ If you like making lists (like me), write out a list! (Ideas: Your comfort characters/movies/shows, your favorite board/video games, favorite places or cool places you've been, interesting animals, favorite bands/musical artists, current favorite songs, etc.)
β’ If you're like me, you can play some music and write down your favorite lyrics from each song that plays! (And doodle/scribble around the paper borders in between hehe) And/or make a playlist! Maybe make a playlist of songs that make you feel better in that moment, so you can look for it whenever ur stressed/upset!
β’ If possible, take a hot bath (you can add bubbles, bath bombs and/or toys!) Or a quick shower. Oh, and speaking of, I have a tip for people who struggle with brushing your teeth/remembering to do so! Try brushing your teeth when you shower!
These aren't the only things I do/know about, just ones I can remember at the moment, and they may not all work for everyone of course, but hopefully this is helpful to someone. π₯Ί Feel free to add more in the replies/tags/reblogs!
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