Simone de Beauvoir, from The Woman Destroyed; “The Woman Destroyed”

Thank you so much for answering the atauen conjunct SouthNode ask. I loved the bit about the saturn person learning by example and this not being a subtle since South node behaviors can sometimes be a visceral reaction to things 😱💖

If it's not too much could you also talk about Mars conjunct north node in synastry and how both people would view the other?

Hi! Sorry it took a bit to get to this ask again. Thank you so much, I'm glad you enjoyed it :). Absolutely I can talk about that!

Mars conjunct North Node in Synastry

Mars, as I'm sure we all know, is about primal needs and urges. It's fast paced and raw. Anger, motivation, drive, all these things are covered by Mars. North Node (in short) is sort of the main, big life lesson we learn in this life. What we will master. The lesson(s) taught by our North Node carry onto future lives, and so on.

With Mars and North Node being conjunct, the NN person may be learning something from the Mars person. Definitely not the whole lesson, because North Node is more of an over-your-whole-life lesson, but the Mars person may play a role, or serve as a catalyst for this lesson. The Mars person expresses their more raw, impulsive desires and urges in the way that the NN person needs to learn how to. The NN person may find the Mars person's way of looking at life very interesting. Possibly causes some conflict because the NN person simply doesn't understand how the Mars person could behave this way, it frustrates them. But nothing the couple can't work through with proper communication, obviously. The Mars person may struggle because they may feel these particular needs aren't being met. Or their arguments/fights/disagreements never truly resolve because they really struggle to agree on a solution. I definitely wouldn't call this a bad placement, but I would say it's potentially challenging depending on the rest of their synastry and the signs in Mars/North Node. A lot of communication is required.

On a more positive note, the NN person may find the Mars person incredibly inspiring and motivational. Almost idealising them and their achievements a bit. Very cute.

Medea’s Reasons by Salma Deera 

I don’t like to get involved in online discourse. People are allowed to have their own opinions and I’m not going to waste my time in this life trying to sway people’s opinions to my own. However, I will say this. Unless someone is actively spreading hate speech and rhetoric that seeks to harm or degrade others, the best thing you can do is not engage. If you don’t agree with a take and can’t bring yourself to ignore it and move on, feel free to ask a person why they think the way they do about a certain topic. Personally, I would be absolutely willing to have a conversation with someone who says “can you explain to me where you’re coming from with this?” than “gross. I hate this.” You might actually find some common ground! But I suppose people quick to comment with negativity aren’t really in the “open-mindedness” stage of their lives. 

In any case, my two illustrations for Salma Deera’s poem “Medea’s Reasons” are probably the works I get the most negative response to online. Again, everyone is entitled to their opinion, but I saw @adriftamidthestars wonderful tags on my post and the fact that they were talking about this in their classics class. It’s important to note that the sympathetic view of Medea isn’t a take from terminally online leftist feminists, it’s just kind…of how the classics are objectively interpreted based on the texts. Their tags motivated me to further go into Medea’s reasons. Both in the context of the Salma Deera poem and her character within classical literature. 

I don’t expect people to be won over by this, but I do encourage anyone who doesn’t understand the poem based on their perceptions of Medea to read this and take from it what you will. 

Popular Loner Placements

That's why I'd rather be a loner

Yeah I'd rather be alone

I don't even want to know ya

I don't want to be known

11H Mars/Aries

Individuals with Mars or Aries in the 11th house may attract friends who are competitive, potentially leading to hidden rivalries. They might face sabotage or undermining behavior from their community and social groups. However, on the positive side, these individuals often emerge as leaders and are known for their innovative ideas.

11H Pluto/Scorpio

Individuals with Pluto or Scorpio in the 11th house may attract deceptive people and experience frequent betrayal. Their intensity and passion draw others in, with some even seeking to possess them. They often prefer solitude, allowing themselves the space to process their emotions, as they tend to absorb a great deal of emotional energy from those around them.

7H Uranus/Aquarius-

Individuals with Uranus or Aquarius in the 7th house are unconventional in their relationships, whether platonic or romantic, often challenging cultural norms and marching to the beat of their own drum. While people are drawn to their uniqueness, they can also be repelled by their lack of conformity. This dynamic may attract individuals who aspire to be like them but don't actually like them.

Aquarius Rising-

They are one of the rarest rising signs, alongside Aries and Pisces. Those with Aqua AC often attract attention due to their uniqueness and unconventional mindset. However, they may also experience feelings of isolation and misunderstanding, as they are often viewed more as a spectacle than as complete individuals.

Cancer Rising-

They tend to be reserved, often taking time to open up. Their nurturing and empathetic nature draws people in, but their occasional aloofness can be perplexing to others. As a cardinal sign, they naturally exhibit leadership qualities, yet they are selective about who they allow into their emotional world. This mystery can make them even more fascinating and desirable to those around them.

Scorpio Rising-

They are magnetic and alluring, exuding an intense aura that captivates those around them. Their mysterious and secretive nature keeps others intrigued and often obsessed with what they are up to. They are selective about who gains access to their inner world, with most people only able to view them from the outside looking in. You will probably never truly know a Scorpio rising.

Honorable Mention-

Always. Continuously. With increasing apprehension, and decreasing hope.

saturn delays but doesn’t deny

saturn delays but doesn’t deny

saturn delays but doesn’t deny

But also...

💡These people need space, liberty and independence in relationships

✈️Have TONS of personal magnetism, people are drawn to them like moths to a flame

💡Need a lot of room in relationships, some might even have ‘open’ relationships

✈️ Might be more likely to have a same sex relationship or at least are more accepting of them

💡They don’t want to be forced into contracts in relationships (like marriage or anything binding). As long as both people want to be in the relationship that’s enough for them

✈️Need excitement in their relationships, boring repetitive relationships won’t work for these fellas

💡Might get themselves into complicated relations with the main problem being personal space (either from the Venus-Uranus person or their partner)

✈️ Can fall in love with people who are emotionally unavailable or who have emotional entanglement somewhere else

💡Those with the challenging aspects can find co-operating with people challenging

✈️ While others might try to fit in and change to create popularity and goodwill, these people will not. They see it as phoney and rebel against playing those types of games

💡In other words, being well/liked takes second place to being honest and authentic

✈️ not always honest about their emotions and often choose not to discuss their feelings or the motives behind their actions

💡Can be self/centered and willful (this might arise form them constantly battling or facing resistance from the outside world for their choice of partner, their appearance or anything else)

✈️ Their relationships tend to be stormy and erratic but also super exciting!

💡As soon as the relationship gets boring one of the partners usually leaves ✈️

✈️ Fall in and out of love SUPER EASILY

💡The tighter aspects are usually involved with someone unconventional and who they (privately) find exciting

✈️ Really values friendship. Might become friends before they move to a relationship

💡Can finds themselves in relationships where there is so much space and freedom (both partners following their own interests) that they grow further apart until there’s no relationship at all

✈️ Can be sensitive (and huffy) about being rejected. There’s usually an early experience of being cut off by someone they love. They have this expectations that affections can be turned off sharply at any minute

💡Usually these people have a unique way of dressing (it’s also usually highly personal and authentic!)

✈️Very strict (and inflexible) about their own ‘inner’ code

💡Some (especially the challenging aspects) can fear comprise, seeing it as a loss of themselves and their individuality

✈️ They don’t want to live the cookie cutter lifestyle and they aren’t afraid to shock people to do something original and authentic

💡Might have unique taste in materials (they don’t need a car, but they need that one specific item)

—based on people i’ve known and loved 

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one of the most important people in my life has venus in the 1st house and people just… have very intense reactions to them. like, they can’t just tolerate them, they either love them to death or absolutely hate them and make that hatred known. the thing about this venus is that it makes someone very desirable – they’re people persons, they love being around others and feel a strong need to communicate their ideas, beliefs, passions, and listen to other people talk as well because they’re a sucker for studying people. as in, they know there’s a lot to learn from others and they have really strong observational skills, their intelligence is criminally underrated. those who like them, fucking love them and want to constantly be around them (which can be a bit suffocating for the venus person) and even those who hate them can’t seem to be able to keep their names out of their mouths, lmfao. they do feed a lot off of validation from others (mostly due to deep-seated insecurities + fear of rejection) so they try hard to show off their talents, their personality, their skills. they can’t really exist in silence because they draw so much attention to themselves (and people often drag them into unnecessary drama), and because they feel such a strong need to help those around them. they’re also amazing storytellers, they really know how to charm people with their words. 

a friend of mine has her venus in the 2nd house and she really gives off sugar baby vibes, lmfao. older men are crazy about her and whoever meets her wants to spoil her. she gives off very innocent and sweet vibes and that adds to her appeal, although many people have tried taking advantage of that. as in, they use her compassion and empathy and ability to provide security for others, to be like a rock that’s there whenever you need her, so she’s often taken for granted. she’s very compassionate and shows that to literally everyone, which often leads to her feeling emotionally drained and needing to isolate herself to recharge + attracting emotional vampires that feed off of her difficulty in setting boundaries. she’s also often objectified - she’s very beautiful but has a very low self-esteem that incapacitates her from seeing it; she gets a lot of attention everywhere she goes, people turn their heads to look at her twice, strangers make conversation a lot of with her, and she also tends to get free stuff all the time. might i add – she used to be a literal model but stopped because it was a very toxic environment. she’s very charismatic and talented at dealing with people, she was elected the class representative and took it on herself to solve the problems of everyone in our class, wanting everyone to feel accepted, seen, and heard. 

i’ve been with someone who has his venus in the 3rd house, and people fell in love with his words. he wasn’t oblivious to it, he actually bragged a lot about how good he was with words and how he was able to sweet-talk someone into doing what he wanted. he was very communicative and valued solving all our problems through talking instead of ignoring it. people also fell in love with his intelligence, he was really thoughtful about any subject and loved having debates about it and people would get impressed with his analytical and rational mind, with his ease at making arguments and counter-arguments; with the way he had a really unique view on the world and his energy when talking. he was witty and just loved having fun in general, very open to making friends especially with powerful people. he valued a lot having new experiences and going to parties. he was also really loyal and constantly bragged about his friends, he talked about them like they were his family. compliments were literally his love language lmfao it doesn’t get more stereotypical than this, if he liked you he’d shower you with attention and praise all you do and he felt really confident when you’d compliment him back. he was like that one phrase “to know is to love” come to life because he placed a lot of importance on knowing all the details about you, having deep conversations, getting to know all your opinions and perspectives on every possible subject. 

one of my closest friends has his venus in the 4th house and, surprisingly, people fall in love with him after they fuck lmfao. i don’t know what it is about him but as soon as someone has sex with him, they become addicted and hold on to him with claws and teeth until he breaks their heart because, sadly, he’s awfully afraid of commitment. and i’ve been noticing this a lot with people with venus in the 4th house – you’d think venus in the house of family makes someone long to find their soulmate (and they do, deep down), but it’s like truthfully, they’re scared of actually finding it; so they leave after getting too serious in a relationship, perhaps due to a fear of intimacy even though they really crave stability. although, he’s very honest and values honor a lot, so he’s upfront about his intentions with someone… if he wants to fuck you only, you’ll know; if he wants to pursue a relationship with you, you’ll know. i think that’s why so many people are into him, he’s very assertive and goes for what he wants with no shame. he also is someone very reliable, especially with friends, whatever happens, you can count on him. he’s really a ride or die and is a very protective person so people feel safe around him; he’s also very family-oriented in the sense that he takes any of his connections very seriously, especially the one with his mother. he’s, like, the alpha in the wolf pack lmfao. 

two people in my friend group have venus in the 5th house, and might as well just call them genius masterminds. i swear, they have plans straight out of a movie. they can not and will not get bored because there’s always so much going on in their life. cue to harry potter saying “i don’t go looking for trouble, trouble usually finds me”. they lead very intense lives especially when it’s concerning their family and their relationships, but they still manage to make fun of the difficult stuff they go through. people fall in love with their laugh and their brilliant minds. like, these people are criminally intelligent and very much slytherins in the sense of being resourceful, cunning, with an ability to take a shitty situation to their advantage and to take advantage of every opportunity life presents them. they really give off main character vibes especially since they can’t fucking sit still for a moment, they always gotta be onto something. they’re very active and energetic and that type of energy is very addictive, they always know how to make someone have a good time around them. the problem is that some people might get too addicted to their energy and guilt-trip them into hanging out with them every day even when they don’t want to, draining their energies and making them feel like an animal caged up in a zoo there for other’s entertainment only. 

i’ve known someone who had their venus in the 6th house, and… venus in the 6th people are so fucking particular, they avoid telling you how they feel at all costs but show you in the tiniest, most indirect ways possible (like telling you good night every night, always taking time out of their busy schedules to talk with you, rearrange your hair when there’s a strand out of place) and swear they’re being obvious. it’s so funny, they make me feel like a detective trying to decipher their behavior. they can also be very territorial about whoever they like – at worst, they can be very controlling and overly possessive, at best, they’re just hot as fuck like i’m sorry please do attempt to claim me. i’ve noticed that people fall in love with their power. they exude a vibe that makes people afraid to fuck with them because they know it’ll have consequences. they’re just so commanding and act like they won’t tolerate any bullshit or no one trying to waste their time, they’re all for business. they also tend to look expensive as hell, they could be wearing something cheap out of bershka and still make it look regal and like you’d never afford it. they have really high standards so people try very hard to impress them (and fail most of the time lmfao) and get just one minute of their time. the person i knew literally had fangirls following them around in school and begging for their attention. their response? “oh, they are? i didn’t notice and quite frankly, i don’t care.” 

one of the most important milfs that went through my life had her venus in the 7th house, and people fell in love purely with her personality. no, i don’t think you understand how charming and funny she was. she was an amazing storyteller and had an infinite amount of stories about her life to tell, and it was impossible to ever get bored around her because she had so much to say. she was also very expressive in her way of speaking, and you could feel her emotions through her words. she had an awfully mischievous grin that made her look like she was always up to something and it was so funny. people would gather around her to her and pay close attention to what she would say next since she was so unpredictable. she could also be very diplomatic and persuade people to her side, whether in arguments or business matters. she placed a lot of importance on education and knowledge. another thing about her was that she was so secretive - and that’s something very few people caught on about her since she was so good at talking and told so many stories, but i did find her personality difficult to pinpoint because she would only open up about superficial matters. as in, she would tell a story of her as a teenager going to parties and shit, but whenever i’d ask her a more private matter like how she met her husband, she’d laugh and say “that one’s for me to know only.” it was very hard to get to know the real her under all the glamour and popularity. she also gave me the sense of someone sinking on their own sadness but she hid that at all costs in the name of being the sun that lights up the room. i don’t know, something in her eyes. 

my best friend has venus in the 8th house – she’s very, very selective about who she talks to and gives attention to very few people. she fears opening up and sex is a tricky subject for her because although she loves talking about sex, it’s very hard for her to trust someone enough to even consider letting them close to her. she fears betrayal, rejection. she likes keeping her circle close, which i think is a way for her to avoid having to go through the process of letting someone in. she’s also extremely loyal and very aware that few people deserve that loyalty – once she likes someone, she only sees that person and no one else. she really longs for a meaningful and intimate relationship. i feel like people fall in love with her after getting close to her, she’s a very thoughtful person with a strong personality and, once someone gets to experience her intensity, they’re addicted. no one ever says this about 8th placements but they’re fucking crackheads, they’re very lighthearted most of the time and just want to have fun and a good time, they can have the humor of a 5-year-old and people find that side of her very endearing; they fall in love with her humor and the way she’s so good-hearted even if she tries hiding that fact. she can’t help that she’s so genuine. might i add that she really has that scorpionic look, with thick dark hair and big, deep-set eyes and you can really read her every emotion on them. 

one of my friends has venus in the 9th house and she’s the funniest person ever. seriously, she’s the life of the party, always looking to crack a joke and the room doesn’t feel as lively without her. people fall in love with her unpredictability, her light-hearted nature and how she’s always looking for something to stimulate her mind, by learning and finding new places, new people to deepen her knowledge. one thing about her is that people tend to underestimate her a lot. just because she loves having fun and takes nothing seriously, they think it’s okay to try and mess with her, and then they regret that shit deeply because even if she rarely shows her serious and ruthless side… oh, it’s there and she will not hesitate (especially if you fuck with her friends). she also tends to suffer a lot in love because she’s looking for a serious relationship and to bond with someone, but people tend to objectify her and use her for her body. but she’s too elegant to let that show, she really knows how to hide her suffering under a bright smile. she’s a very supportive person and things always end up working for her because she has such a good heart (the people who do her dirty get so fucked by life later), and people tend to envy how she seems to have it all. they don’t notice how hard-working and ambitious she actually is. 

i have venus in the 10th house. people fall in love very easily with me, but it’s never actually with me because they don’t know me, they fall in love with my image. as in, people often approach me to tell me they fell in love at first sight with me just because they saw me on the bus or some shit, or they talk with me for 3 days and swear i’m the one when i haven’t revealed anything about me. men also tend to suffer from “i can fix her” when around me. it’s the effy stonem disease lmfao, they see me being pretty and fucked up and try to fix me, plus, i don’t do relationships so they always think they’re gonna be the one to “tame” me. i also give off very cold and unattainable vibes and the first thing people notice about me is how i’m hard to get so they often portray me as the forbidden fruit, someone they’re never gonna get but they still try. which makes me feel really objectified at times because it’s like…. you don’t know me, you don’t even try to know me, you just idealize me in your head and put me on a pedestal. which is why i think i have an aversion to love, most people don’t experience it; they experience infatuation and confuse it as being the same thing as love, and it’s too superficial for me. if you have your venus in the 10th house, chances are you’re very desirable and sought after but that has given you a very difficult relationship with the concept of love. 

if there’s anything about people with venus in the 11th house… they’re passionate. so passionate about anything that they believe in, and they make that very clear. they put a lot of importance on fighting for what’s right and for justice, so they get very emotionally involved in others’ problems, even if it doesn’t in any way benefit their own lives. and when i say this i don’t mean just getting involved in social causes and organizing charity events, i mean that they intuitively feel what’s wrong with the people they love and they don’t rest until there’s a solution. they’re masters at providing emotional comfort and bringing people together because they don’t believe in the differences between human beings, we’re all idiots going through the same shit called life. and that’s what people love so much about them: their tenacity, their drive, their ambition, their big dreams. their compassion for everyone’s problems, the glint in their eyes when they’re speaking about subjects ranging from animal cruelty to how wrong capitalism is lmfao, their need to feel passionate about everything. most of them have struggled with the loss of someone they loved and are now very aware of the need to live life to the fullest. these people also have a way of making someone they barely know feel like their best friend. 

VENUS SEXTILE LILITH

venus in aries: chase their taxi, board their train. indirect approaches will not work on this placement. speak your mind. as soon as you feel something, say it. this individual values honesty — bluntness even. kindness will also take you far in this connection, as it helps to soften the raw passion. impulse kisses, running through flower fields, making up adventures together as you go.

venus in taurus: ask them to read you one of their favorites stories, learn their history. pursuing this placement will usually take quite some time. what may feel like a solid relationship to you is actually just the foundation for a taurus venus. preparing a difficult recipe together, holding hands at the farmers market, sharing an umbrella.

venus in gemini: unleash your goofy side, show a genuine interest in their mind. this placement values a mental connection above all. they’ll fall for how you think, so try thinking out loud. they love a give-and-take connection, so always meet them halfway. phone calls that could go on forever, pinky promises on park benches, playful arguments for the sake of it.

venus in cancer: help them feel safe, remind them you’re there. this placement naturally craves security, and they’ll safeguard themselves in the right person’s heart. they usually decide if someone’s the right person based entirely on their intuition. cuddling during a classic adventure film, hanging on to little objects like movie tickets and fortune cookie messages, perfect hugs.

venus in leo: match their enthusiasm, let yourself be loud about your love. sometimes pursuing this placement can feel like a real-life romantic comedy. you may even question your sanity at some point. just stay consistent, and be vocal about the things that you love about them as an individual. dancing under a disco ball, showing up to a party together, passionate sunset kisses.

venus in virgo: make small and simple gestures, show them you’re improving yourself. this placement approaches love rather practically. cut the drivel. they really value someone who’s putting in the work on themselves. it’s also appreciated when you bring attention to their strengths. a peaceful picnic in a field, chatting about how the world works, critiquing each other’s hand-writing.

venus in libra: laugh readily, learn their favorite things, let them know you’re falling. loving this placement can feel magical. they value partnership to such a degree that will make one feel so special. return the feeling with your actions, but don’t forget to use your words. little compliments, tandem bicycles, matching bracelets, painting on each other’s skin.

venus in scorpio: share your secrets, discuss your daydreams. this placement is definitely all or nothing. commit yourself completely and deeply to this connection to make it last. they will likely show you their intensity early on to see if you can handle them as a lover. show them your dark side too. sexual tension, existential conversations on rooftops, revealing something you’ve never shown anyone.

venus in sagittarius: ask them to teach you their favorite philosophy, game, or skillset. also give them space, but don’t neglect them altogether. basically this placement wants to know they’re not the only source of your happiness. they’re rather independent, and even though they’re young at heart, they value a more mature-feeling connection. spinning through sprinklers until you’re dizzy and soaking wet, laughing until your abs hurt, nervously predicting the future.

venus in capricorn: be in it for the long haul, share your goals with them. this placement isn’t the type to take on a relationship for the fun of it. they appreciate someone with a long term mindset who has ambitions and drive. they typically want someone who can enhance their own life objectives, provide some structure, and support them if they ever need a safety net. dressing up for a date in the upscale uptown of the city, special anniversary traditions, planning out baby names earlier than typical.

venus in aquarius: good luck, you’ll need it. i’m half-joking, but this placement can be sort of difficult to get close to. honestly, the idea is to be completely yourself. they also tend to admire someone who has their life more together than they do, so maybe sort through your stuff before pursuing this placement. exchanging playlists on a late-night drive, wandering around a giant antique store, a quiet kiss on the cheek.