HypnoDolly

Everyone has kinks and that's great but a lot of people tend to forget that our kinks do not reflect our actual views. Take me for example, I have a misogyny kink but do I actually believe in misogyny? No way, I'm a feminist that goes to protests and used to work for a charity. There is a big difference between what gives us a boner and what we believe day-to-day. It's interesting to think about the psychology behind it but honestly, that's for another day. Kinks Kinks are great, they give us fantasies and boners but they’re also an escape from reality for however long the scene goes on. They’re like therapy to some people and a shield to others but we still need to remember that just because we get off on it, we’re not bad people. Sure, I like to degrade my partners but do I mean it? No. I love the trust they give me to break them down and build them back up, stronger. This is where the main difference between fantasy and reality comes in. I could call someone disgusting and a whore in bed but the minute the scene is over, they’re my everything, my world and my treasure. Separating the two can be hard but knowing your partner is important, as is establishing boundaries and limits. Respecting these boundaries and limits is even more important as, without them, you could either emotionally or physically hurt your partner or even yourself and that's something that we can't let happen. Pushing the danger aside, it's important to communicate your needs to your partner to make sure these lines aren’t crossed and to keep the notion of fantasy alive.

Another thing we need to look out for is shame and harm. I’m not talking about sexy shame, but real shame. The shame you may feel for having a kink around something you wouldn’t dare think about in your vanilla life. Let's go back to misogyny for a moment as an example. In the bedroom, you may enjoy being used and degraded by men but outside, you might be a high ranking team member at work that orders men around for a living. There's nothing wrong with this as long as you remember, it's a kink. Equality is a beautiful and important thing, realistically but kink is also a beautiful thing. Crossing these together is when we start to have problems. One rule I live by is “not everyone consents to my kink’’ and it's important to remember that not everyone is okay with what gets you off. I wouldn’t go up to a random person, start calling them Sir and begging to be under them, it's just not appropriate and again, they didn’t consent to it. Separating kink and real life is the same thing. Not everyone consents to what you like and that's okay. The world would be boring if we all liked the same things. Keeping these separate, it’s also important to your mental health. Yes, some people live 24 hour lifestyles but even then, they have time to themselves. Relying, being controlled or even submitting to someone is a big thing, don’t ruin it by overstepping boundaries. -Vex

I fall too hard, too fast.

Your eyes meet mine, and you groan quietly. I feel your hand move to the back of my head as you begin to idly play with my hair while I suck you.

“What are you thinking?”

I shrug. Feelings are annoying.

“C’mon, share your thoughts,” you insist.

I shrug again. I refuse to admit how much I like you.

Your hand grabs a handful of my hair, and you hold my head tightly in place, your cock in my mouth.

“Tell me.”

You aren’t asking anymore.

Should I be good? Should I be obedient?

Not today.

I shake my head no.

I’m testing you.

Your hips thrust into my face as your cock slams into the back of my throat. Choking, my eyes immediately begin to water.

I happily moan into you, opening my throat and feeling the drool drip from my chin.

“Dammit,” you curse, still holding me firmly in place. “I thought that would be a punishment for you.”

My eyes sparkle with tears and desire.