carry your throne

Take my hand, take my whole life too

In a relationship, you need somebody who’s going to call you out, not somebody who’s going to let everything slide. You need somebody who doesn’t want to live without you, but can. Not somebody that is dependent, but somebody who is stronger with you. A relationship is two people, not one.

being in love is strange but what no one tells you about are the complexities of a serious, long term relationship. no one really talks about the ugly times…love is hard work foh. you cannot be selfish, closed minded and unable to compromise. you must be willing to make changes to yourself. you must be willing to self reflect. you must be willing to be emotionally available and comfort your lover. love changes you for the BETTER. love makes you stronger. love makes you resilient yet softer at the same time.

this post isn’t meant to make love seem scary or undesirable it’s an amazing thing but i just find that soooo many people end up in less than fortunate relationships where one person isn’t putting in the same effort as the other, one person isn’t emotionally available, etc.