Onyx Truth

Dating Advice for Dudes Struggling with the Ladies

I’m probably the absolute wrong dude to ever seek advice on how to get women because teaching somebody to have self confidence, honestly, I don’t know how to do that and I’m not even sure it can be taught.  I believe it’s either something you are born with or you have to go through some possible traumatic experience to develop it or whatever, I don’t know. Me being overly confident has always been a trait I possessed ever since I was little kid.  So for all of you dudes out there who are struggling to get women, here’s the thing, you can get your paper up, you can go to the gym and turn into the latest man crush Monday on Instagram, you can get the fly car, the fly house, the fly clothes all of that; but if you don’t have any legit self-confidence about you, none of that stuff is going to matter because a woman will see right through it to where she’ll either dismiss you or attempt to use you in some manner.  You can’t hide your lack of self-confidence behind materialistic stuff. Your true legit self-confidence when it comes to dealing with a woman has to be on full display from the jump and if it’s not there, the struggle will be real for you. Oh sure the money, the muscles and the rest of those nigga trinkets will help you skate by for a while and it will more than likely help you get some booty, but like I said, none of that stuff can hide your insecurities from a woman. Most women can sniff that shit out a mile away and it’ll lead to only a few scenarios:  she’ll just flat out dismiss you, she’ll attempt to use you for your money, or she won’t ever have any respect for you as a man. Those are really the only three results that can come from the lack of self confidence, especially the lack of self confidence when it comes to dealing with the opposite sex. And don’t go out there trying to present some fake self confidence either. Women can spot that too. Your shit has to be genuine to the point where these chicks honestly get the vibe from you that you are that nigga out on these streets regardless of how you look. For all of you physically attractive-challenged brothas out there, I wish I could say I feel your pain but I’d be lying because I’ve never had to deal with that struggle either. To overcome that, once again, all roads lead back to self-confidence.

Emmanuel Aranda: A Black Incel

We have to talk about these incels roaming around and if you don’t know what an incel is, it stands for involuntary celibates. Basically it means a bunch of dudes who can’t get women at all.  Now I know we’ve been having the Pookie vs the educated lame debate for quite a few days, but when you hear people out there talking about how educated lames can’t get any women, they are really talking about black incels; it’s just that the name black incel hasn’t really caught on.  When most people think of an incel, they automatically think of these crazy deranged white dudes who are harming people because they can’t get any women. What people probably fail to realize is that there are a lot of black incels in the black community as well. It’s just when it comes to black vernacular, black incels tend to get lumped into the educated lame category.  I think it’s about time to really go ahead and make a clear distinction to the same degree that we’ve successfully managed to categorize Pookie and Ray Ray.

Why Black Women Prefer Pookie

A lot of black women are honestly under the impression that they are more desirable than they actually are.  It’s a whole bunch of black women running around these days thinking that they are legit prizes being sought after by every man regardless of whether he is a Pookie, an educated lame or a dude somewhere in the middle.  The problem with this line of thinking is that, these women are just flat out lying to themselves day in and day in order to allow for them to justify engaging in pure foolishness unchecked. The reality is, most black women who run around uplifting and praising street niggas only do so because they have no option but to do so because nobody else wants them.  Oh sure, a random educated lame will sleep with these hoodrats, but most educated lames wouldn’t dare seek anything meaningful beyond that with a chick like this who can’t put a proper sentence together despite her more than likely using a smartphone that has autocorrect on it. But these are the type of women who run around offline and online honestly under the belief that because a bunch of dudes may show sexual interest in her that she is actually truly desired beyond just sexual interest when that is clearly not the case and will never be the case.

Pookie & Ray Ray Can Have the Hood

If you are a triple digit IQ knee grow running around here who doesn’t subscribe to Pookie and Ray Ray shit, then this video should be all of the evidence you need to carry you for the rest of your life as to why the black community in terms of the hood is just beyond damaging to the point where it is literally nothing left to do but to let the savages off in there eradicate each other uninterrupted.  For all of the good people who live in the hood surrounded by the savages, I feel for you, I really do. But you need to scrape up every penny you can save with the quickness and relocate far far away as soon as possible. The hood is just a wasteland of rodents and rats at this point. There is absolutely nothing redeemable about investing in the hood other than joining the white folks to get some gentrification popping off.

Is Blaming Everything on White Supremacy Getting Old?

I started blogging in Dec 2013.  A few months later in Feb 2014 I started podcasting.  During that time I was relentlessly going in on talking about white supremacy and white society’s bs in response to all of the police brutality videos that seemed to be popping up every other week.  As a matter of fact this was around the time I discovered black YouTube and I feel deep off into the Blackistan echo chamber because I was eager to hear other black voices expressing their frustrations over the same things I was seeing in the media all of the time.  So for those of y’all constantly complaining about my lack of content talking about white folks and their foolishness, understand I literally have a ton of written blogs and podcasts out there where I was running around with my light skin black fist pumped up in the air under the belief that I was out there giving white society the business.  Looking back almost 6 years later from where I started, I think just within the last 2 or 3 years I finally snapped up out of my trance and returned to seeing things with a clear mind like I used to before I allowed myself to be seduced by all of that good pro-black babble. And don’t act like I’m the only one. Damn near every last one of you have fell into the trance of a pro-black babbler at one point and some of you are still there. But at some point you have to wake up and begin to see things for what they truly are with these people.  The overwhelming majority of them are just full of shit looking to do and say anything to keep black people living in a constant state of fear and anger so that these babblers can monetize that fear and anger.  It is pretty much identical to how all of these black pastors can convince a bunch of people to constantly give them their hard earned money under the belief that a better life awaits them in the afterlife, yet the pastor is out there living his best life right now.  It’s the same hustle, just different names of the hustlers.

Lauren London Did Say She Loves Street Dudes…

So in case you don’t know, some years ago there was this popular men’s magazine called King magazine that used to showcase nothing but “urban models”.  Urban meaning thick black women because these same type of women didn’t fit the body physique or image of what more popular magazines would consider to be model worthy material.  In the black community, most of us never really cared about what the mainstream media deemed as sexy to begin with. Anyways, some years ago King magazine had a feature on Lauren London and in this feature, they were asking Lauren London about the type of men she is attracted to. Here’s what Lauren London had to say about the type of dudes she’s into…

King Magazine:  So you want a man who’s both honest and thug?

Lauren London:  An authentic gangsta…that deletes about half the rap game off your list. I love guys who are street. I won’t even give soft guys a chance.Menace II Society is my shit! Caine was like my first crush. Actually, O-Dog was my true dream guy. I was in love with him, from that opening scene where he pops the convenience store worker. He had me from that gunshot. He was hood, and I loved that.

Kodak Black Put His Bid in For Lauren London

Y’all love some fake outrage on these internet streets don’t ya.  I told you all before, black people are so easy to piss off, just so easy. So anyways, Kodak Black was on social media talking about how he would give Lauren London a year to grieve before he attempted to possibly put his bid in with her and knee grows on Twitter ranging from random nobodies to likes of T.I., Tank and The Game are out there trying to check Kodak and put him back in his place.  As a matter of fact I saw in the comment section of T.I.s video where Kodak jumped in the comments responding to T.I. trying to figure out what’s he gonna do about it. And we all know the answer to that. T.I. ain’t about to do anything but possibly make another video to collect a bunch of hearts. That’s it.

But here’s the thing, what’s wrong with what Kodak said?  What’s wrong? Let’s be real, damn near every dude out there who proclaims to be mad and want to cancel Kodak, these knee grows are thinking the exact same thing Kodak said aloud.  Let’s just keep it real. Think about this, a nigga will holla at your girl while you are alive right in front of you face and everybody is cool with that or they make jokes about it.  As a matter of fact, that singer, August Alsina recently made a song hinting at having an affair with Jada Pinkett Smith. Remember when Meek Mill and Nicki Minaj were going through their little back and forth before finally breaking up? The Game was on social media talking about how he can’t stand Meek Mill for doing her like this and how The Game wishes he could step in to be her man.  How many songs has T.I. written about snatching other dude’s girls?

Dear Mechee X, Embrace Being a Mulatto

I get it that you are passionate about black people because you grew up around black people and most of your family that you associated with was black.  I get it why you are so passionate and so pro-black and I’m not knocking that aspect of you at all. Trust me, I get it. But here’s thing Mechee, no matter how passionate about black people you proclaim to be and how much of the pro-black babbling lingo you master or how much you constantly try to demand that everybody in the Blackistan view you as just simply a black woman; fact is you will never truly be seen as that way by those knee grows.  I don’t want you to view not being fully accepted as a bad thing. I actually want you to embrace it and run full steam ahead with it.

Why?

Because you need to understand that historically, biracials and mulattos have been leading the movement to get black people freedom.  I’ve done blogs on this subject discussing Frederick Douglass, Booker T. Washington, WEB DuBois and others. Mulattos like you and I have always been at the front leading black knee grows to freedom in some shape or form.  This is just facts. I’m not saying to minimize black people or their contributions, I’m just speaking pure facts. So with that being said, you don’t have to run around YouTube declaring yourself to be nothing but bliggity black when it’s clear you are not and the vast majority of pro-blacks out there will never see you as such.

Not All Black Wimmenz

So just think about that fellas, black women want you to defend them at all costs all while cosigning chicks who run around seducing, drugging, and robbing dudes.  But when a dude like me says that no black man should be throwing his cape on to save random black women in distress, all of a sudden I’m the bad guy. This is just how idiotic so many women are these days.  I’m leaning towards maybe this is just a generational thing with young black women running around feeling like it’s ok to drug and rob dudes all while demanding that black men defend them at all costs or maybe this is a result of a bunch single mothers raising kids on their own or maybe this is hoodrat values run amuck in black society, but I honestly can’t just put this all on young black women because I see the same foolish mentality coming from women around my age.  This is just all around sad and pathetic if you ask me.

This is part of the reason why I’m glad I’m married and I met my wife in my mid 20s and decided to lock it down with her.  With the way black women portray themselves online these days, I told you all before but if my wife and I ever divorced, I’m hopping the fence and going to get me a Becky or an Ana Marie.  I’m not sticking my toes back in these shark infested waters of highly unrealistic expectations and delusions of grandeur that has plagued so many black women these days. I just can’t do it. At my age and this far in my life with all I got going, I don’t want those headaches.

Cardi B Should Lose Her Endorsement Deals

So in case you missed it, Cardi was doing a live stream to where she admitted to drugging and robbing dudes back in the day, then she started crying some fake sympathy tears and we all pretty much know how the rest of the story went..a bunch of women were telling her stuff like, “IT’S OK GIRL! YOU DID WHAT YOU HAD TO DO! BLAH BLAH BLAH!”

What’s fascinating is that a few years ago rapper Rick Ross had a lyric saying he put molly all up in a girl’s champagne and she ain’t even know…took her home and enjoyed that…she ain’t even know it.  That line cost him his Reebok deal. But as far as we know, that line was just a line made for a rap song. Meanwhile, Cardi B is out here giving personal testimonies about committing 2 crimes: drugging dudes and robbing dudes.  So it makes you wonder exactly what is going to happen to her career or her endorsements? More than likely nothing will happen to her career and more than likely nothing will happen to her endorsements. And the reason nothing won’t happen is because nobody is going to make a big fuss about it, especially women.  And the reason why is because Cardi B probably has a whole bunch of fans out there who identify with that type of lifestyle.

Black Men are Not Obligated to Protect Black Women

Like I’ve stated countless times and shall continue to say, black men are not obligated to protect random black women. Period.  The only women black men are obligated to protect are the women in their lives, whether they are significant others, family members or friends. That’s it.  A random Keisha getting hemmed up by a random Billy Bob, I’m not obligated at all to intervene if I don’t want to and guess what, I’m not about to be shamed either.  The temporary benefits this random woman gets for me stepping in to protect her do not outweigh the potential issues that may result on my end if me jumping in to help her causes me to be killed or thrown in jail.  If either scenario happened, that random black woman I rescued would not be there to contribute to any legal fees or funeral expenses or whatever. More than likely she’ll just go about her merry little life living carefree. So I don’t even understand why this is even a discussion and why black women pretend to get caught up all in their feels over this subject.

Let’s keep it real, if black women want protection from random dudes out there, then guess what, you need to go get a man and walk around with him everywhere you go.  That’s it. If you can’t do that, then you need to take up a self-defense class and go get a weapon. Those are you’re only options. Making endless videos crying about black men not protecting black women is not about to make any black man with common sense risk his life or freedom over protecting your random stranger ass.  That’s not reality. Having a shared skin color is not a pre-requisite for assuming that all black men are all black women’s secret service. Now if a nigga wants to help you if you are in distress, good for him. But if a nigga doesn’t want to help you because he isn’t trying to add any additional issues to his life, then it is what it is and all of your black girl magic tears is not about to change any of that.

T.I. Calls Out All Pookies & Ray Rays in Dallas

What purpose do Pookie & Ray Ray serve and why are so many of you out there quick to defend these people?  They serve absolutely no legitimate purpose in black society at all other than to cause chaos and destruction amongst only other black people.  That’s it. Their entire existence is wreck havoc on black people in some form or fashion. I heard some YouTubers say that Pookie and Ray Ray would be the first line of defense if a race war ever kicked off or some foolishness like that. That’s a damn lie.  Pookie and Ray Ray would probably join the other side if a race war kicked off. They have yet to demonstrate that they can protect the black community in any capacity whatsoever, but they have mastered the art of terrorizing and causing chaos amongst black people in the black community.  They are certified subject matter experts in that field but yet, every other black person who is not a Pookie and Ray Ray will still defend these idiots at all costs despite them providing absolutely no value whatsoever to the black community.

You think all those Pookies and Ray Rays out in Dallas are going to do anything to avenge that black woman?  Hell no. You think they care about what T.I. is talking about? Hell no. But here’s the thing, had T.I. got on that video calling out another rapper or some random black man and T.I. was talking about how that brotha needs to be found and dealt with, Pookie & Ray Ray would answer the call with the quickness as if the Pookie and Ray Ray Batman symbol was just shot up in the sky.

It’s Not My Fault You Weren’t Born Biracial

For all of you biracial and mixed race content creators out there, stop feeling you like you have to restrict how you may really feel about the foolishness you deal with from non-mixed black people.  Just stop. Just be honest about the crap. Just be honest and tell the truth that the majority of you biracials out there have probably dealt with way more crap from black people for being born biracial than you have from any other group of people out there.  Just be honest about it. Don’t lie or sugar coat it. This is a part of the black experience too. Dealing with a bunch of people who are severely jealous of us or hate us because of how we were born even though those of us who grew up around mostly black people, we spent most of our lives defending and taking up for these very same knee grows who despise us.  Just be honest about this stuff. If it makes them mad, so be it. The faster we all can be honest, the faster we all can hopefully reach a resolution towards moving forward from this mixed vs. non-mixed foolishness.

But until then, stop allowing them to belittle you and make you feel less than because of how you were born and how society treats you in comparison to them.  Just stop it. Unapologetically embrace who you are and all that comes with it. Why in the world should you spend the rest of your life trying to downplay who you are to make others feel better.  Fuck all that. Nobody has time for that. If they want to treat you like the enemy for being a biracial or a light skin mixed race person, then you need to go all out and remind them of their proper place at the very bottom.  That’s what you need to do and don’t feel sorry for doing so.

We Wuz Kangz & Quanz

I was sitting around wondering how come I never hear any other race of people running around saying WE WUZ KINGS AND QUEENS.  Have you ever heard any other race of people saying that? It’s not like Africa was the only place with kings and queens.  There were plenty of kings and queens throughout Europe. Plenty of kings and queens throughout Latin America. Plenty of kings of queens throughout Asia, and plenty of kings and queens through the Mideast.  Yet, I never hear any of these people running around talking about WE WUZ KINGS AND QUEENS. Now that I think about it, I don’t even think I’ve heard an African or a Caribbean knee grow saying that.  Maybe I have and I just forgot, who knows. What I’m saying is, the only group of people I ever hear saying WE WERE KINGS AND QUEENS are American blacks. That’s it. Nobody else says that but ADOS people. And like I said, I get it.  For some it’s probably just simply a term of endearment, but for others, it’s much more deeper than that. It’s like they’re trying to make it come off as their lost identity of sorts that they are legit trying to reclaim in the present. It’s like those hoteps who worship the hell out of ancient Egypt as if the glory from over 5000 years ago is about to somehow manifest itself into the present.

Knee grows love to say, “WE BUILT THIS WORLD! WE CREATED THE SCIENCES! WE TAUGHT DA WHITE MAN EVERYTHING HE KNOWS!”  Meanwhile, I’m like you didn’t do any of that shit. The ancients did that. Stop trying to culture vulture the ancients.  But for real though, what’s really sad is how black people will spend so much time in the past glorifying kings and queens and all of the marvels they were able to accomplish, but present day knee grows can’t seem to have that same energy towards building for the future.  Meaning, a random WE WUZ KINGS knee grow can sit around and marvel for hours on the ancients abilities to create and master mathematics and sciences which allowed for the ancients to erect monuments that have been around for thousands of years, but you can’t get these same knee grows of today to crack open a book in some STEM field which could possibly equip them with the knowledge to build future moments of sorts.

Colorism Cry Babies are the Worst in Black Society

You know who gets on my nerves the absolute worst out of all the different types of people in black society?  It’s the colorism cry babies. These people are absolutely annoying. Those of you who have been reading my blog for some time now are probably under the impression that either the pro-black babblers or Pookie and Rays Ray annoy me the most based upon the amount of content I’ve created about them. Well, you would be wrong my friend.  The colorism cry babies annoy the hell out of me the absolute most and this is probably why I don’t really make a lot of colorism blogs because I just can’t stand these people and their fake dark skin tears. And yes, I said dark skin tears b/c the colorism cry babies are damn near comprised of nothing but mainly dark skin knee grows crying online all day every single day about how they feel they are being mistreated by light skin people or they aren’t getting enough love from their dark skin male or female counterparts or how some colorism cry babies like to run around and champion that dark skin women be the standard for what constitutes black beauty. And oh yeah, here’s the latest I heard which I failed to mention in my previous blog about ADOS, I’ve even seen colorism cry babies crying about colorism in regards to this ADOS reparations discussion. And yes, the person giving the ADOS colorism commentary is a dark skin woman by the name of Chrissie who apparently leads the colorism cry babies out on these YouTube streets.

ADOS Can’t Even Get Black People On Code

As the message of ADOS has continued to get bigger, we’re seeing all of the reasons people are conjuring up.  You got the pan-Africanists versus ADOS, the pro-black babblers trying to rebrand ADOS under the name of Foundational Black Americans, and the other pro-black babblers talking about how ADOS is just a front for the LGBT movement.  There are people out there saying ADOS is the new Black Lives Matter & you got mainstream media bougie knee grows calling ADOS Russian bots. It’s just chaos out in these social media streets surrounding this ADOS reparations discussion. You would think black Americans who descended from slaves would ALL be in 100% agreement on some form of reparations being paid out. You would think that would be a complete no-brainer.  Apparently it’s not. And for that, you all can just add another check mark in the category for why black society will more than likely never get along to move forward. And you can also check off the category that black society is just doomed to be an utter failure overall.

Black People are Too Emotional to Be Taken Seriously

Black people are so easy to mess with and get upset. It doesn’t matter how many pictures of white people wearing blackface come out, or how many fashion designers designing suspect racist clothes, or how many random white people calling the cops over trivial b.s. videos come out, or how many random white people do some culture vulture stuff; black people react the exact same way each and every single time like clockwork.  Literally, each and every single time something “new” makes the rounds on social media, it’s like an automatic switch goes off in black people’s brains to cause them to uncontrollably react the exact same way each and time. Black people’s reactions are so predictable that it’s gotten to the point that I think white people are just legit trolling black people just to get a rise out of watching black people fly off the hinges every single day. What else could it be at this point? It reminds me of that one bully in school who keeps picking on that one kid every single day because that one kid never defends himself and just runs off to cry. At that point, the bully doesn’t even have to be physically abusive to the kid.  The bully could just walk up the kid and say BOO and the kid will run off uncontrollably crying because he’s been trained to do so. This is pretty much what’s taking place amongst black people these days on social media. White people are probably sitting around getting drunk and say, “HEY BUD! HOW MUCH YOU WANNA BET WE CAN GO VIRAL AND PISS BLACK PEOPLE OFF AT THE SAME!!” And like clockwork, black people’s feels fly all over the place. Another thing is, a lot of you all are under the belief that you think causing white people to go viral is going to permanently hurt them. No it’s not. If it was, then white people wouldn’t continue to do this stuff, but they do because there is a legit enjoyment in trolling black people in America because black people literally react the same way each and every time as if what they are seeing is the first time they have ever saw this thing.