Yes, this scene is sadāDean is being sad and drinking beer sadly and looking at the pictures sadly, but letās see it under a different point of view.
Dean here needs a moment to be alone with his pictures and his thoughts and his emotions. He needs to be in a safe place where he feels comfortable. Where do we go when we need a moment to be alone to deal with our sadness? Somewhere private that we feel a connection to, like our bedroom or a place that means a lot to us, right? DeanĀ picks the kitchen.
Deanās cocoon, Deanās safe place, has become the kitchen. He goes there to be alone with his feelings. He goes there to be emotional.
We have discovered that Mary doesnāt use the kitchen, she doesnāt cook. But Dean does. Dean loves his kitchen. He feels safe and at home in his kitchen.
Dean needs a moment to be alone with his emotions and crouches against the kitchen cabinets, in front of the stove, a place where his legs fit just right, in fact. He feels at home in his kitchen, he kind of entrusts the kitchen with his feelings; he used to do that with the car, but the car means life on the road, and what Dean craves stability (which parallels him to Rowena, who calls the Ben guyĀ āstableā). He feels home in the bunker now, heās going to be pissed if the British Men of Letters try to get him out of it (which will likely happen, poor Dean).
Mary hasĀ āburst his bubbleā about her meals; he has realized that Mary wasnāt the perfect housewife and mother he thought her to be. He assumed her to be; itās not like Mary ever pretended that the meals were homecooked, she doesnāt sayĀ āsorry I lied to youā, she just says that reality was different than what Dean had assumed. Dean built the image of what a perfect housewife and mother is likeāhe assumed a mother homecooks, for instance. Something he loves to do for the people he loves. Basically, Dean projected his own nurturing instincts on her.
Dean is what he imagines a perfect housewife to be. Providing Sammy - whom he was a guardian for, aka a parent figure - food he makes on his own, more or less. Remember what he told TinaāāMy Dad was always working, so I came up with about 101 different ways to make macaroni and cheeseāā¦ he invented recipes (within his skill range as a kid of course), he did his best to come up withĀ personal recipes for the food he gave to Sam. He didnāt just buy food from the supermarket and place it in front of Sam, he made his own recipes and variations. Even in Something Wicked heās shown mixing stuff in a pot, if Iām not mistaken.
Dean makes food for the people he loves and he gets all proud and happy about it. Dean made the airplane thing to Sammy.Ā āFirst tooth, first crushāāwe donāt really know about the teeth, but Dean gave Sam advice on how to talk with girls when he met Amy Pond.
Dean also gave John emotional comfort when he came home from hunts, something that one should get from a partner, not a child.
Dean is what he believes a perfect housewife and mother should be. The queen of the kitchen. The provider of emotional support.
The traditional gender roles assign to women the role of provider of housework labor and provider of emotional labor. And those are Deanās roles in the family. Heās the angel of the hearth of the Winchester family. Now with Mary back, the dynamic between the actual mother figure and the āsurrogate mother figureā will be interesting to see.
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