#4 !

Ummm, no excuse! I've just been making a multi-muse, and was planning on moving Alli and B over there! (I've also been working on a blog for a personal muse that I really love but that one is super private haha). Threads and stuff would still be continued over there!

This is a topic I don’t see many people talk about- in fact the last time I saw it before was from like... a friend a long time ago, but I think it still holds water even now.

Taking compliments.

Sometimes, it can be really hard to take a compliment. I don’t blame ya! Taking compliments can be a difficult thing to do sometimes. For whatever reason it may be. I know I do sometimes- because it feels like as though I don’t deserve them. But it can be a great thing to just accept them. Because even if you don’t care about how you feel, compliments do more than just effect you. They effect the person giving them to you as well. 

By being negative, you not only bring yourself down- but also the person that tried to give the compliment as well, even if you might not think that at first. It makes that person feel awkward, or guilty because they feel as though they’ve done something wrong by saying something- because they made you feel bad. Even if that wasn’t your goal with what you said. If you tell an RPer “Wow, you’re a really great writer!” and they respond with “No, I think I’m really bad at it compared to my peers”, that’s not going to make you feel very good, right?  That isn’t to say that receiving compliments should only be about how the other person feels, because it can be good to take a compliment! There shouldn’t be any stigma about being ‘selfish’ or ‘greedy’ because you get told you’re doing good at something. It’s alright to take a bit of pride in what you do, there’s no shame in being happy that you’re good at something. And sometimes that can be hard. Be it from anxiety, mental illnesses, or other things that make receiving compliments or feeling good difficult. And that’s absolutely understandable. But there’s nothing wrong with trying to be neutral about something. Even if you can’t be positive, it won’t do anyone any good by berating yourself. 

On that note, putting yourself down to make another person seem better isn’t really a good thing to do either! Stuff like “Wow, my art sucks. I wish I could draw as good as you can!” or “I don’t deserve to write with you- you’re such a great writer!” can often times feel alienating or guilt tripping to the person receiving them, even if that’s not the intention. It makes people feel bad about themselves- guilty that they can’t be good at something without tearing others down.  Would you rather hear “Wow! Your writing is really good! It makes me want to be better too!” or “Wow! You’re so much better than me! I don’t think I’ll ever be as good as you!” ?

i remember foolish–mortal used to have a theme like that! their theme blog is malefisensational but I think they only have themes you pay for.

Weird question, but I’m looking for a particular theme, and if someone could help me out?? That’d be awesome???

Before Neo even had so much as a CHANCE to stop her, his Dragapult had disappeared into NOTHINGNESS. AGAIN. It wasn’t only problematic because she worried him; it was more because he never knew where she was going to be. She could go anywhere she so pleased within only a number of seconds, as far as from one part of the region to another. He had NO IDEA how much potential she truly had to be a MENACE. 

But it was not currently Dragapult’s desire to cause any trouble. No — she sensed a child, and even better, she sensed that this child understood her GHOSTLY nature. 

Whether or not she would startle the young Gym Leader with her sudden appearance did not bother her; she thought nothing of it, and without a second thought, the Dragapult crept from her portal, spreading through the ground and covering it in DARKNESS, before letting out a CREEPY but SWEET growl before Allister. A toothy smile crept across her face as she moved close, only to frown as she sensed her trainer approach.

❝ OI, girl! Ya can’t keep running off like that! ❞

Dashing at a steady pace, Neo let out a frustrated HUFF as he came to his Pokémon, seeming to almost completely disregard Allister’s presence as he began to scold her. ❝ Ya scared the piss outta me, y’know! We talked about this! What if you go so far away that I can’t find ya ever again, huh? ❞

Dragapult let out a soft hiss in response, before gesturing her horned head in the direction of the Ghost-type Gym Leader. That finally brought Neo to understanding as to why she had run away from him. He perked up, giving the child a BRIGHT smile. ❝ Allister! ’M sorry if she caused ya any trouble! She must’ve scared ya, huh, lad? I’m real sorry about her — it’s her motherly instincts gettin’ a little out of control. ❞ 

The Pokémon let out a snarl, gently whacking her trainer with her translucent tail, which caused Neo to pout in her direction before continuing, ❝ She’s a fussy thing, but she’s taken a likin’ towards you ever since we first fought! Guess that’s why she must’ve run off… ❞

Allister liked to be alone. Which wasn’t a weird thought by any means, considering his background or history involving social interaction, but something that still managed to get people talking anyways. There was little error to be had when by himself. Less fear, paranoia; just him and his thoughts.  ...And Mikmikyu. Mimikyu too, because Gengar would be easily spotted by people that wandered a bit too far out from town, and that’s unnecessary attention he didn’t particularly want. Which was fine, because Mimikyu was a great talking partner- always could get what he was saying even if it wasn’t always said right.

His hair flickers quickly, and Mimikyu returns to his Pokeball with little hesitation. They were similar in that way- neither really liked interacting with others unless it was during a gym battle. And he waits, but it isn’t long before the perpetrator arises from the shadows created within the ground that sat under his feet. The sound of a Dragapult, unnatural and creeping ever slightly down the spine, in a delightful way that Allister can’t help but smile at. And reaches forward to give the newcomer a welcoming pat on the head-

Ironically enough, it’s more of the trainer’s yell rather than the Pokemon that scares Allister senseless. Hunching his shoulders in a vain attempt to hide himself from the sudden interruption, even if it was far away. It’s not an unfamiliar person that shows up- the ghost gym leader always remembers the face (or at least general body shape) of every person that chooses to enter his gym. The attention at being remembered himself however... is something he could certainly live without.

Allister never really traveled to other cities. There were a few meetings here and there in Wyndon and the like- but there wasn’t a real point to exploring places he didn’t particularly care about, at least in his opinion. All of the spooky and interesting antiques were already in Stow-on-side, and the Glimwood was right next to the city to begin with. 

Which is what made this visit to Spikemuth all the more... tiring. Mostly because he had walked there (he hated being in the air, Corvinights or not the fears of falling or wind or the height alone would cause a panic attack right in the taxi), but he never really heard much about this place to begin with. It was just ‘that one gym with the tall singing guy’ all the time, never really clicked in his head that it was a real location.  Not a bad location by any means, but just a far out one. In a way, Allister could respect it.

He was here now though- here with the new Gym Leader because he had to get to know a few more locations, a new requirement that they know all the locations to prevent anything like the gigamax terrors that had happened not too long ago, all that legal jargon he never really cared about. And maybe he just wanted to visit the dirty looking place at least once- it felt cozy in a way that wasn’t old and dusty. Allister liked it, a shame he hadn’t come by sooner. Oh, and maybe talk to the new Gym Leader a bit. She was a former challenger, good to see she hasn’t given up on her dreams of being the champ just yet. A good battler didn’t have to give up after one defeat- if that was the case the ghost trainer would have been out of a job at least a few times by now.