“queer” is such a useless term. if i tell someone im bisexual, they know i am attracted to men and women. if a man tells me he is gay, i know he is a man exclusively attracted to other men. if someone tells me they are queer, it tells me nothing about them. it doesnt tell me who they attracted to. it tells me nothing about that person.
It tells me they’re trying to be a extra lil bitch and that I shouldn’t be friends with them
No, you probably shouldn’t, for their sake.
yall realise thats exactly the point, right
queer covers everyone who is noncis or nonstraight
it covers the identities you want to erase or disallow from the community
it doesn’t immediately tell you private information about someone’s sexuality or gender that you aren’t entitled to
and the person in question may not even know themselves, but queer is what they know they can always use if they’re not sure except they know theyre definitely not cis/straight
you hate it because it’s too inclusive and too broad. It’s supposed to be inclusive and broad. If someone tells you they’re queer then all you need to know is that they are in some way not cis or straight and other than that it aint your business. If being told someone’s identity is none of your business pisses you off, thats a you problem
I use queer because all the common labels don’t quite fit me and I’m also unsure of specifics. But I know I am not cis and that I am not straight. Like yes I could, and sometimes I do, identify as gay or bisexual, but it doesn’t fully fit me. Queer fully fits me. It allows me to be myself with all the messiness and questions and unknowns that are part of my gender and sexuality. I am queer.
Telling someone I am queer says more about me than some other identity that is a lie or only a partial truth. If someone actually wants to know more, and I feel I am safe, I will tell them more. Not everyone actually cares enough about listing to my big complicated explanation with all the details that don’t fit into the popular labels. And that’s okay, saying queer is enough and is the truth. Plus I just don’t need to explain things even if someone does care and it is safe. You can call me an extra lil bitch but I’m just being authentically me and allowing others that opportunity and inclusivity that the identities lesbian, gay and bisexual cannot give everyone. At least I am not telling others what they can identify as.
“You don’t know who they’re attracted to”. Why the fuck is that pertinent to you. If it tells you nothing about that person, you could probably spend a bit of time talking to them so to know them better as a person. As if we aren’t multifaceted and complex.
