ProblemSponge

@brookietf @currently-the-illuminati @redroadtoadventure @between-stars-and-waves @sakura-fraust

‘no, my abuse made me a spineless jellyfish living in perpetual fear of standing up for myself, but thank you for framing that as a positive thing you like about me’

“I am a good person despite my abuse, not because of it”

Abuse made me hypersensitive to other people’s emotions while neglecting my own boundaries and comfort because I’m afraid of upsetting someone or having them lash out at me.

God that shit has always been a pet peeve of mine. Stop supporting ableist speech like this that actually just validates abusers and abuse. Don’t tell an abuse victim that their abuse experience made them kind. Don’t ever do that. You’re causing more harm for them psychologically.

my abuse made me a bitter asshole who is only kind to people who I feel are not shitheads

my abuse made me scared of speaking up and voicing even the slightest discomfort

My abuse made me scared to speak up, scared of saying no, when people raise their voice, having to constantly be aware of what I say or do so I don’t get yelled at again or worse. No, my abuse did not make me kind, I was kind before that. Now I put up walls and get scared that I’ve done something wrong.

People who have suffered significant trauma and abuse but are still kind are as such in spite of said abuse. Even those of have grown bitter because of it can still be kind, they just feel the need to defend themselves from anyone or anything who would try to take advantage.