Edging 101 - Why You Should Edge
This post is in response to a few questions I’ve received on my blog. I’ve taken inspiration from a great post @littlemisssubshine made on orgasm denial, which is well worth reading. As I focus more on edging rather than denial, I think there’s room for both posts. If you’ve ever wondered why you should try edging, read on..
What is Edging?
Edging is where you’re deeply aroused and close to cumming, but you hold back before you orgasm. It can be done physically with fingers/toys/another person, or mentally, with porn/audio/erotic stories. The idea is you overwhelm yourself to the point of near sexual release, without going over the edge and experiencing any refractory period, drop in pleasure or sensitivity, allowing you to build and build your excitement and enjoying your constant arousal and lust. To enjoy an edging session, you’ll have to let your arousal wind down a little after reaching the edge before bringing it back up again. There is no hard and fast rule as to how long you should take between edges. You can wait seconds, minutes, hours (going about your day before continuing), or just maintaining your level of stimulation to keep on the edge, without tipping over and accidentally cumming.
Edging broadly be broken down into:
Soft Edging
Holding back at the first hint, or “Echo” of an orgasm, by removing all stimulation. This is better for those who have tried edging before and struggled to stop themselves from accidentally cumming. Depending on how well you know your body, you might not be able to feel the signals that you’re getting too close, and stopping at the first sign will allow you to build back up after.
This isn’t a bad thing, as this means you’re clearly in touch with your body and know how to give yourself pleasure, which is very important later on. Starting here and learning to edge like this will let you learn to listen to your pussy and allow you to change how you play, knowing when you can play for longer to increase your pleasure, or when you’re too close and risking tipping over. Every woman I’ve taught how to edge who struggled at first, started here, and all have been able to progress to hard edging.
Hard Edging
Letting yourself continue well beyond that first tremor, right up until you feel like the slightest extra rub will send you crashing into an orgasm, and holding back at that point. This is better for those who have edged before as being at “The Edge” can feel like walking a tightrope, where the slightest misstep can send you over. After edging a few times, you have a greater sense of what your body is telling you, and that tightrope becomes a plank, which over time becomes a field, allowing you more room to play, to know precisely how much you can enjoy.
This is the method for how you’re able to fully explore every corner of edging and how much stimulation you can give your body, and how people who REALLY enjoy it, get so much pleasure out of it.
Why do people who like it, enjoy it so much?
This is the question I’ve been asked the most since starting this blog, from people who can see edging/gooning blogs with posts about how “Dumb”, “Blank” and “Edged” the owners are, babbling about how good they feel. 1 - When you edge for a while your body releases dopamine, the feel-good endorphin. While you’re rubbing and squirming away, your brain starts releasing this in anticipation of the orgasm it doesn’t know you’re not-ready-to-give-it yet, and this is where the “Dumb/Blank” feeling comes from. Imagine the feeling when you’re close to cumming and your whole body is in desperation, and you’re about to tip over, but stretched out for as long as you want it.. The longer you spend on the edge, the more dopamine is released, leaving you swimming in this blissed-out feeling. If you’ve ever had mind blowing sex where you’re left unable to think afterwards, just floating there, ready to drift off and sleep, THIS is that same feeling x 1000, as you’re able to control how intense it is and how long you can experience it for.
2 - You’re able to incorporate as many toys and parts of your body as you enjoy playing with. If you enjoy a plug in your arse while getting fucked, but only masturbate with a rabbit vibrator, imagine how good it would feel edging with your plug in at the same time, that fullness bringing a new dimension to how it all feels, increasing the sensitivity of your body. It can also be fun to see how overstimulated you get without tipping over, with a toy in your arse, your pussy, on your clit and even on your nipples. However, just like you wouldn’t masturbate by immediately putting you wand on your clit on the highest setting and need to nurture and build up your pleasure, over-stimulation doesn’t get you as satisfied and deep in that edged headspace as other things can.. As there are simple ways of building up separate orgasms at the same time using different toys on different parts of the body, building to the edge of those different orgasms at the same time and edging them together brings an even GREATER dopamine reward, which feels even better due to stimulating mulitple erogenous zones at the same time. This is what my posts on Stacking Edges cover.
The Biggest Reason you Should Edge at Least Once
3 - It makes your orgasms MUCH more powerful. The biggest misconception with edging is that it’s all about denial, and never cumming again. I disagree. For me, edging is ALL about the orgasm. Edging makes your eventual orgasm feel better with much harder contractions, due to your clit being all swollen and sensitive due to playing so long, your pussy being so wet, and the psychological factors of teasing yourself, all coupled with that dopamine reward. It’s true that edging regularly and not cumming after will let you get even deeper into your edged-out headspace every time, but this isn’t for everyone, and doesn’t mean that those girls who love to cum should be deprived. When you’re ready to cum, the orgasm will be far more intense than a regular orgasm. Even reaching the edge and holding back once before allowing yourself to cum will result in a better orgasm. But, trying all these new ways to edge and letting yourself cum after each one results in bigger and more intense orgasms, so what have you got to lose?
Next time, I’ll give some edging tips.
