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I have experience with semi/non verbal subs with mental health backgrounds but not autism, who need a bit more care with consent. I can absolutely expand on how I would change from a verbal check in to a non verbal one from that point of view, and hopefully there will be some cross over!

I'm not an expert at this and I don't have experience with non verbal subs with autism. This is a generalised tip list of ways to give consent with no words!

With semi/non verbal subs there has to be a little bit more care and awareness, but these are possible ways to get explicit consent!

Discussions well in advance, with practice outside of a scene on clear, explicit signs that you both understand and couldn't mean anything else.

This could be a tap/bite somewhere that is off limits and easy to reach for the sub.

There could be something that the sub can reach that makes a noise, a bell perhapse on the bedside table, that they could use.

Before the scene, double check, do you know what the sign is? Are you comfortable?

Then, just like in all situations, "show me baby, you okay? You show me if you're happy and want to continue. Really clear now. Let me see."

Lots and lots of praise and reassurance for every check in.

Continuous checks show care and are incredibly important.

All doms should know how important it is that they should safeword and stop if they're ever unsure.

Consent should always be clear and checked on.

Your sub should always feel safe, they trust you.

I'm sure there are plenty more ways! But every single sub deserves explicit and enthusiasticly consented experiences and to feel absolutely safe in your hands. ❤️

Communication is key, be that verbal or non verbal.

You're very welcome to add to this in the comments with ideas here too! I'm not an expert and can always learn!

Edit:

I tried to find helpful links and the only one I can find is from a website called 'Scarleteen' and seems to be a sex ed website. I'll link it just incase it's helpful for anyone.

A Brief Guide to Consenting with a non verbal Partner

"Tapping out", like you do in martial arts, signifies a need to stop whatever is currently happening. It can be either my "yellow" or "red" signal. 2-3 taps, on the shoulder, the mattress, the floor, anything you can reach, is deliberate and clear enough to get the point across. Tapping out signifies a need for a check-in of some kind. It can create a pause, where we can readjust or try something else, or it can signify a total "stop".

Head nodding/shaking works well, too! A partner can check in with some yes or no questions you can easily answer. In a good dynamic, this can still be totally sexy, and doesn't wreck the mood or distract at all. Eager head nodding is still enthusiastic consent, and it can be totally adorable!

Even a thumbs-up counts! Nonverbal moments hit me most often immediately after something intense, like an orgasm or a a seriously good impact scene, and I often can't do or say much. My partner will ask if I'm okay, I'll shoot them a trembly little thumbs-up, they'll laugh at how worn-out and cute I am....it's nice!

Just like every other thing in kink does, it comes down to good communication, healthy dynamics, and good partners. Good partners will take your nonverbal cues as seriously as verbal ones. Good partners will respect nonverbal boundaries. Good partners will communicate with you to learn your cues, and healthy dynamics will find and support boundaries and safewords together.

And if you, or your partner, are ever unsure of anything, you can stop! At any time, for any reason, even if you don't understand yet why you feel uncomfortable, you can stop! You get to stop anything that doesn't feel good, and any good partner will respect that! If someone can't or won't pay attention to your nonverbal cues, they shouldn't be touching anyone, neurotypical or neurodivergent.