what nonphannies donât understand is that it isnât about âknowingâ itâs about dnpâs queer joy and comfort level. weâre not happy bc they told us, weâre happy bc they felt comfortable and joyful enough to tell us. âknowingâ has a weird power connotation. If you âknewâ all along youâre trying to establish power over information that you donât have authority on, and it takes power away from the people (dnp) telling you the information.















