ribbed for my pleasure

Ah, the marks I leave,  out of sight,  but deeper than bone.  No one who knew you before would recognize your submissive soul, no, not the pain,  not the joy,  not the fulfillment. 

I didn’t recognize it myself in the beginning.

It was only in the mirror of soft brown eyes that I saw my truest self.

At first I thought it was His doing. But now I know, I am just me. 

Submissive is who I am. Submission is what I have to give.

But the submissive has always been, seen or not.

Ideas and Tips

These tips may vary depending on what your sub likes/enjoys or doesnt like/enjoy.

Try taking these into consideration before anything else:

Always ask how they feel, does anything hurt?

Make sure they know they are safe and you care about them

Simply ask if they need anything, Reassurance? A glass of water? Cuddles?

Respect if your sub needs some space, doesn’t feel like talking, or just wants to sleep

After Care Ideas

• Holding/ Cuddling your sub

• Praising them: ex. ‘You were such a good girl’, ‘You did so well’

• Treating any wounds: ex. from spanking, rope burn, etc.

• Putting a cold/warm wet compress on any welts, cuts, or bruises

• Kissing any welts, cuts or bruises

• Running them a warm bubble bath

• Wrapping them into a warm fluffy blanket

• Massaging them

(w essential oils, sensitive skin lotions)

• Watching their favorite movies, shows

• Listening to their favorite music*

*preferably soft, calm music

• Giving them a treat they enjoy

• Carrying them where ever they might need to go

The Importance of Aftercare

Aftercare is not only very important but essential, for both vanilla and kinky sex.

Sub drop is how a sub might feel depression/anxiety or even considering their self worth after sex, especially BDSM/Hardcore Sex.

It is very important to be there for your sub as well as reassure them that they are safe, and you care for them.

This is also when you tend to any wounds that may have occurred during sex, like welts, bruises, cuts or rope burns.

DO NOT:

Immediately leave your sub alone or unattended to for an extended amount of time after sex! especially after hardcore/rough/bdsm sex scenes.

Leave any wounds received by the sub unattended to

Try to jump into some unrelated activities THAT CAN WAIT, without proper after care; ex. asking them to do chores, get ready to go grocery shopping.

Failure to comply with essential aftercare risks the trust you and your sub share and your subs mental security after sex,

Check out therapistaid.com. There’s worksheets there that you can download for free.

Of course it would be a lot more beneficial if you have a therapist to help you through it but not everyone has access to one.

It’s a free site where you can have free downloads of worksheets on many things.

If there’s something there that you think would be helpful, print it out and complete the worksheet on your own.

https://psychologytools.com/

https://www.getselfhelp.co.uk/

https://www.actmindfully.com.au/free_resources_worksheets,_handouts_and_book_chapters

https://www.anxietybc.com/

http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/resources/consumers.cfm

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“Sweetheart, you’re practically vibrating.  Tell me what you want.”

“Fuckkkk, fuckkk, GODDDDDDD FUCKKK.”

“That didn’t answer my question, sweetheart.  I’m going to ask you again.  And there better be a good answer or I’m going to sit in this little chair for an hour and let you think about how to answer properly.  So I’m going to tell you again and this is the last time.  TELL ME WHAT YOU WANT.”

“I WANT TO CUM, SIR.  I WANT TO FUCKING CUM.  PLEASE LET ME CUM.  I WANT TO CUM SO FUCKING BADLY.”

“Well, sweetheart, why don’t you cum then?”

“AHHHH FUCKKKK, FUCKK, I DON’T GET TO DECIDE, SIR!”

“That’s a good answer, sweetheart.  I’m going to make you a little deal.  If I let you, cum now, we keep the vibe in place for ten more minutes.  Is that clear?  We’ll use the flogger too.  The whole time.  Or you can keep the vibe on for one more minute.   But you don’t get to cum.  You’ll stay needy all night.  Which one do you choose?”

“OH FUCKKKK, SIR, GODDD, FUCKKK, PLEASE, SIR….”

“Since we’re having a problem listening and following instructions, it’s now going to be two minutes without cumming or twenty minutes if I let you cum.  When I ask you a question, I expect an answer, not your desperate begging.  Now, we’ll try it again.  Which is it?”

“SIR, PLEASE, I’LL CUM, SIR, I’LL CUM, PLEASE LET ME CUM, SIR.”

Apollonia Saintclair 716 - 20170319 Le désir secret (True love)