Kiyoko

Successful people succeed because of their strength in character and integrity.

Everyone needs to learn to communicate directly and honestly. Being passive-aggressive and two-faced is a learned trait that gets one nowhere in relationships, business, or success-wise. If you observe successful businessmen and CEOs, they are unafraid of being honest.

There is a way to communicate kindly your views with utmost honesty. There is a polite way to communicate negative views and unfortunate events. 

Then there is its Janus-faced cousin, passive-aggressiveness which is indirect communication with the underlying tone and purpose of hostility. 

Some people I have observed want to be perceived as being a saint of the world, that they are so fixated on image that they pretend to have no arbitration on the issue at hand; this goes for those that watch others get bullied, to pretending that they are not involved with a crime scene that have taken place when they are already incriminated with phosphorescent trails.

Others take politeness so far as to communicate it the sense of charade in mocking the other person. It’s the issue of having others to find out from the grapevine.

I personally prevent this by not speaking of individuals of consequence but then again I think most of the time I only talk about fascinating topics and ideas, not people; gossip and talking about other people is such useless energy. There’s a famous quote on that, but I digress.

I understand some may find it is rude to be direct; however it is a necessity to be honest when times are crucial. 

It is widely believed that white lies are polite, that undetected microaggressions is tolerable, that gossip and rumors are the norm and “entertainment” even as much as the bible states in proverbs 16:28 that those that spread gossip are wicked. 

No one wants horrible things to be stated to them, but even worse, do they want passive-aggressiveness, these sick double-entendres that progresses no one and nothing, dwindling time away.

Social Media: the Imperfect Mirror of Self and Genuine Friendships

I am terrible at social media management. I disappear off of Facebook, I delete blogs and reinvent them like mad, but I’m learning.

I realized there is value in developing a genuine online presence that connect us to like-minded individuals, though on average we will perhaps meet millions, and only a paucity of those select few what we seek.

It’s probably because we see most celebs having their accounts professionally managed, because Trump lives on there as he values the image that he maintains. It’s because people care about their images so much like imperfect glass mirrors that I have this urge to crash them all. 

However, I realized over time, that being authentic and using social media is not mutually exclusive. I strive to be transparent as much as I can in my views, my issues, and sufferings and always will. It’s what makes us human. 

This is not my main blog; I maintain wallstreetspectator.com but perhaps this is the soft side of me that is a wife, that is a gamer, and that reflects on her pains in life. If you’re interested in investing, my life and journey and what I do, it is best to reach me there. However, I am not just a crude-cut Wallstreeter. 

Yes, I have human tears. Yes, I’ve been hurt, bullied, betrayed and spawned. This strength one wields professionally comes at the price of being hardened over the years, as the issues I dealt with in the past are nothing when there are real stakes at play. 

The adage what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger is true; diamonds when cut only shine brighter.

I believe that in the process of keeping myself out there is going to eventually get flack. People are naturally at times going to disagree; hell my husband fights with me all the time. However, I know that it’s the only way to become resilient. The only person that break oneself is truthfully oneself. 

There’s a special pain that I’ve experienced in the past that always flashes before my eyes when something bad happens, like Ciel Phantomhive in Black Butler. 

Fiction like social media tells a tale. It’s why people cosplay or roleplay which I absolutely love (but I’m not YOUR waifu). It’s an imperfect mirror of ourselves as I see myself in a handful of characters, but perhaps I identify most with this one. “We have no need for the past, only the present and future,” he said. 

I still don’t care very much about my image, and I tend to go on spouts of posting adamantly to becoming silent as time permits. It’s simply because I don’t have the luxury of time due to work to consistently maintain a presence.

As aforementioned there is a trade-off of authenticity with outsourcing one’s identity to others, yet if unbalanced also serves as an indicator of fixation of image. To clarify, this can be any social means, not just Twitter as in the example but FB, Instagram, Tumblr, whatever it is. Fomo anyone?

However I value relationships and I realized it is directly tied to my image, though those that are true will value a person not on what others say, but on their own actual experience with a person.  

I am not perfect; I get insecure if I feel that someone is poaching on my husband, I get competitive and I strive to be the best at times, and need a reminder to lift others up as well.