Overthinking

me in my early 30s. the way i cope with this feeling is by thinking about how i figured it out when it was the right time for me. when i finally had any silence or stillness in my life. when it was safe to hatch. it doesn't make it any easier, mourning time lost, or what could have been. and i think my experiences in my 20s really helped solidify what i now know about myself. like i had to try every wrong thing that didn't work first before finally landing on the truth. it would have been so much harder for me to come out in my teens and 20s, and i admittedly didn't know enough to do so. even though i was always supportive, and saw myself as pansexual, and was vaguely aware of trans people, i thought being trans was something for other people. i didn't think it was something in my cards. it's such a weird thing to look back on now, but like... my life doesn't even make sense without the context of being trans. there's not a single part of my life that is explainable by being cis. i'm glad i know now, even if i wish i knew sooner, but wow. when that grief hit me it hit hard.

Please read all his books. He was very funny and you'll learn a lot. 🤝

One of THE best books I cite in my dissertation on early 20th century Thai royal ideology (and it's open access). So much stuff clicked after reading it. I should do a reread soon.

yoshirinrada: She's so bad

Babes. They can always do it twice.

He already has a ship partner if a BL wanted to really Go For It and give the people what they want.

The christian family in these memes (which are absolutely all over facebook these days) genuinely do always look miserable. Who the fuck is relating to these stock mormon farm cultists. That is a couple who made love only once in pitch darkness with bags on their heads then celebrated the pregnancy with a feast of uncooked potatoes and warm tapwater. The baby seems intrigued though. Maybe only by the bottle of pills??

and as a queer russian, living in a country where being queer is now legally considered an act of extremism, with the most recent arrest seeing three workers of a gay club being sent to prison for years just for being employees of said club under the lgbtq+ extremism law, sending nanon - who became popular here off of 'bad buddy' - leaves a very poor taste in my mouth, to say the least. it does not feel like a smart bypassing of my government's criminalisation of queer people at all, it feels like a completely careless and extremely disrespectful decision to me as a queer russian currently stuck in this terrorist state and suffering deeply under that law.

feminism has backslid so hard in recent years people don't even know what free the nipple means anymore

And the fact that not wearing a bra is so discouraged and stigmatized that people think the movement was about being able to go braless under your shirt in public rather than about being able to not wear a shirt at all says a lot about how far we've backslid in the past decade

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Just, look, if you're transmasc, nonbinary, transfem, anything; I don't want to lose you, I want you to know happiness here with us. Please, please if you even think of something like this, reach out; to me, to anybody. You are loved. I don't have to already know you to know I love you.

So anybody here, looking at my own profile, remember him with me, and don't forget.

I don't say any of this to excuse it. I think everyone needs to be more aware of this because if you think abuse has to be intentional you will never realize you are capable of abusive behavior. You will never realize you are being shitty to the people you love, because YOU know what you mean, YOU know you don't mean any harm. But you're doing harm. You need to pay attention to the impact you have on other people, and you need to do it all the time, Especially when you feel least capable of doing so. Sorry! You live in a society. Get your head out of your ass.

I humbly offer this contribution.