Phoenix Status

Some things are beyond your control or influence. It is not always your fault.

Just because someone hurt you, doesn't mean you deserved it.

1. Forgive yourself. You aren’t perfect. No one is. Recognise that beating yourself up will only make things worse. Instead, forgive yourself, and then decide to just move on.

2. Focus on motivation. Without motivation, you can’t do anything. It’s much more powerful than self-discipline. So when things get tough, remind yourself of why life will be better if you reach your goal.

3. Make it easy. Discipline is tough so remove some obstacles. For example, if you’re having a hard time exercising, make it super easy by just doing 5 minutes to start with. If you can make that change for 30 days in a row, you’ll have developed a new habit.

4. Focus on enjoyment. It’s hard to push yourself — and to have self-discipline — when you hate doing something, or you see it as a drag. So do whatever you can to create a sense of fun. For example, if you don’t like exercise, find some good music, or a workout partner, and focus on that part of the activity.

5. Repeat. You’ll almost inevitably slip up from time to time, no matter how good, and committed, you are. Just get up, get going, and keeping marching straight ahead.

1. Distract yourself. Let your mind wander and think about fun things you’ve planned; or watch a funny movie; or call up a friend.

2. Play your favourite music.

3. Try and balance out your terrible day by thinking of something that went really well (and maybe unexpectedly well) recently.

4. Try to squeeze in time for exercise. The endorphins this releases will help to lift your mood.

5. Don’t isolate yourself. Research shows that we generally feel better if we spend time with others, rather than retreating and being on our own.

6. Try to maintain perspective. Ask yourself, “How much will this matter - a week, month or year from now?”

7. Try journaling. Many people find that just writing things down helps to drain away the negativity.

You can only change your inner state and how you think about the world and people as reflections of you.

The change starts within you. It is so simple, yet so hard to believe, as we have been taught that only through control, manipulation and hard work can we get desired results. It is time to wake up from the slumber and take ownership for your thinking, feeling and the dominant state you are in.

Feeling and believing is the secret. You are free to become whoever you want to. Claim is. Design your desired state and become it. Believe that you are destined for your desire. You had no problem believing in yourself, your dreams when you were a kid. You simply forgot you are that powerful. Claim back your power.

1. Pay attention to what bugs you – it could be telling you something important about yourself.

2. Don’t just live with blah or negative feelings. Decide that you will fight to have a happier life.

3. Don’t change or stifle your personality. You’re valuable and special – so be true to who you are.

4. Pay attention to your physical symptoms. They may be highlighting unresolved frustrations, pain that needs addressing, or deep unhappiness.

5. Notice where your mind goes when it starts to wander. This often gives you insights into wishes, hopes and dreams.

6. Be willing to acknowledge and face your fears as they’re stopping you from going for the life you want to have.