peacefulprotest

i don’t want to achieve equality by sinking to men’s level, i want them to get on ours! why should i have to unlearn the conversational art of waiting my turn, unlearn sexual self-restraint, unlearn trust in others’ good intentions, unlearn the impulse to cater to others’ needs, just to have a chance at success among savages? why can’t the men learn some fucking manners so we can all conduct our affairs in a civilized manner? i shouldn’t have to stop saying sorry, you say sorry!

In the 80s when I was in my freshman year in college, they still had entirely separate mens and women’s dorms. I was in class waiting for a final to start and one of the guys was telling someone about how he had had to go into a women’s dorm to drop something off, and he was startled to see posters on the walls, flowers, curtains, etc. He said his men’s dorm had holes in the walls, things on fire, fights, guys walking around with open wounds and he just didn’t understand why they had to live like this. He said, “I want to live with the women, in civilization.”

Am reading Sisterhood of Spies, about women working for the OSS during WWII. One of the stories mentions that the women in London had a male visitor who would eat in their mess hall once a month. He was married and wasn’t interested in hitting on any of the women; he just wanted to eat in an atmosphere where people said “Please pass the butter,” instead of “PASS THE GODDAMNED GREASE”

I dated a guy who brought me along on group activities (movies, video game night, etc.) with four or five other male friends. Once I mentioned to one of the other guys that I hoped I wasn’t intruding on their “guy time” or some such. He got this sort of rueful look and said, “The truth is, I really like it when you’re here because it gives us a reason to act better. When it’s just guys, we all have to try to outdo each other with how vile we are.”

So the moral of these stories are men don’t even treat each other like human beings.

why did they give this line to the villain

To make it seem like a bad thing to young girls

You only become conservative when the system works in your favour. That has not been the Millennial experience.

For context, Keanu lost his friend River Phoenix in 93, his baby in 2000 and the grief ended his relationship, his ex died a year later in a car crash and his sister has been battling leukemia half her life. Colbert lost two brothers in a plane crash. This wasn’t a joke about immortality by Colbert, he knows better.

I was listening to a super in depth podcast with Colbert and he mentioned that one of the reasons he started trying comedy as a child was to try and get his mother to smile again since he was the oldest remaining sibling and she was basically a shell of herself. His dad died in that plane crash too. He also saw as a poor kid in South Carolina that southerners were stereotyped as stupid, so he started trying to copy the way that tv news anchors spoke. Not to make it a whole thing but… Stephen Colbert is such a kind hilarious genius and is one of those people who is so lovely that you really wouldn’t know he’s been through hell.