Oceanic Enchantments

Ladies, always have your own income and skills and do not rely on a man, it is only a bonus.

Ladies, always have your own income and skills and do not rely on a man, it is only a bonus.

this post is going to be different because not only am i going to give some tips on how we can heal the relationship we have about our body but we are going to work on this by writing down how we feel so we can identify our emotions and thoughts in a better way and face what might be hurting us.

it's also a way to help us feel better about ourselves, release repressed emotions and feel like we are doing something for ourselves.

i have also done this exercise, in fact, i have created the questions myself and i find it very effective to put on paper what we feel so we can see it more clearly and solve it.

if you really want to improve your relationship with yourself and your body, it is important that you do it, preferably in a notebook. i'd like all of you to write me either in the comments or in the questions section about how you felt or if you noticed a change.

remember this is just an exercise, it will help you to release and feel better, it may cause discomfort, in fact you can repeat it as many times as you want.

in fact if you want i can bring more similar posts as i am healing and improving through this technique and so far i am doing very well so i want to share it with all of you.

healing my relationship with my body 🌿

what was it that marked me and made me not love my body?

(it could be something a person said to you, a situation...)

what is it that i don't like about myself and would like to change/improve?

(it can be a physical characteristic, but if it is something of your personality you can also add it, write everything you feel)

is what i don't like something that really makes me uncomfortable or is it due to something bad that someone told me or based on a standard of beauty?

what can i do to change that?

(what can you do right now to change that or what would help you feel better?)

what would my best version look like and what would she/he think of herself/himself?

(both internally and externally)

from now on i commit myself to be/do...

(a list of things you are really going to do from now on to get better, e.g., exercise, eat healthy, go to therapy, ignore what other people say about me, etc.)

ways to improve my relationship with my body 🌿

learn to love ourselves as we are at this moment in time

stop judging ourselves and being perfectionists

exercise

eat healthy food and take care of our nutrition.

forgive ourselves for the times we speak to or treat ourselves badly

do things that make us feel good every day.

not compare ourselves to other people

fill our minds with positive thoughts

talk to each other and treat each other with respect

highlight our positive things

keep working on ourselves with exercises similar to this one.

stay away from environments/people that support or perpetuate the obsessive idea of physical beauty or canons of beauty.

spend more time in real life than on social media

read books that support us in our process of growth and healing

the use of positive affirmations

Things to do in the heat of the moment

Think before you speak, to avoid saying something you'll regret later. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying something, and allow others in the situation to do the same.

Take a break and give yourself some time and space to cool down before you try to address the situation.

Things to do to calm down afterwards

Go for a walk.

Listen to some music.

Do some exercise.

Do something you enjoy, like painting.

Read a book.

Take a hot bath.

Treat yourself to your favourite food.

Watch a movie.

Things to do to fix the issue

Write it out. Writing down your thoughts and feelings can be a great way to release some of the tension and frustration you're feeling. Grab a notebook or journal and write down everything that's bothering you. You might find that putting your thoughts on paper helps you gain clarity and perspective on the situation.

Talk it out. Sometimes it can be helpful to talk to someone about what's bothering you. Reach out to a friend or family member who you trust and who can listen without judging. They might be able to offer you some advice or a different perspective on the situation.

Problem-solve. Once you've had some time to cool down and process your feelings, it's time to address the situation that made you feel angry or frustrated. Try to approach the situation with a problem-solving mindset. Identify the issue, brainstorm potential solutions, and evaluate the pros and cons of each option. Once you've come up with a plan, take action to address the situation and work towards a resolution.

Table of Contents:

Stop taking things personally

Seek clarity, not competition

(Calmly) Share your truth when necessary

De-escalate, disengage, and/or redirect the interaction.

How To Handle Insults & Rude People With Class:

Stop taking things personally. Other people's hostility is a coping mechanism for their lack of inner work and healing.

Seek clarity, not competition. Most of the time, people's insults are intentional. They usually want to get an emotional reaction out of you. They want to feed their ego and underlying needs for validation rather than seek to add value or facilitate connection through their words and conversations. Rather than get defensive, call out the behavior by asking the perpetrator of the negative comment to explain the implication of their statement. Play a little dumb and ask "What did you mean by that?" Allow those with bad intentions to tell on themselves. Most people with some degree of self-awareness will either try to gloss over and move on from their comment after seeing that you're too secure with yourself to entertain these low-value comments. Individuals who use this desire for clarity as an opportunity to overexplain their rude commentary almost always tell on themselves – their motives, insecurities, and deep need for self-acceptance and social validation.

(Calmly) Share your truth when necessary. If someone is trying to spread lies about you, discredit your reputation, or defame your character, state the facts about the situation without bringing emotions into the discussion or conflict. Remember: Remaining unbothered does not equate to being a doormat. Stand up for yourself –speak using a neutral tone and only state facts about yourself, your actions, conversations, or any logistics related to the given situation. Do not make accusations or assumptions about the person or the rude commentary they've made. Present their words and actions in a clinical, matter-of-fact manner to show the faulty of their logic rather than firing back with an equally-detrimental attempt to defame their character or give them the social spotlight and attention they're looking for in the moment.

De-escalate, disengage, and/or redirect the interaction. Don't allow their rude behavior to affect your external presence. Try your absolute best to not appear frustrated, raise your voice, or throw back any negative comments. Agree to disagree. Express the pettiness of this conflict. Either walk away or move on to another topic of conversation. Remind yourself that you're dealing with a wounded person. Feeding into their rude commentary is only deepening the cracks and encouraging these negative patterns of behavior.