YOU'RE THE ONE THAT NEEDS FORGIVENESS

(not direct quotes, please watch the video yourself and gain your own opinion.)

added before Im less frantic emotionally:

this video portrays the rqc as this hive mind or like we're all form the same cookie-cutter. yes, their are stereotypes, every community has them (examples: 'UwU t4t gay trans men' , '2000+ xeno weirdo did faker' , etc. I don't support stereotypes but those are common ones I've seen.). the video has a multitude of misinformation. it boils down the community to seem bad, when you can do that to every community, just like how every community has it's rotten eggs or bad apples.

the video also treats all radqueers like their little kids (I also mention this in my other section on my opinion, this one is more based around the whole video & less of my opinion). it severally infantilizes half the community then demonizes the other half, with little to no in-between.

it also acts like all transids (which in fact, does include transgender), are all harmful or harm based identities. when that is simply a subsection to the transit umbrella.

for antis or other none radqueers who want to have a RESPECTFULL and CIVIL conversation, please continue to read thks whole post in case your question or thoughts might be answered. if they are not, their is a list of rules, read those as their at the bottom of this post, once read and understood feel free to ask questions or for clarification.

“Why would you like, want to be abused?” (speaking on conabuse & transharmful) - that’s not your place to criticize. if someone wants a conabuse relationship, then that’s their choice. If two bodily adults consent then why do YOU care, it’s not your responsibility to play the savior for someone else. this also goes for CNC, or other transharmful identities.

let me not forget to add, transNazis are usually N.I.Ns, or none ideological nazis. plus most transnazis I’ve seen were Jewish (aka one of the biggest victims to original nazis).

“it’s like a cult” - cults have leaders. plus any community can be called a cult based of Jessis words.

“They groom people into it” - many have given their opinion on how they found the community and found that they weren’t afraid to be themselves.

“as a vic of sa […]” (referring to TransRapist , TransGroomer , etc) - I’m a victim of sexual assault, child molestion, grooming, bullying, harrasment and so much more, I think that just saying your a ‘victim of something’ is fucking stupid. if you can’t just share your thoughts and opinions on a matter without feeling the need to ‘prove’ you know what your talking about, I don’t care. honestly I don’t. the only time I wanna know your experience is if it’s related to the medical field, or other sciences where first hand experience is needed. that also being said, who cares about someone else’s identity if it’s not hurting someone.

"proship & darkship are different / same" (watch the video for a correct quote) - technically no. this point includes misinformation. darkship falls under proship. if your darkship then your proship, but if your proshio your not admittedly darkship.

you want to know what’s actually fucked up to me? That I’m terrified that I might be killed, assaulted or doxxed for wanting the world to be more accepting and less oppressive. watching the video, I had an insane sense of dread, I’m worried I might be harrased for something as stupid as a label.

if you want to truly call being radqueer a cult, then you should say the same for every other community as well. lgbtq? well it must be a cult since they say to accept your sexuality & gender, must be a cult because many lgbtq spaces offer comfort to queer folk, must be a cult because minors and adults happen to interact. See who fucking stupid that idea is.

what’s also worse is the video acts like all radqueers are these little kids who can’t think for themselves and MUST be victims. when most I’ve seen are older teenagers looking to have a place of comfort (which many communities have this factor), and theirs nothing wrong with looking for a place we’re your not fucking scared of being harassed and sent death threats for simply being YOURSELF.

I was more miserable pretending to be someone I am not, then when I stumbled across the rqc and felt safe. I’m often SCARED to speak about me gender identity because it’s “to complicated” to the ‘normal queer individuals’ (ie: Im multigender) , im often scared to be open about my kinks because their taboo & ‘gross’ (all of which, are things I would consent to & never, NEVER force someone to see or do), im scared to be open about my own disorders because I personally think I should have full body autonomy & that me starving myself is my problem (many people think it’s ’your boy, my choice’ or think people shouldn’t allowed to do things to their OWN BODY).

this community has also made my pedophilic thoughts of myself actually lessen, because I used to think I was some whore who deserved it (edit to add context: pedophilic thoughts about myself being raped and groomed from the ages 2-14, most thoughts being about the times when I was 2 & 6 and was molested). But with so many conversations on consent, self image, and acceptance. I grown to understand that I shouldn’t see myself like that. And I finally felt normal, to the point that those thoughts are relatively gone in that sense, though I now channel the lingering feelings and emotions of being upset into sexual feelings were I can let off that emotion in a positive and healthy way (ie: fauxcest sexual relations).

I was overjoyed to find a space where I could be open and honest, im not fully open about myself yet because I’m still afraid of judgement, not because I think radqueers will judge, but because after being told I’m disgusting & deserve to KILL MYSELF for my identities, that fear lingers, and videos like this continues the cycle of forcing others to box themselves in because they’ll be good enough for the “normal ones”.

mind you, the “normal ones”, are the ones who have told me I should kill myself, threatened to rape me, and have sent CHILD SEXUAL ASSUALT MATERIAL & ANIMAL ABUSE VIDEOS to radqueers. you are sick of you think the ones who claim to care for children yet don’t actually protect them are the normal ones. Because I’ve seen antis PROTECT OTHER ANTIS WHO SENT THESE BEFORE, I’ve seen more radqueers say that that is fucked up and down right disgusting more then the “NORMAL PEOPLE”.

If you want to have civil, and respectful conversation. Then I will be fine with antis interacting under this posts comments, and this post only but their will be rules.

be respectful (no slurs, insults or threats)

share your opinion but keep in mind not everyone will feel the same way.

for serious allegations, show proof to prove your claim.

keep in mind that paraphilies are considered a disorder, and remember other disorders can include paras (ex: pocd)

(not direct quotes, please watch the video yourself and gain your own opinion.)

added before Im less frantic emotionally:

this video portrays the rqc as this hive mind or like we're all form the same cookie-cutter. yes, their are stereotypes, every community has them (examples: 'UwU t4t gay trans men' , '2000+ xeno weirdo did faker' , etc. I don't support stereotypes but those are common ones I've seen.). the video has a multitude of misinformation. it boils down the community to seem bad, when you can do that to every community, just like how every community has it's rotten eggs or bad apples.

the video also treats all radqueers like their little kids (I also mention this in my other section on my opinion, this one is more based around the whole video & less of my opinion). it severally infantilizes half the community then demonizes the other half, with little to no in-between.

it also acts like all transids (which in fact, does include transgender), are all harmful or harm based identities. when that is simply a subsection to the transit umbrella.

for antis or other none radqueers who want to have a RESPECTFULL and CIVIL conversation, please continue to read thks whole post in case your question or thoughts might be answered. if they are not, their is a list of rules, read those as their at the bottom of this post, once read and understood feel free to ask questions or for clarification.

“Why would you like, want to be abused?” (speaking on conabuse & transharmful) - that’s not your place to criticize. if someone wants a conabuse relationship, then that’s their choice. If two bodily adults consent then why do YOU care, it’s not your responsibility to play the savior for someone else. this also goes for CNC, or other transharmful identities.

let me not forget to add, transNazis are usually N.I.Ns, or none ideological nazis. plus most transnazis I’ve seen were Jewish (aka one of the biggest victims to original nazis).

“it’s like a cult” - cults have leaders. plus any community can be called a cult based of Jessis words.

“They groom people into it” - many have given their opinion on how they found the community and found that they weren’t afraid to be themselves.

“as a vic of sa […]” (referring to TransRapist , TransGroomer , etc) - I’m a victim of sexual assault, child molestion, grooming, bullying, harrasment and so much more, I think that just saying your a ‘victim of something’ is fucking stupid. if you can’t just share your thoughts and opinions on a matter without feeling the need to ‘prove’ you know what your talking about, I don’t care. honestly I don’t. the only time I wanna know your experience is if it’s related to the medical field, or other sciences where first hand experience is needed. that also being said, who cares about someone else’s identity if it’s not hurting someone.

"proship & darkship are different / same" (watch the video for a correct quote) - technically no. this point includes misinformation. darkship falls under proship. if your darkship then your proship, but if your proshio your not admittedly darkship.

you want to know what’s actually fucked up to me? That I’m terrified that I might be killed, assaulted or doxxed for wanting the world to be more accepting and less oppressive. watching the video, I had an insane sense of dread, I’m worried I might be harrased for something as stupid as a label.

if you want to truly call being radqueer a cult, then you should say the same for every other community as well. lgbtq? well it must be a cult since they say to accept your sexuality & gender, must be a cult because many lgbtq spaces offer comfort to queer folk, must be a cult because minors and adults happen to interact. See who fucking stupid that idea is.

what’s also worse is the video acts like all radqueers are these little kids who can’t think for themselves and MUST be victims. when most I’ve seen are older teenagers looking to have a place of comfort (which many communities have this factor), and theirs nothing wrong with looking for a place we’re your not fucking scared of being harassed and sent death threats for simply being YOURSELF.

I was more miserable pretending to be someone I am not, then when I stumbled across the rqc and felt safe. I’m often SCARED to speak about me gender identity because it’s “to complicated” to the ‘normal queer individuals’ (ie: Im multigender) , im often scared to be open about my kinks because their taboo & ‘gross’ (all of which, are things I would consent to & never, NEVER force someone to see or do), im scared to be open about my own disorders because I personally think I should have full body autonomy & that me starving myself is my problem (many people think it’s ’your boy, my choice’ or think people shouldn’t allowed to do things to their OWN BODY).

this community has also made my pedophilic thoughts of myself actually lessen, because I used to think I was some whore who deserved it (edit to add context: pedophilic thoughts about myself being raped and groomed from the ages 2-14, most thoughts being about the times when I was 2 & 6 and was molested). But with so many conversations on consent, self image, and acceptance. I grown to understand that I shouldn’t see myself like that. And I finally felt normal, to the point that those thoughts are relatively gone in that sense, though I now channel the lingering feelings and emotions of being upset into sexual feelings were I can let off that emotion in a positive and healthy way (ie: fauxcest sexual relations).

I was overjoyed to find a space where I could be open and honest, im not fully open about myself yet because I’m still afraid of judgement, not because I think radqueers will judge, but because after being told I’m disgusting & deserve to KILL MYSELF for my identities, that fear lingers, and videos like this continues the cycle of forcing others to box themselves in because they’ll be good enough for the “normal ones”.

mind you, the “normal ones”, are the ones who have told me I should kill myself, threatened to rape me, and have sent CHILD SEXUAL ASSUALT MATERIAL & ANIMAL ABUSE VIDEOS to radqueers. you are sick of you think the ones who claim to care for children yet don’t actually protect them are the normal ones. Because I’ve seen antis PROTECT OTHER ANTIS WHO SENT THESE BEFORE, I’ve seen more radqueers say that that is fucked up and down right disgusting more then the “NORMAL PEOPLE”.

If you want to have civil, and respectful conversation. Then I will be fine with antis interacting under this posts comments, and this post only but their will be rules.

be respectful (no slurs, insults or threats)

share your opinion but keep in mind not everyone will feel the same way.

for serious allegations, show proof to prove your claim.

keep in mind that paraphilies are considered a disorder, and remember other disorders can include paras (ex: pocd)

This community needs to sit down and listen for a moment, primarily a specific part of this community

Over the last few weeks, my Partners and Friends have been getting harassed, I have stayed silent on the topic, for a mix of wishing to avoid the same for myself, and assuming it would die down after a while. It did not.

This was for a mix of reasons, primarily being reactive while calling out those who were pro non-consentual harm.

You can claim there were other reasons, but there truely wasn't, I will actively search through their blogs to provide fuckin proof if asked.

It all came to a head recently when one of my friends decided to come out about their grooming experience with Permamonika and the way he had treated them.

When I chose to rejoin this community, I was admittedly groomed into it. When I say groomed, I mean it, I was guilt tripped for having trauma responses around it, and due to my situation when I began to enter this community it was my only form of socialising, and my only way to really push back against my abuser. That got me away from such person. To a degree I thought the community had changed.

Something funny is, I learned during those months to duck my head in the sand, to really ignore the worst parts. Because hey, like we always say, there's bad parts in any community, right Lad?

This is pretty true. But other communities don't let it fester.

During these months I bumped into discord servers that were purely made for CSAM trading. This should've been my first sign to hit the road. If these types of servers existed anywhere else, that community would bloody be fuming. Not here though

Then I bumped into entire websites full of it, if you enter almost any radqueer only website, it will be a CSEM/CSAM ring. It WILL be passed about.

But that's not the real community? Is it?

Until now, what's reminded me why 14 year old me couldn't do it here, couldn't deal; how you've handled my friend.

Harassing a victim (Peter) to the point of them wanting suicide, supporting a groomer to the point of being willing to die on that hill. There are alot of you who don't care about victims. Alot, and I'm pretty tired of acting like you do.

You hate that my friend, my friends, none of them are perfect victims, and it makes me ill. They are not your run of the mill quiet types, and none of you can handle that. They are human, they are impulsive, they are mentally ill, they yell, they bite, they scratch, they claw, not aesthetically, not in a way you can reblog and then ignore the discourse ever happened, they truely BITE.

Especially Peter, he is still a member of youth, a minority. He is definitely not the ideal victim, and for that, despite being groomed, asked for nudes as a 14 year old. He did not back down, he yelled, he fought. He was not the perfect victim, he did not quiet down. He responded to his abuse different than I ever had, he did not become a poseable doll who you can take your frustration out on and still get perfect quiet responses from, he bared his claws, and I'm honestly proud for him.

Victims do not need to be quiet, they don't need to shut their mouths and take it, they don't need to just pretend it didn't happen. They're allowed to yell, and fight, they get that right, they don't own you being nice after going through hell, or if your putting them through hell, especially not to their abuser.

You've made me question if I am pro-recovery for all. I am no longer sure I am, not in this way, not in this everlasting only forgiveness way.

I am anti-prison, but I think I am pro-public/social justice. I am anti-locking people away, but I am pro-victims standing their ground.

It's all made me question my part in my community, how many of you like me because I am the quiet victim, I know I shake when yelled at, I back down when threatened, I keep my head hung low and let it happen, I keep quiet, still. How many will get pissed when I bring it up, when I talk to you honestly? How many of you will send me to suicide when I stop averting my eyes?

Here's a rent lowering statement : we are not in an ideal world.

We are not in an ideal world where racism, ableism, ageism, ect doesn't exist.

I'm pro-this, I'm pro-that. Okay? Will that work on a mass scale in the current social climate?

right now I'll focus on pro-c maps, but this applies to alot in this community.

In this current climate, if we are pro-c maps, will this not be taking advantage of? Will youth have the ability to reach out in their situations and take control? Will there be no way of a power embalance?

No. Not because youth are lesser. I know what you'll claim I'm saying. But because youth is a minority, a minority with not enough rights or education to combat their abusers.

A minority who are taught from a young age to give their abusers what they want, because if not there's consequences. A minority who are taught from a young age that they cannot speak out without punishment. A minority who is taught what happens to adults is fundamentally their fault. Who risk familial isolation, even peer isolation when coming out on abuse. Who risk societal judgement. Who risk corporal punishment. Who aren't listen to. Aren't taken serious. Can be thrown into homes they did not choose at any point. Can be sent to places they do not want to go at any point. Shipped in containers like mail, sold, used as slaves.

I'm pro-youth lib. Anti-c in this current social climate.

Because youth as a minority have had their right to consent taken away in more serious ways than just laws, and until these ways are changed, no adult and minor relationship can truely be equal. Not one with an agegap of 14 and 21.

This applies to more than just youth. This applies to alot of things. Can we really accept everyone? Can we really be pro-every identity? Or is that too vague? What happens when we give people at a mass scale the ability to identify as a abuser? What happebs when we beleive people are recovered at a mass scale with no evidence?

These aren't my only problems with this community, I think you all have a problem with promoting people getting worse. Parts of my mental health was absolutely over accepted by this community. I think you all forget some mentally disabled people don't have the ability to consent when they truely get deep into it. I certainly don't and cannot consent. Nevermind how you all treat boundaries especially around people in relationships. This is not the post for that.

I don't know if I want to be apart of this community anymore. Not after revisiting this all. Not after reliving the worst parts of this community. I've been here before. I HAVE PLAYED THESE GAMES BEFORE!!! It makes me sick. I don't want to co-exist with abusers and real life predators just because "all communities have their bad parts". I don't care if it means I have to hide myself. I don't want to! I've never wanted to!

We'll see, maybe I'll change my mind.

Probably not. I'll likely keep this account, but I don't think I'll ever truely feel comfortable in this community again.

Sayonara you weeaboo shits, mentally I'm out. Even if I answer asks or make posts after this.

And to anyone following me, this doesn't mean I hate you, if you have done nothing wrong this is not an attack on YOU. I just cannot co-exist with abusers who get off free anymore. No thank you.

Would you rather side with a possible victim or a possible predator?

No ones saying Scourge hasn't done anything, but that doesn't mean Monika is void of guilt too

they’re both guilty. i’m against both.

they’ve both done terrible things and i will not interact with either of them

it just seems awful suspicious that two people known to be not great point fingers at one another

Would you rather side with a possible victim or a possible predator?

No ones saying Scourge hasn't done anything, but that doesn't mean Monika is void of guilt too

they’re both guilty. i’m against both.

they’ve both done terrible things and i will not interact with either of them

it just seems awful suspicious that two people known to be not great point fingers at one another

IMPORTANT RADQ PSA ANSWERS!!!

i’m very sorry.

i myself am very much trying to spread awareness about that situation with doctorscourgee as well since its something in particular i’m very passionate about

as for the situation involving you, i’m not exceptionally trusting of the people trying to provide me with evidence/information since they mostly all seem to be connected to the situation with doctorscourgee in a way

if you could explain your perspective on this, that would be very helpful in my search toward the truth

Would you rather side with a possible victim or a possible predator?

No ones saying Scourge hasn't done anything, but that doesn't mean Monika is void of guilt too

they’re both guilty. i’m against both.

they’ve both done terrible things and i will not interact with either of them

it just seems awful suspicious that two people known to be not great point fingers at one another

Irpai has literally nothing to do with this and the fact that you care more about a BUNCH OF FICTIONAL CATS than a child being preyed upon is CRAZY

Would you rather side with a possible victim or a possible predator?

No ones saying Scourge hasn't done anything, but that doesn't mean Monika is void of guilt too

they’re both guilty. i’m against both.

they’ve both done terrible things and i will not interact with either of them

it just seems awful suspicious that two people known to be not great point fingers at one another

Yes I'm still leaving this fuckhole but not until something is done about that piece of human waste.

I know it’s mostly doctor and you didn’t even do anything but the way you’re dodging accountability bullets and nitpicking anons is genuinely disgusting and annoying as fuck. This is why barely anyone likes the radqueer community because taking accountability is a foreign concept to you guys😭 you can’t call an anti racist then simultaneously say retard and slurs used againstREAL LIFE BLACK PEOPLE withZERO consent. Actually isn’t it ironic how you’re anti noncon but you’re just allowing your friends to harass other people with no consent? Yikes.

You still told someone to kill themselves, you still harassed somebody over dumbass anons, take accountability and get over with it. You are not a victim in this situation, control your friends and actually be a “legal consenting adult”. Just take a moment and actually use our thinking caps here and see why you’re being harassed by your own community

Oh my godddd I bully ONE person for acting a fool in my inbox and harassing my friend and y'all act like I'm Satan. I'm not taking "accountability" because I'm not fucking sorry lol? I acknowledge I did that shit, I just don't care. You cannot fucking harass someone and expect them to not bite back.

"Control your friends" do I look like a parent to you?

I don't care what my friends do because I'm not them. It has no effect on our friendship and I really do not think a 14 year old telling someone to kts over the internet is as serious as you think it is. I'm not going to stop being friends with someone for being mean to people I neither know, like, nor care about, especially when them being "mean" amounts to...reblogs and comments.