Behind Plural Spaces

Welcome to pluralconfess!!

A place to share bad experiences in plural spaces, whether that’s servers, subreddits, Tumblr groups, or general community interactions.

This account exists so people can talk about things that went wrong: bad moderation, exclusion, manipulation, harassment, toxic environments, uncomfortable interactions, misinformation, or experiences that were ignored or dismissed.

The goal is discussion and sharing experiences. Not harassment, dogpiling, or targeting people.

This blog is intended for plural spaces only. Anti-endo spaces, exclusionist spaces, or communities built around denying people’s plurality are not the focus of this account.

What can be submitted:

* Discord servers

* Subreddits

* Tumblr groups/spaces

* Moderation issues

* Toxic community dynamics

* Negative or uncomfortable experiences in plural spaces

* Situations involving exclusion, misinformation, manipulation, or conflict

Rules:

* No doxxing

* No harassment campaigns or dogpiling

* No posting private information

* Don’t encourage people to attack others

* Include context when possible

* Add content/trigger warnings for heavy topics

* Usernames are not required to be censored, but it is preferred where reasonable. Please use discretion, especially with smaller accounts or private individuals.

Submissions can be anonymous.

About the blog:

Run by the founder of r/plurallounge / @kandibah , a mixed-origin, pro-endogenic system.

This blog exists to talk about the parts of plural communities people don’t always discuss.

The truth behind plural spaces.

I just got sent one and I know the situation involved. I know the details from it. I will not be posting ones which do not share a correct story. These will be only ones I know of and can vouch for the person who the ask is about.

I/we were in this discord server and oh my god the moderation was. Something. They had an ‘other language’ chat, for talking when using typing quirks or another language, with a translation provided in small text below. That’s fine, right? But you can’t speak English there. Which means if someone with a typing quirk wants to talk to someone who doesn’t, they either have to just not use their typing quirk (not possible/hard to do for some) or just not talk to them.

Eating disorders could only be mentioned in the TW vent channel. Which felt wrong to me. What we have to say about our eating disorder isn’t always negative! I understand using a TW, but it shouldn’t be restricted to the TW vent channel. Not to mention, speaking of cannabalism (? I can’t spell it) without a warning of any kind or spoiler barring the message was perfectly fine.

Eventually, we were banned. No warning no reason nothing. We had to reach out to a no-longer friend who was on the mod team to figure it out. Said server claimed to be a place where paranoia/anxiety inducing statements/images/actions were not allowed. Banning someone without telling them why can be extremely anxiety inducing (especially for us).

Oh, and another thing. There was a questions channel if you needed help from staff, but if you weren’t staff you were completely unallowed to answer? I understand it for questions like “hey, this role isn’t working” but even just “where could I find [so and so] channel?” you weren’t allowed to answer.

I’m disappointed because that was the only pro-endo discord server we’ve been able to find. We had some more critiques but I can’t think of them right now.

-🌙🪷 (so we recognize ourself)