Hi. It's Cass. I left this group a long while ago, and here's why.
For at least a solid month leading up to me leaving, another friend group of mine had a running joke that I was a plegg, and I was in on it. It was funny! Well, about two days before this incident, I start dissociating.
In what turned out to be a bad idea, I mentioned it to the people in outsider, mentioning the joke in this other friend group, and saying I thought I may be plural.
This was quickly misinterpreted as “I'm plural because I dissociated once”. Well, that is not what I said. It was insisted on anyway.
I had heard from one of my friends that thinking it would be cool to be plural is a sign of undiscovered plurality. I mention this, it gets misinterpreted.
They continued to interrogate me the entire time I dissociated. and then they did it again the next day when I dissociated again. The day after this, my partner comes in and backreads the chat, pointing out some flaws in logic and such.
First off, gender is not based on presentation. Sex ≠ gender ≠ pronouns ≠ presentation. And you know what else is “an actual mental condition”, according to the DSM-5? Gender dysphoria.
Second, it was made incredibly clear that it wasn't “I'm this because I think it's cool”, it's “I heard that thinking it's cool may be a sign of this”.
Third, medical descriptors are, at their core, descriptive. Especially with psychological disorders, they are loose collection of symptoms. Neither social constructs nor disorders exist in a vacuum.
This person then went on to say something along the lines of “well I'm interested in African American culture but I'm not transracial” which is... racist. Which was pointed out, and then denied that it was said.
There's a lot more that I left out, and I very well may have misremembered certain things, this was multiple months ago and I'm working off just a few screenshots and my memory.
